what should i do?

Question

i am 6 weeks pregnant and i have a 4 month old...i know i'm crazy. I was on birth control so it wasnt like i wasnt being responsible. The father is so set on abortion and thats it..he doesnt want to hear anything else. He sais we didnt get together to have a baby and that he doesnt want anymore children. Im not a big fan on abortion at all.. i have seen the pics and I cannot do it. I told him this but he keeps insisting that i can just stop thinking abot it somuch. what else am i supposed to do not think about it? I think I want to just stop talking to him all together..I know this is his decision too, but I have to through he don't. Am I wrong to feel this way?

Answer 1

Actually it's not his decision at all. It's your body, you do what you want to do.

Answer 2

You are not wrong to be feeling this way. It is YOUR decision, not his or anyone else's. If you can take care of the new baby by all means do what you have to do (if that means stop talking it's father then so be it...) to have your child and raise it right. Keep in mind it will be hard- especially witha four month old right now. If you cannot take care of the baby maybe you should look into adoption.. there are adoption programs that you can still be a part of the child's life witout actually raising it. good luck to you and just remember that you have to make the choice that is right for you.

Oh and please- if you have ANY doubt don't get an abortion- you can never give the baby back its life.

Answer 3

You are absolutely not wrong to feel like you want to protect the baby inside of you! An abortion is a serious decision that YOU have to make. Yes, he is the father be he doesn't have to live with the decision like you will. Think about your other child, could you imagine if you had aborted that one? Just as precious your first baby is that's what is growing inside of you! You should definitely not let the father bully or guilt you into an abortion...you need to feel ok with whatever you choose.

Have you thought about adoption? I know so many of my girlfriends that want babies sooo bad and can't have them! A lot of people will pay for all of your expenses if you let them adopt your baby.

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I really hope everything works out!

Answer 4

That's actually very mature of you to admit that he has a part in the decision. People who say that it's your body so your decision are very wrong, and slightly ignorant. It IS your body, but that baby is half of him, so he does have the right to have some say in things. He didn't plan on getting you pregnant, neither did you, but it takes 2 people; we can't impregnate ourselves. He has told you how he felt, and he has every right to feel that way. But, you need to stand up for yourself and your beliefs. If you are married, you need to possibly seek counseling. If not, then you need to tell him that whil you respect his decision and the fact that he admitts he is not ready for a child of his own, you can not go through the abortion process. Not thinking about it would be like telling him to not think about sex, ever. It's never going to happen, and it can't be helped. If you have the child, but don't fel you can do the job of raising another one, there is always adoption. While this is very difficult, you would atleast have the knowledge that the child is in a good and loving home. However, don't underestimate yourself and your abilities. If he keep harping on you, then tell him to shut-up. Explain that you would go through the abortion if he would have his penis removed, or atleast, a vasectomy with partial removal, so that he can understand what you would be going through. When it comes to the procedure, it is totally your body that has to go through it. He has told you his feelings, now you need to make your decision and stand by it, no matter what. He has a right to tell you what he would like. But, just because he tells you doesn't mean that you have to do what he says. You are intelligent enough to make your own decisions. He has basically given you full rights, in a legal stand-point. He says he doesn't want the baby and would rather it not be brought full to term. So therefore, he has given you complete authority over the pregnancy. He gave up his right to the baby, therefore you do what you want; he has no say anymore.

Answer 5

It's your body and your choice, and, although, he should have some say about whether to be responsible for this baby he still has the choice to leave or stay and be a man.

He needs to be more understanding of the situation and know you didn't make this happen and neither did the baby. If he was soooo against having another baby he should have taken extra precautions with a condom as the pill is not 100%.

If you two don't really want another baby and can't bring yourself to abort it either, you can always adopt it to one of the millions of loving families who can't have their own children.

Answer 6

If you haven't done so already, explain your feelings about abortion to him. Tell him there are other options you can take, like adoption. If you feel that you don't want to be with him anymore, let him know that and then make the decision on keeping the baby if you feel that you can take care of he/she along with your 4 month old daughter. Also explain to him that you did take your pills like you should have and let him know that it really takes two. Find out all your options.

Good luck.

Answer 7

This kinda makes me mad. Let me ask you something, Who is pregnant him or you? It is not his decision alone. It is 25% his and 75% yours. If he cant respect that you are uncomfortable with this situation then he is no kind of man. I am not a fan of abortion, but I am not gonna down someone else. So, basically my response is strictly that..advice. I could care less cuz it is your body. But NO man has the right to force his woman to have an abortion. It sounds like he is hard headed and needs to be woke up. GL!!!!!
you have to stand up for yourself in this situation. It is mainly your decision, if he cant handle he should book.

Answer 8

You are not wrong at all. It is your body, and you will be the one to live with your decision. DO NOT let him make that decision for you. Stand your ground. I understand things will be hard because you have a 4 month old, but I your 4 month old will be a year old when you have the new baby, that isnt that bad. Please make your own decision. Your boyfriend needs to stand up, be a man and take responsibility for his actions. And if he cant, then you deserve better than that anyways and so do your babies. Take care and good luck!!!

Answer 9

My mom was in similar situation with me, she kicked my father out when he kept asking for abortion; and here I am, beautifull girl, with very good education, great husband and good job, expecting a child myself. My father, cries crocodile's tears because he missed my childhood and I would give everything for my mother for that she let me live, while everything was against it.
It is a human being inside you, and he or she may be a better person than his/her father, what right does he have to kill this baby if you don't want that? And what did he really got together with you for if he doesn't even want to witness the miracle of your love?
If you do abortion against your will, you will never forgive this man , or will you?

Answer 10

i am almost 6 weeks pregnant with baby #!. i can not imagine having an abortion. did you know the heart starts beating at 5 weeks? that little baby already has a beating heart!!! you would be killing an innocent human being!! it is not his decision. its yours. you both laid down and made another baby wether you were ready for another one or not. you said you were on birth control, well he should have used a condom!! no birth control is 100%. youd be better off leaving him. he cares about himself only and not about you or that growing baby.

abortions are not birthcontrol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

you could always give it up for adoption.
there are so many couples out there strugling with fertility problems, that would love to be able to have a baby even if its not biologically theirs, and then there is the people that have "accidents" and are so willing to kill an innocent human being!! it make me sick!!!!

Answer 11

NO, your not wrong in feeling that way. Abortion is wrong and it is against God's will. If he doesn't want the child and you don't want to leave him see if yall could put it up for adoption. If you want to keep the baby then leave him an tell him that your not going to ask him for any help with it an he doesn't have to sign the birth certificate. Please don't kill a incent unborn child that didn't do anything wrong.