My boyfirend and I have been together four 4 years and lived together for about 3 of those years. I love him so much but at the same time I feel like all we do is joke around with each other, never serious or important conversations, bedroom activites have been limited to a few times a week, and he has no drive to change things (ie go to school, get a better job, imporve the relationship etc) I feel like a possible break might be the best option for us. We are both in our early 20's and I think we both really need to focus on ourselves right now (ie.school, friends being young) I still want him in my life and could see myself marrying him one day, but i feel like i found him too early in my life (16). We never fight and have never broken up or taken a break. Would it be a bad idea to take a break for awhile?
2007-03-26 05:28:23 · 7 answers · asked by Sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you have plans to get married at this time? If not, separate living arrangements would be a good idea.
2007-03-26 05:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are valid...it is natural to feel that you need to focus on school and friends at this point in your life and it is indeed important. You know you dont want to have any regrets or hold any contempt towards your boyfriend in the future. I have ended a four year relationship at 21 and a three year at 25 for these same reasons. I can only speak from experience....but things do change....fast. Priorities will start to shift, right now friends and family will encourage you to experience things and not to settle down too fast at this point in your life...they are right. BUT you two have something special and what you guys have now will become so much more of a priority in the future. In time finding someone who you can really spend time with becomes so much more important. You learn that every relationship will have its difficulties but if the love is there you can get through anything. You need to be honest with your boyfriend...totally honest, tell him all of your concerns. If he truly wants the best for the both of you he will listen to these concerns. I cant say if you should break or stay together but i can tell you that if it was meant to be it will be. Could be days, weeks, months or years...if there is something better out there for either of you then you may never get back together...but in that case you should not be...if there is nothing better out there for either of you, you will be stronger for it. Please beware that break ups can change things though, there are a lot of emotions involved in ending a long term relationship a lot of change and often times things can be permanently damaged.
Stay positive always! My heart goes out to ya!
2007-03-28 12:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always wondered why a girl would move in with a guy just so he could have easy access to "it" when ever he wanted. Your parents must be so proud. You are right you need to work on yourself. And you are right your bf is a lazy slob, but boy it sure has worked for him up to this point hasn't it. Don't be surprised if another bimbo moves in right after you move out. There doesn't seem to be a shortage of loose moral woman around now days.
2007-03-26 12:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. come to think of it, if you already found your perfect man, then why are you thinking twice of letting him go. do not take advantage of him, if you break up with him today, he might find another girl better than you tomorrow. love like you're never going to love again.
what you need is a serious talk with him, try asking him of what his plans are in life. there's nothing wrong if you met the man too early, if that's what you two are destined to have and be it.
2007-03-26 12:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hopefully u've heard that time changes nothing. you can take the break but things will be the same. if he doesnt wanna do ne thing with his life then u should think hard. if he doesnt do n e thing in his life u will be the only one who has to take care of ur future familly.......my answer is either stay with him or just leave him
2007-03-26 12:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by Heer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You found him young... he is just immature. Women mature before men. Men are innocent (are they ever??) at their early ages...
Keep him. Men are @$$es when they are older. You can make this one from scratch. Just start telling him what to do. He's like a Mr. Potato Head or a Mannequin. You can turn him into whatever you want.
2007-03-26 12:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by Just A Newbie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have an affair. Make him appreciate you more.
May make him change.
2007-03-26 12:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mister Man 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋