I Found out I Am Prego?

Question

I just found out last night that I am pregnant. I have been living with my boyfriend for about a year, and for the most part we are vey happy together. We had a hard time in the begining paying bills and getting everything on the right track and as of now we are doing ok. Mostly due to the fact that I recently about a month ago , recieved a job at my father's work , ( A huge corporation ) I love my job and am glad I will finanly have the moeny we need to live. We still have a couple opf bills that the catching up on and we also need a car, ( I am car pooling with my dad) We can pay rent and do have an extrra bedroom.

But I know my father will be FURIOUS!!!! Am I am afraid I will embarass him at work, ( he is high managment ) and am afraid that it will not look good that his 21 unwed daughter is pregnant. I think he will probably have a heart attack, and was thinking of abortion, BUT IM SCARED.
Also I just started this job and don't have insurance yet

Also I'm wondering seeing how I haven't been at the job for long, will they hold it if I have o go on maternity leave????

I appreciate everyone's help, I can however understand big words, and don't consider myself immature just unfamiliar with this subject and very confused on what to do.

Answer 1

In the US, you are NOT covered under FMLA (family and medical leave act) until you've been at your job for a year or have worked 1250 hours. Also...some insurance companies do consider pregnancy to be a pre-existing condition and will not cover you (bad news after bad news).

However, talk to HR...they may be willing to work with you. I was under the same circumstances and they are willing to give me paid maternity leave.

As for your dad, he'll be angry but give him time. He will come to accept you and your baby.

Answer 2

First of all, yes, they haver to give you either this job or one of equal salary and seniority when you return from maternity leave.

Second, you can file for Medicaid for maternity insurance. I don't know what your income is, but since you and your boyfriend aren't married, you'll only have to put your income.

And third, don't have an abortion just because you're scared of what people will think of your DAD. If you're that worried about it, you two can get married. If you don't want to, you don't have to...just don't worry about how things reflect on your dad. You're a grown up, and while it's very sweet that you're worried about your dad's reputation, what's the difference between the company knowing the boss's daughter is having a baby...and the company finding out through the gossip mill that the boss's daughter had an abortion? If you're already living together, and your dad knows about that, then he knows you're having sex (though he tries not to think about it). When you're having sex, there's a chance of pregnancy...so you haven't done ANYTHING wrong or different that he didn't already know about, and it's your life, not his, so he'll just have to accept it.

Good luck, it sounds like you guys are financially stable and you just need to get over your fear of your dad and enjoy this pregnancy!

Answer 3

First off maternity leave they have to its the law they can't refuse you that is discrimination.
As far as your dad is concerned he's not the one having this baby and i do understand where your coming from with the disrespect thing. Please before you make any decisions you might regret later talk to him and let him know how you feel and what is going on. I don't think he'll have a heart attack. I know my dad didn't and it was very simmilar...and a different race too! He thought about it and wasn't happy no but got over it and he is the best grandDad ever...so no matter what happends sit him down and give him a chance to know what your going through and what options your thinking about..before you know it what he might say he wouldn't want you to get one of those...and im pro choice what ever a woman feels is right at the time of her life...
good luck and i hope all is well with you and your family
but give all a voice including the baby's dad...

Answer 4

You sound like y'all are in a place where you can handle a baby. Your father will get over it. This isn't the fifties. Unwed women have babies every single day. I bet there are plenty of women at your work that have had babies out of wedlock. Go to human resources and discuss your insurance options. They may pick you up on insurance. Generally, insurance companies are now saying the pregnancy is not to be considered pre-existing. If not, look into medicaid. Ask the company's policy on maternity leave. Usually you have to be there a year for them to hold your job, but different companies have different policies. Just check into things. Best of luck.

Answer 5

Do not get an abortion. Have you told your boyfriend?
What you need to do is go to your parents and sit
down with them and let them know you are pregnant.
Your dad may be furious but you are an adult and these
things happen. If you live with your boyfriend I'm sure
your father is going to understand that this was going
to happen. As for the job you can work up until a
certain month of pregnancy unless you have
complications.

Answer 6

Please don't abort that baby!
Did you know that studies show that when a baby (in the womb) hears its mommy's voice .. its heartbeat slows down because it feels so safe and secure.
Also, there is a video on the internet of a baby boy being aborted .. he is crying and screaming, .. begging for his life! and the doctor RIPS his legs off.
Please don't do that to your baby. Please.
You are that baby's mommy and it is depending on you. You are that little baby's everything!
Don't worry about your father being angry .. you are his daughter, he will get over it .. and love that baby! It's got his blood running through its veins as well :)
As for the insurance, don't worry about it .. you can get on state insurance (no matter what state you're in) .. they will NEVER deny a pregnant woman medical insurance.
Also, your employer CANNOT fire you because you are pregnant! Legally they have to give you 6 weeks off before the baby is born, and they have to guarantee your job back, 6 weeks after the baby's born!
As for the maternity leave .. you can get on disability .. they go back 1 year (4 quarters) of every place you've worked.. and they give you 80% of what you were making.
so, even if you are only at that new employer for only 3 months you will receive 80% of what you are making working.
I am now 25 weeks pregnant .. and found out I was 3 weeks pregnant after starting this job! (which means I was pregnant when I applied and started working) .. and I still qualify for maternity leave. (not through the employer necessarily, I haven't looked into that .. but I can still get maternity leave through the state).
You have to realize .. there is a little life inside of you .. a tiny person .. a heartbeat.
Please don't kill that baby.
There is a lot of help out there for moms (especially if you are unmarried) and they will help you financially to take care of your baby.
That baby inside you loves you .. you are their world :)

congrats! good luck! God bless!

Answer 7

you were irresponsible to get pregnant so soon after being hired but it happens. you know to make better choices in the future.
don't worry about dear ol' dad. even if the experience is traumatic at first, he'll get over it and be a great grandpa in the end cuz that baby will be next to impossible to resist. since you see him daily, chances are good he'll come around way before the baby is due.
you'll have maternity leave even if you've only been on the job shortly. the corporation will deal with your absence and find a place for you upon return. don't sweat the job.
your real immediate concern is obtaining medical care. you'll have to find a way to get to a doctor asap cuz even if you can do without insurance, your baby can't. if you thought the budget was tight before, wait. you can count on the expenses before birth being just under $10,000. then you have to take care of the baby after birth. financially you weren't in a position to get pregnant. in hindsight i'm sure you recognize now the importance of proper birth control. today you'll just have to tighten your belts and make this happen for all of you. the alternative is to make a very difficult decision that could heavily affect you psychologically.
i'm sorry hun. i'm scared for you too. just take consolation in the knowledge that people have dealt with this very problem for centuries and made it work. look into community resources. ask friends, family, neighbors for groups you can contact for support.
most importantly, make better choices in the future in the interest of your soon to be family. another unplanned pregnancy is the last thing you need to add to this arrangement. i wish you luck.

Answer 8

ingesting once you're a million week and ingesting once you're 12 weeks is a huge distinction. At 12 weeks your placenta is formed and each thing you're taking on your body receives fed on your toddler. i could heavily talk to a well being care specialist about that. I dont propose to scare you yet i could be worried if i became ingesting that a concepts into my being pregnant.

Answer 9

Don't worry about embarrassing your dad. This isn't about him. If you want the baby...keep it.
If you're in the US...they legally have to keep your job (or 1 similar) for 12 weeks after you give birth (more w/ dr.'s note) so don't worry about that.
you should be able to get insurance before the baby's born. Some companies will even kick you in early if you have a medical reason...check w/ HR.

Answer 10

You're living with your boyfriend at 21, you're not mature enough if you're afraid to confront your father and irresponsible.

You are skrewed on the insurance thing. Though you may qualify for medicare now that you're pregnant.

You are protected under the Family Medical Leave Act to take maternity leave. It doesn't matter how long you've been there, it's in the statute (big word for law).