Would you encourage young couples to go for pre-marriage counselling course?

Question

Why or why not?

Answer 1

i dont accept this:.

Answer 2

Yes! Most young couples do not know what marriage is all about. I married young, and thankful we are still together. We did not have counseling. There has been many times where we both wanted to drop the hat, but I'm sure that if we had the tools to deal with the situations we were in, none of it would have happened. Marriage is like driving a car for the first time. If you don't have someone show you how to initially do it, you're gonna crash. But with practice, and persistence, it will come naturally! You may not crash initially, but it will be a rough start, and will not be prepared for certain situations that come whether you like it or not!

Answer 3

Yes, I would. My husband and I did not go to pre-marital counseling and I wish we had. There is so much that first-time marrieds don't realize they don't know about each other until the marriage begins - differences in parenting ideals, values, money management, cleanliness, in-law dealings, and especially communication. I believe that we would struggle significantly less had we had a real idea of what we were getting ourselves into.

I think premarital counseling is a sort of rubric to help couples decide if marriage is what they want and if they are going after it with the right partner.

Answer 4

Yes. Because the counseling will go over issues such as money, children, and chores/responsibilities. It is a good time for the couple to determine if they are compatible in these areas as they are the most common issues couples fight about. They may learn that they have some items to work on prior to the marriage. Like, she spends, he saves money. Two opposite styles with money can be very explosive and should be dealt with before it happens.

When we are in love, we don't always think about the day-to-day things that we will be combining when married. Who is going to be responsible for what may have not been discussed and a lot of assumptions could be going on which could cause problems after the wedding if not known before hand and worked out.

Answer 5

I think that it would be the best thing to do. When you are with someone you may not go over things like: who will handle the finances, how to raise the kids, who holds what role in the family and what's expected of the other mate. Take it from me please!!! I got married with out going to counseling and it was the worst mistake that I have ever made in my life!!!!! All of the issues came up that I mentioned above and we had no way of handling them and if I had of know then what I know now I could have made a very informed decision not to marry this guy that I am with now. The best thing is to seek counsel better safe than sorry, I hope that you take the advise that is being given because I would not wish what I am going through on my worst enemy. Go seek help before you get into something and regret it later!! Take care and hope that it works out for you! :)

Answer 6

Yes i sure would and here is why... I feel it prepares them for what to expect from the marriage before entering it. It helps them learn some things you may face when you first marry so that they know what they may be headed for and maybe this will make them think about things before actually marrying the person. I feel this would be very beneficial for anyone who is wanting to marry. This may help cut down on the rate of divorces down the road. I would much rather go to pre marriage counseling myself then have to to to marriage counseling after marriage if it were me. Usually people who marry do not know how to be married or how to be a husband or wife so i feel that this will help them kinda learn a little before marriage. People take parenting classes and courses to learn how to be better parents so why not take marriage classes to learn how to be better husbands or wives? This also helps them know if they are really ready for marriage or not as well and this will give them a chance to back out if they are not ready or do not think they can handle it.

Answer 7

A retreat can be good for a number of reasons. The first being that you're told its a "safe" environment to talk about things you probably wouldn't bring up on a daily basis. Its always nice to have a third party listen to you relate and they can help guide conversations, again to places you wouldn't normally discuss every day. This isn't just for young couples, though. Anyone in a monogamous, serious relationship can grow during counselling.

Answer 8

Yes, I would. Very often, couples know a lot about one another. They know their dislikes and likes. They know their habits and routines. But what they very rarely know is their expectations from one another, their expectations for the future, and other things.

Counseling allows young couples to make sure that what they are feeling will last past the first few years. For many, when the honeymoon is over, the start to realize who they TRULY married. And when reality sets in, many give up on marriage.

Answer 9

Yes Yes a hundred times YES! Even though alot of couples live together first (I don't recommend it) they don't really get the questions posed to them that would really tick them off if they had to live through it after marriage. It would be nice to sort feelings and hopes and dreams etc. before marriage and hopefully it could turn out to be a forever and ever marriage.

Answer 10

Definitely. Things like how you squeeze the toothpaste, hang the TP(roll over or under), lid up or down, seems small before marriage, big 10 years down the road. # of children, budgeting the finances (finances #1 thing couples argue about), how and who to celebrate holidays, discipline of children, pet peeves. My hubby and I went to pre counseling and am happy we did, married 20 years.

Answer 11

yes, there are so many young couples getting married and ending in divorce so quickly that this idea is great. It doesn't tell them how to remain married, it explains ways of handling matters that married couples face and how to deal with ups and downs. When my husband and I were getting married they didn't have this but our church had something similiar and we had 3 sessions with the pastor before we were to be married. I guess it helps somewhere along the line, we have been married 14 years and still going strong.