My boyfriend of three years broke up with me yesterday. He said he loved me, but he isn't IN love with me any more. I have been crying ever since, and now i'm at work and this sucks. should i be feeling so badly?
2007-03-26 04:56:16 · 22 answers · asked by allie0311 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh...you poor poor thing...why dont you go home... No, better yet, take the Munya Cure!
Go to a nice bar, give the bartender your keys and tell him to get you a taxi home after your 4th shot of tequila. Go home, puke your guts out and when you are, visualize that you are puking HIM out of your life, too. Go pass out and when you wakeup, the headache is your reminder of how much he has hurt you and how NO MAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS!
Then go shopping. Buy a new pair of boots and some hot jeans. Wash your car. Then go out with your girlfriends to a NEW club.
2007-03-26 04:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you something? Does he talk to you during sex? No Offense...But if so, He lied. Commonly look at the situation. You two were together 3 YEARS> That meant something to his DUMB ***!!! He just punked out because he has found someone else that he is going to do the same way...only if they let him. He has been cutting you short for a while. Making crappy excuses that he claimes are reasons... Baby, don't be sad, be happy as hell, because he was gonna become a very serious problem, either physically or mentally. I suggest you cry and let it all out and do not let him back in. Forgive him but do not forget what he put you through.. MOVE ALONG! MOVE ALONG! MOVE ALONG! Listen to that song and be blessed and happy. And oh, by the way, sex doesn't make the entire relationship. SO don't miss the sex and sell yourself short, he will repeat the same crap all over again. You are priceless and don't you forget it.
2007-03-26 12:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it came out of the blue...yes ...then you have the right to feel really bad...but if you know he kind of said something which is true..well, then grief a little today and maybe tomorrow, but then be glad it did not turn into a miserable marriage. Go and have fun..the right person is still out there for you and one day you will realize this what the best thing that could have ever happened to you!!!! Good luck and cheer up!
2007-03-26 12:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should feel badly. Break-ups are devistating and there is very little anyone can say to make you feel better. Just try to keep yourself occupied... take up a new hobby, hit the gym, read a new book. Eventually you'll heal and find the right man for you. Just focus on recovery. Good luck!
2007-03-26 12:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by brassinpocket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings and response to the end of a 3 year relationship is normal. You will grieve, then get angry, then waffle between the two emotions, and then finally, acceptance and peace.
It's a process that varies in length for different people. No way around it but definitely can get through it fine.
Time to spend with friends and family would be good right now to keep yourself busy and to allow you to have trusted folks you can talk to while you get past this relationship.
If you are a believer in God, spend time with God as he loves to comfort his children.
2007-03-26 12:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some people lose interest in other people no matter how long they been together but the thing to do is move on but don't forget because everyone that you have met in your life has made you who you are so just move on and find someone that truly loves you and is actually welling to stay with you so just take a break from relationships and when you think your ready go for it and be happy again! =) O' ya it's his lose so when the time is right find someone else that truly loves you!
2007-03-26 12:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by ~Unknown~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're allowed to feel bad! Three years is a long time and you invested a lot of yourself emotionally in your relationship. Dealing with a heartbreak was one of the most painful things I ever had to go through. I know it doesn't feel like it will ever stop hurting, but time heals all wounds. And you will be stronger because of it. You deserve someone who IS in love with you. Give your heart time to heal before you get involved with anyone else. Good luck.
2007-03-26 12:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ally O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course sweetie it's normal you were in a relationship with him for 3 yrs it's normal to hurt but move on don't call don't "accidentally" run into him. If it's truly meant to be he'll come crawling back and then its up to you at that time to decide whether you want him back or not. If it's not meant to be then there is somebody else out there worthy of you. Give yourself some time. Time is the greatest healer. Trust that!
2007-03-26 12:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by Hudhud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is quite normal to feel badly.
Lets face it .....it is a form of loss
there is always a reason for everything that happens.....even if you don't know what the reason is, it usually turns out for the best.
keep your chin up....you sound like you got a good head on your shoulders so you will have another boy friend soon enough! There is nothing wrong with dating or playing the field for a while until you are ready for another relationship......take your time and get to know yourself again.....have a blast just being a girl!!!
2007-03-26 12:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by leroux3s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal and healthy to be sad when someone has hurt your feelings! You go ahead and have a good long cry about it. Then, you'll start feeling like he's not worth anymore grieving and, when you're ready to feel better, go out dancing with the girls! It's impossible to dance and feel sad at the same time!
2007-03-26 12:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋