a series of events..............liar, declaring himself single, egoistic that a wife got no rite in anything, got the cheek to address other women darling, was involved with other women.......even those married b!@#$..........now a year has passed since he last claimed he got anything to do with her............but the trust just isnt there at all..........................and he has been in and out of jobs...............with so many kids in tow..........................what do i feed them? authorities wont help as he is defiant.............so hurt, sad, u name it.................its all in my heart.............
2007-03-26 04:02:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are 2 sides to every story and we're only reading yours. No one here should be telling you to leave him, etc since no one knows his input.
So the only viable advice that can be given to you is that you and he should go to counseling.
2007-03-26 04:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by redjetta 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well don't know why you have stayed there that long knowing he has been cheating on you. But what you call love isn't your heart is just hoping he will change but he won't. You need to get rid of him and move on and forget about him. Or throw him out and get a restrainting order so he cna't come back into the house. ANd if he breaks the order he will go to jail. ANd make sure you change the locks on the house when you throw him out. But if it's better just leave and don't tell him where. Because he kows he can do anhything and you will be there to feed him, wash his clothes and anything else he needs. So think about what's happening and think about if you like th e way your living and go from there.
2007-03-26 11:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to stop loving him? People get divorced sometimes because love just isn't enough. You can love him from a distance and move on with you and the childrens' lives. As time passes, the hurts heal and you are able to love someone else. You will always care about this guy.
I don't understand what you mean about the authorities not helping because he is defiant. Who are the authorities? Is he in trouble with the law as well? Please explain further.
2007-03-26 11:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried counseling? Correct me if I am wrong. You take your wedding vows very seriously. Well your not the only one if that is the case. I understand that it hurts when your husband has cheated and lied to you. Counseling MIGHT help. Talk to him If he is willing to do this with you. If not then your going to have to make a big decision. If your going to go through the hurt the rest of your life or Just end the marriage. Good Luck to you.
2007-03-26 11:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by samiam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a choice you can leave him, but you also have to think about the welfare of your children. You don't have to deal with someone who's not going to treat you right. Love isnt supposed to hurt like that and if anyone should be paying for the BS it's your husband sounds like he didnt want to be married.
2007-03-26 11:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey where do you see yourself in a year or so. ten years or so. do you see a change. do you see that you will be the one he wants.
he does not sound like a man who should be married. and if you want to ever be happy or to stop loving him. you have to get angry first. hate him. let that anger and hate take you full course. that does not mean to hurt him. two wrongs do not make a right. but getting on with your life. showing him you can be happy with out him will show him you are not a door mat.
2007-03-26 11:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds similar to my ex. Key work is ex. ou need to get away from him quickly. He will rob you of whatever self respect or self esteem that you have left. You will be more miserable with each passing day. If he loved you, he would try to make your life easier, not harder. There are support groups you can go to for advice and help. Please don't wait too long, as the rut gets deeper, and you won't be able to crawl out...
2007-03-26 11:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're saying. I had a terrible wife but couldn't stop loving her. One day I just got so fed up she seems to me like an object, a crappy object so I finally called her bluff and left. Our divorce will be final in two months woohoo! And I found an excellent girl instead, wow! She's da bomb!
2007-03-26 11:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce!
2007-03-26 11:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like we married the same guy!!
Love unfortunately doesn't turn off like a faucet.
Get rid of the jerk and re-discover yourself. Keep telling yourself that he is not your problem. He isn't. Focus on you, get yourself healthy and upgrade!
That which doesn't kill us makes us stronger!
2007-03-26 11:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by sisterchristian5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need any excuse to stop loving him. All the events are good enough reasons for you to move on without him.
2007-03-26 11:06:03 · answer #11 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋