How do I know or find out if my wife is cheating besides asking her, if i already attempted to ask her?

Question

WHAT SIGNS DO I LOOK FOR AND HOW WOULD I GO ABOUT FINDING OUT FOR SURE. I TRYED TO CONFRONT HER ABOUT IT, BUT SHE BECAME VERY ANGRY TO THE POINT WHERE SHE STARTED SCREAMING AT ME, FOR ACCUSING HER OF SUCH THINGS.

Answer 1

Here are signs:

Grooming habits changed
Change in sex life
Change in attire
New private cellular phone
Longer than normal trips to the store
Unexplained scratches or bruises
Deletes phone calls from the caller ID
Spending money on new clothes
Appears bored with you, the kids or life as a whole
Longer hours at work or school
Wants to do more things alone
Picks a fight for no apparent reason
You just have a feeling that something is wrong
Quits wearing a wedding ring
Lose of attention to activities at home
Strange calls that hang up if you answer
lipstick on the collar
Smell of cologne or perfume that's not yours
New phone numbers or addresses
Condoms
Spends time on the computer when you sleep
Uses a prepaid calling card
Unexplained withdraws from the bank
Gets defensive if you mention infidelity
Misses family functions / disappears for long periods
Missing underwear from the laundry
Locked areas where and you don't have keys
Tells you they just need "a little space".

Answer 2

Gabriel: As a professional interviewer, you should be aware that when asked to confess to a crime, if the person did not commit the crime, then they wil become angry, and get slowly more angry the more you talk about it. If they cool off quickly and seem collected at any point then it's a good bet that they did it and were just acting angry because they thought they should (to look innocent). The guilty also ascend to screaming and anger more quickly, peak more quickly and drop off to cool more quickly. So think about your interaction with your wife. Did she get disproportionately angry to the questions being asked? Did her volume and anger peak quickly, as though she were attempting to end the conversation right then? Did she calm down quickly afterwards and try to turn it around on you?

Answer 3

Hey hon. I'm sorry you have this on your hands. Ugh!

Here's the scoop: 9 times out of 10 if you THINK your spouse is cheating...They are.
Secondly: I think you've already received your answer.

The screaming fit thrown at you was Standard Operating Procedure for someone caught in a world of trouble. There was nothing she could calmly say to defend her self or her actions, so...

She blew her top at YOU to get all the attention off of HER. If she's screaming and angry at you for being so insensitive, or foolish, or whatever, then there probably wasn't a whole of "discussion" over whether or not she actually did cheat on you.

I'm very, very sorry.
Trust your gut - it's why God gave it to you.

Answer 4

Look for signs such as secretiveness, often being unavailable (even by cell), strange calls, hang-ups, withdrawing from you or overly compensating, etc.

Her freaking out on you means nothing....either she's pissed because she is innocent or she's pissed because she's about to get caught. Follow her...check her emails, cell phone or have a friend help you. This is a slippery slope because if you do all this and she ends up being innocent, you will look like the ***.

Answer 5

Try to have a look at her mobile phone, or turn up unnanounced and surprise her? Trust your instincts.

That is assuming that you have genuine reason to suspect her cheating and are not just being paranoid, if you are I would understand why she got so angry. But if she has already made you suspicious, flying off the handle like that could be a sign of her guilt..

Answer 6

1. follow her or have her followed.
2. since you asked and she freaked out, don't ask or say anything just relax and see what happens.
3. If you feel in your heart she is cheating most likely she truly is, sorry.
4. when she is in the shower-check her cell phone, check the redial button on your home phone, check the computer (history) and check her purse for evidence. I know it is sneaky but she is possibly being sneaky to and you need to know.
5. If all that doesn't work hire a detective and catch her if there is something to catch her in.
6. If you have a credit card, check that too and if you two have separate cars, check her mileage and see if she is going somewhere she shouldn't be-far away that is.

Answer 7

It's not easy to catch a cheater...they won't admit to it if you ask them. But the fact that she became defensive should be a huge red flag to you. Also look for a change in her normal daily pattern -has it changed? Is she being evasive? is she trying to hide things from you (such as phone conversations and email, texts, etc). Having said that, you could always go to the extreme of hiring a private investigator. Trust your gut.

Answer 8

i don't want to laugh at your situation, it sounds like maybe things are not going well, that to me is a sign of something, if she isn't cheating, then you two still have issues that need talked about. but if you just want to find out, then, when she comes home, check her out, just try to make love with her, and smell her, be sure not to let her shower or anything first, i think you could tell another man has been "with her" by the smell. good luck.

Answer 9

Hire a private dick to follow her around and have him videotape her after she emerges from her latest sex romp with Mario the pool boy. As for the signs? Oh jeez.... splooge (third try, tough censors) on her face, used rubbers in her car, all of a sudden she starts doing enemas before heading out for the evening, stuff like that.

Answer 10

Follow her or have her followed. Make sure you take something like a camera or a camcorder to get the proof you need when you confront her. Good luck.