2007-03-26 05:14:08 · 20 answers · asked by scareymiss 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Keep doing what you are doing. You can be mean to me anytime.
2007-03-26 08:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some therapy there darlin.
Sounds like you have control issues along with anger issues and intimacy issues.
Seek help!
Seriously, congnitive therapy along with good old fashioned psycho-therapy would do you a world of good! They'll help you recognize your triggers, recognize where and when you actually choose to be mean and how to change your reactions in those situations.
You'll also learn the root of why you react that way and help to resovle the issues which caused it in the first place.
2007-03-26 15:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest cognitive coping skills therapy. Likely you're compulsive meanness is a learned behavior pattern, but the good news is that you can change this pattern and improve your relationships by spending some time looking at the sources of the patterns and ways to slow down your response times and make better choices. In other words, you just need to add love and stir!
2007-03-26 12:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to have the same problem. First I will say that it's not easy, but when you start doing it you feel soo good.
The first thing is that sometimes you just have to hold it in. Now, I know that most people say that its good to talk about your problems, but in the heat of the moment you need to just let it go. If you are still pissed off about it later than bring it up as nicely as possible.
dont you look back on your fights and say "wow that was stupid"? Any way it's just practice with not blurting out how angry you are.
I have been working on this for a long time and its good that I have a patient G/F who sees the progress. Any way good luck sweety!
2007-03-26 13:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find out your true identity in Christ and he will make all your paths straight, when you find God he will give you the answers.
There are gifts that he gives us when we believe, love,patience,kindness,wisdom,understanding, until you have accepted Jesus into your life - repented for your sins and been baptised the Holy Spirit is your Guide and your life is hidden in Christ. Find answers from Elim Pentecostal Churchs. Unitl we surrender to him and come out of the worlds darkness of sin we will struggle. Jesus is The Way, The truth, and The Life, don't let anyone stop you finding the fullness of your life. Life is not a rehearsal and the afterlife is a lifetime, choose God find Heaven. I have, Elim Church Member.
2007-03-26 12:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by christianity 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop dating.
2007-03-26 12:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to take a break from him,
change the environment,
and people I talk with,
for a while,
then I can talk to him again
after few days,
or a week
2007-03-26 12:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by AnnaP. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can see about relaxation therapy or a course in anger management. You could also see a therapist.
There are lot of different options out there.
2007-03-26 12:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mark A 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Good that you are recognizing what you are doing.
You still have time to change or you will be alone in later years.
2007-03-26 12:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe try anger management? Or try figuring out
why you are being mean. It could be you are with
the wrong type of people and it gets on your nerves.
2007-03-26 12:18:36 · answer #10 · answered by chmar11 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋