I sure hope so. She does seem to appreciate me more these days. She seems happier and tells me she loves more now that we have this arrangement. However, I am concerned about her long term feelings. Do you think she will stay true to me?
2007-03-26 05:19:28 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FYI- I have a health condition that rendered me impotent. My wife is very sexual. I gave her the green light for sex only.
2007-03-26 05:25:20 · update #1
Dude.............you are in SO much trouble...............
2007-03-26 05:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all seriousness, you should have never opened that door to allowing your WIFE to be with another man. There are other things that the TWO OF YOU can do, as husband and wife, for each other to make things intimate. There is no way that she is going to separate sex from love either. Once you start having sex with someone enough feelings start to change and obviously a relationship is formed.
This is a real mess now and you should put a stop to this immediately and have a talk with her about this issue and explain how you messed up and should have given her the green light in the first place. You have to put a stop to it though and remember that when you do she might be upset but things will get worse before they can now get better.
2007-03-26 05:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by benz s55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though I understand your reasoning for doing this, letting her have sex with another guy to fulfill the physical part. Sex for women is more about emotions than physical connection. If she continues seeing other men, especially one man repeatedly, she WILL develop feelings for him and her feelings for you will dwindle. Instead of being "in love" with you, she'll simply "love" you and that is not the same thing. If you can handle that, then keep doing what you are doing. But if not, then she agreed to marry you for better or worse, sickness and health. She shouldn't be allowed to have an "out". Good luck.
2007-03-26 06:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you are playing with fire and going to get burnt. You have given your wife the green light to have affairs on you and your okay with that? Do you recall your wedding vows? If she is having sex with other people or even with just one other person eventually she is going to start having feelings for these people. I would suggest you stop this "arrangement" you have agreed upon and try something else.
2007-03-26 06:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my vows I promised to stay with my spouse in sickness and health. I don't know why you would want a woman who openly cheats. Even if my wife offered me the opportunity I would remain faithful to her without sex. Your wife is very selfish for actually taking you up on your offer, an offer you should have never made in the first place. She has broken your marriage vows. I think divorce is the only answer.
2007-03-26 05:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she will not last long. And when you are single and divorced and want to marry a decent girl, get in touch with me and I can hook you up with girls who last lifetimes!!!
Having sex outside of marriage is sin, second she is using you to have sex with all those men, and you know what?
You have insecure feelings of insecurity and inferior feelings that you allow that woman to sleep around which is in other terms called as a w h o r ee.
I am sorry for you and I kinda feel sad that though you cannot have sex atleast you have love in your heart and a woman who abuses that is of the worst kind.
I wish you luck and please tell me what happens. I am so curious !
regards
2007-03-27 04:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say. If she's expanding the field then there is lots more room for a foul play. Seems to me it depends on how good you are handling it. Most people see the "green-eyed" monster. Are you a jealous type cuz you may find soon that you really aren't okay with it and one of you, if not both will stray. If she's playing then she isn't staying true to you.Too late!
2007-03-26 05:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very thoughtful of you. Why don't you make her even more happy by telling her it's fine if she brings her stud lover to your home on the weekends instead of her having to leave the house? After all, it's your fault she must go elsewhere for sexual gratification. I don't think she should have to leave the house to obtain it. Isn't there a spare bedroom or couch you could stay on while her stud lover is over on the weekends? To show her you truely care, after he leaves on Sunday, you should offer to wash the bedsheets and towels.
2007-03-26 06:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't think her feelings will remain "uninvolved" should she continue with this type of arrangement. Apparently, she already had someone all lined up?!?!?!?
There are ways to have intimacy even when a man is impotent. Please reconsider your decision as this type of behavior will lead to divorce, no doubt in my mind. Hurt and resentfulness will come out of it should it continue.
2007-03-26 05:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love comes natural there' s no arrangements!!! oh yeah ill do you this wekend...you ask this question because u know its not real love...no i dont think she will stay true to you, but you sound like you are a great guy!!! find someone that will want you on the week days!!!!!
2007-03-26 05:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel<3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that the arrangement is she can screw other guys but still be married to you and have security? Your crazy. That's not love... that's selfishness in its purest form. You need some self respect.
2007-03-26 05:24:44 · answer #11 · answered by thrylz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋