My boss is a nice lady. She does her work well. I cant help noticing the way she talks to me. The words she uses and the body languages. She makes me feel depressed and angry at myself. I don't smile that much anymore. Plus, she also never ever recognizes my hard work. Why can't she give me an occasional thank you? Is that too much to ask? Why can’t she just tell me when I do a good job? How can I feel some love?
2007-03-26 04:26:40 · 4 answers · asked by windlove 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
It is about time that you speak with your boss.Let her know you have noticed she is treating you differently than the others.
Discuss rather than confront. If your boss has given you some unnecessary or unfair criticism it’s easy to get drawn into an argument. Often this is just the kind of confrontation and feeling of control that bad managers rely on. You can avoid giving them satisfaction by avoiding clashes and discussing problems rather than progressing into an argument.
Take time off if it’s affecting your health. Sometimes is easy to forget that your mental health is just as important as your physical health. Too many people struggle through stress and anxiety only to end up depressed and in need of long periods away from work. If you find yourself feeling stressed as a result of unfair treatment at work, take some time off. You would if you had a cold and you should if your boss is affecting your health. Remember, in these cases it is important to always consult your doctor. Stress at work is considered quite seriously and if you needed to bring a case at an Employment Tribunal for unfair dismissal or constructive dismissal then the evidence of your doctor might be useful.
Avoid going to your Boss’s Boss. The chances are they will support your manager and this could result in the problem worsening. It is much more productive to approach someone senior at your company but removed from your direct chain of command. They’ll usually be more objective and less caught up in the personalities at play.
If they attack you irrationally, get them to explain. If someone is behaving irrationally or unfairly the best way to deal with them is to ask them to calmly explain themselves. This may either help them understand the flaws in their arguments or perhaps gain some understanding of your point of view.
Document any situations which you think are unfair. If at some later stage you do actually need to pursue a case of unfair dismissal or constructive dismissal, then you may find it useful to have a record of the occasions when you were unfairly treated.
Talk with your friends and colleagues at work. Try to find out if they are receiving the same treatment and if they agree that it is unfair. It is useful to know if you are being singled out or if your boss is behaving unfairly to everyone. It may also be useful to have witnesses if you needed to bring a case of unfair or constructive dismissal at an Employment Tribunal.
Avoid reacting to criticism. If you’re emotionally on-edge because you have to deal with a difficult boss, you can over-react to criticism which you would find perfectly acceptable in normal circumstances. So don’t let criticism get you down, try to listen, react positively and get on with your job as normal.
Leave work at work. A hard piece of advice to follow. Remember your employer only pays you for the hours you work. They don’t own your free time, and as such, should have no control over it. When you walk out of work try to leave all the problems there and not take them home with you.
Good luck
2007-03-26 04:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Windlove, its not always what it seems. If you have a daily issue with the boss. Just ask her if their is a concern that she has with you.
It might not be something that you did or did not do...maybe she has a issue with something she thought you did or do not do...at the work place there are always snitches..(like in Yahoo!) who will rat you out...even if the report is false..the boss might believe the snitch..so ask and clear the air with your boss...it would not hurt to have another job to fall back on before you ask her...just a thought
2007-03-26 04:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's jealous of you! That is discrimination, start making notes of comments that she makes toward you and get an atty and sue her for discrimination.
2007-03-26 04:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she dont hate you.. you just have a crush
2007-03-26 04:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by destiny4prez 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋