Has anyway had children and wish they didn't? How did you cope with those feelings? Did the feelings of not wanting them every go away? Do you think those feeling reflected on the how raised your child(ren)? Honest Answers Please.
2007-03-26 04:01:31 · 11 answers · asked by doubletree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yeah, my dad did
that's why he beat me
2007-03-26 04:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My third husband & I argued about having a child for him for 2 years, after we were married, because I already had 3 children from a previous marriage, and so he'd cry, when I'd tell him, I already have my arms full. So, I began to pray about it, and asked God if I was being "Selfish" and after awhile, my heart started to feeling bad for him, so I said okay I'll get off the pill, and we can plan for a baby ......Well I cant say I wished I hadn't but it was a very "stressful thought" for me, a lot of the time. Thinking of having a 4th child, and when I did finally have her, she took all of those regret's away from me!! She's now 12 years old and my favorite child, my biggest helper around the house, you name it, she is very loving to everyone, she meets, and to our family!!! So, "No" I have not a single regret that I did choose to have her now!! Or the day she was born, either!!! And her father just adores her!! But her grandpa, she's his only granddaughter!! And he's very "On hands" with her!!! Not in a perverted way,, but with calling her, and checking up on her, and all of that, you know... So, I always make sure to send him photo's and he comes to see her about once a year...... And is a very proud grandpa!! Smile!!!
2007-03-26 11:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. i hope that this isn't you speaking..
the first thing ( hey you asked for honesty)
that poped into my head was that lady that drowned her children in the bath tub.. i think it was like 5 of them..
if you are having feelings that you wish you didn't have children, and you do.. please talk to someone about it.
i'm not meaning to come down on you... just your question really scared me..so please don't take offense to my answer. just looking out for you, and you just might not realize it.
but yeah, i know a lot of 'angry' parents. ones that think that their kids are a burden, or wish that they had never been born. and it reflects on the children.. because you may not think that they pick up on these things but they really do.
someone special shared something with me. and i choose not to give details.. but it has to do with parents and not wanting their children, and now they have abandonment issues..
you can tell them everything you can to let them know that you won't abandon them, but their mind is never at ease.
so if it's you or someone you know. please seek or help them seek counseling.
2007-03-26 11:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i felt that way when i first had my kids. but i was so damned young. now that they are older, im glad that i didnt wait. i was 14 with the first and 17 with the second. now they are 19 and 15, and i still have alot of life to live. so to answer your question, i didnt want my kids when i first had them. but then again you knew what to do to prevent this. now that they are here, take care of them. there is nothing worse that having a child hate you because you screwed up and are taking it out on them. my boys are my life now and they taught me a great deal about life, but to do it over again, i would have the same children, but i would wait. good luck
2007-03-26 11:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I never wished I didn't have my daughter (she's everything to me) - although I wish I would've waited a few years (I had her when I was 20). The pregnancy was unexpected and caused me to feel a little pressured to marry her father - which ended in divorce. I hate the fact that she has to deal with the reality of divorced parents.
2007-03-26 11:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
amny people feel that way, at least some of the time
if you have kids , you owe it to them to give them a good shot at a good life, even putting aside your own needs to do that
however, it doesn't mean your life is over
spend enough time with the kids
then spend enough time with your partner also
maybe a vacation once in awhile
2007-03-26 11:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I'm able to start life all over again, I chose to get married but not kids. Now that I've got three lovely princesses I'll treasured them as long as I can.
2007-03-26 11:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think everyone with a teenager has doubts. Mine drives me crazy but I know some day he will appreciate all the things I do for him.
But, if I could turn back time.... I would never have kids!
2007-03-26 11:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by jtaylor1993 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
how a child is raised will be reflected. If beaten, abused or what , then as a adult he/she will treat their child the same.
2007-03-26 11:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by born again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have them... and honestly... i dont want them now or in the near future... maybe im selfish or i dont know... maybe im just to young to even think of things like that... but i do dream of being pregnant and having to hold my little baby close to my heart, feel his/her heart beat!!
2007-03-26 11:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋