My husband and I think we're almost ready to start trying for our first baby. I'm in graduate school, though, to switch careers to become a teacher. Do you think I'd be better off having a baby while in graduate school (and possibly have to postpone student teaching for a semester) or wait until I finish school and postpone becoming a teacher?
My husband and I have been married for a year, living together for two before getting married, and dating for three before that. I'll be 29 by the time I finish school, and we do want two or three children.
2007-03-26 05:29:37 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
postponing for a semester is really not a big deal.
also when you start trying to concieve its not like you get pregnat right away,....... it can take up to a year for some people ...
just start trying to concieve now, and you will either end up finish grad school and then giving birth.... or the other scenario where there a semester postponment,... that is reallynot that long at. all
2007-03-26 05:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being that you're a student now and going into education, if you time it right you won't have to put off much at all. If you have the baby in the summer (perhaps if you are pregnant during your student teaching you can get it done a little early that semestser), then you'll have several months with the little one before you go to start work. This is of course based on the premise that you don't want to stay home for say, the entire first year or something. All of this scenarios are of course contingent upon a healthy and routine pregnancy, which I wish you! Good luck to you both!
2007-03-26 05:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by rumezzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't put it off (having a baby). This will sound like I am bragging, but I'm just trying to tell you that it's possible, even though most people say that it isn't and give you the whole "you can't do it all" speech. My husband and I had our daughter while I was in grad school. I was 23. However, during the pregnancy, we moved 3 hours away from where I went to school for his job. So, I drove down every week and stayed with friends. I was due during my last set of finals. I stopped making the commute with 3 or 4 weeks left and did the work from home. I had our daughter on the day of one of my finals. Of course, I still had to finish my thesis 3 hours away while working full time (we wouldn't eat or have electricity if I didn't work, literally). What you'll find is many professors will work with you. For instance, mine let me take finals a little late and let me work from home the last month. They also met with me on weekends for thesis stuff so I didn't have to take off work. My supervising professor even let me maintain my grad assistantship even though I wouldn't be nearly as available as other students would be. This is especially true if you are a good student. There was another student who became pregnant (not on purpose) in grad school. She scheduled to be induced a few weeks before finals so her childbirth didn't interfere with school. Yeah. When she told the professor that, he said, "what? why? we'd work it out." It was hard, but worth it. I caught a lot of criticism when I said I was pregnant. Other students would say, "oh, no". When I said it was planned, they acted like I was crazy. Some said, "do you know what you're getting yourself into?" When people say stuff like that to you, just smile and tell them how happy you are with the decision. They just don't understand. It's totally worth it. You get less sleep, but it's fine. If your husband is willing to help, it's totally workable. Best of luck to you!!!!
2007-03-26 05:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get pregnant a few moths before you get out of school and do your student teaching. You should have plenty of time, Then wait to start teaching. By the time you have the baby there will be less time between student teaching and your teaching career. It will be eaiser then. And you might be able to find daycare through the school district that will cost less/ or not at all.
2007-03-26 05:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by H57heiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait because if you and your husband are ever in need for money all you'll have to do is get a job and not go back to school and get a job
2007-04-01 06:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by baby2love95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Dont have it while youre in school. I just went to my brothers graduation and he graduated with a girl who was due the NEXT DAY and they were just praying she wouldnt have it yet. Plus it would be pretty har djust having to go to aschool everyday youd be cranky and bla bla bla. You should wait after you graduate. But it wouldnt matter if you got pregnant. My teacher in 3rd grade got pregnant and she was allowed to take off, and she could take her baby to school.
2007-03-26 05:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i say let nature take its coarse you won't get pregnant the first time you have unprotected sex. ( at least its unlikly that you will) it can take months of trying before you get pregnant or it can take one month. you never know. i say start now.
2007-03-26 05:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should wait until you finish.
2007-03-26 05:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can do it while your in school. although you really will have to make an extra effort to pay attention to your studies. i know people that have.
2007-03-26 05:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋