me,my husband & 9 year old daughter live with my husbands parents,as my hubby is very attached to them,the problem is my mom-in-law is a very dominating woman and she firmly gives her opinions and interferes in our day-to-day life & the upbringing of our daughter.she has a critical view in everything i do or say.i am undergoing a lot of stress due to this,also my husband is financially dependent on them.
2007-03-26 04:02:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its time to grow up and move out. tell your hubby to pop his moms tit out of his mouth. tell mom to put her tit back in her bra and let her son grow up. as long as youre in her house, she has the right to offer any opinion she wants. move out, then tell her to back off!!!
2007-03-26 04:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, been there, and to be blunt, there is no simple way to deal with this other than getting out. This will only resolve itself by you moving away. Maybe you guys can become financially independent? If not, maybe you can scrounge enough cash for you and your daughter to get a small place.
Point being, there will be no "epiphany" of understanding between you and his mother. Any attempt by you to work or discuss it will be seen as offencive by her. And putting him into the middle of it will just lose points for you.
To survive this you have to be the better person, ignore the personal stuff, smile, be as neutral as possible as you wait and find a wait to move out.
Let your husband no, without putting him a tough-spot, that it is a serious dilemma that can have heavy repercussions in your relationship and that you need something to change.
Good luck!
2007-03-26 11:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Let your husband know about your feelings.
2.Your husband being a loving son of his parents should discuss this with his father who should in turn discuss same with his wife as his observation.
3. Advise your husband to immediately begin to search for a more rewarding job to reduce his dependence on his parents financially.
Meanwhile you should keep your cool as things will work out if these suggestions are followed.
2007-03-26 11:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your husband and work out a budget so you can get away frerom your in laws. You may have to live poor for awhile. If he refuses, tell him you need a partner, not a grown child.
2007-03-26 11:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through, Me my Fiancee and her 5 kids live with in my fiancee's mom and she drives me nuts, but one thing i learned is you do have to respect them being it is her house but dont let her disrespect you because it is her house, You Need to voice yourself to so that they know where you are coming from so that they dont disrespect, remember you are a woman and a ADULT so you let them know to treat you like one once they see that you are they will ease down its like you have to know when to bite your tounge but dont bite it all the time, and you need to tell your husband to grow up and get a job so you guys can have your own money and move out cuz things can get worse
2007-03-26 11:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us women have a tendecy to be "Teritorial' when it comes to our homes, and the way we run things, you know....We're also like "Cats" when it comes to our men, and things done our way, and its almost like women have to check eachother out really hard & deep before we really can except or not except one another! so, if your feeling pressure living there why dont you two start saving to move, you know.... Boy, I couldn't save fast enough, I am not very good with mother-in-laws, let alone living with them..... And of all my 3 husbands I only had to deal with one mother in law, and she was always at a distance, she was just like me, about women, and we both respected one another's feelings!! I had alot of "Respect & admoration" for her, at a distance, you know. Otherwise, I couldn't have even had a relationship with her at all.. that's for sure!! Or her me!!! So, my best advice for you two, is too save your money, before she begin's to getting to regretful for allowing the both of you to move in, you know.. Good luck hun!!! Smile!! Oh, also, I would give her lots of breaks, like go to the park alot, and be gone alot so she can have her space, alot, if she's acting this way.. she just needs alot of space at this point in time!! You desperately need to give it to her, whether she says something about it or not!!
2007-03-26 11:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋