My niece is being bullied. See previous comments and answers. There is a person who is supposed to be giving advice but simultaneously is bullying my sister. I have already mentioned that she is doing her best to resolve the situation. Yet I am getting unhelpful comments from a person who wants to do a character assassination of her. I want answers about bullying, but not a continual assault on my sister's failings. I feel that such people are bullying her because she is already doing her best, yet in one reply a person three times chastised my sister. I also know that she has gone through a difficult time and to explain this would take about three thousand more characters of writing space. I feel that people can have tough times and they try to haul themselves back up. Also it is judgemental to hurl abuse at her when you dont know all the facts concerning her life. She is sorting out her daughter's life as much as she can, and needs positive support. Any comments?
2007-03-26 03:58:55 · 7 answers · asked by snowball 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
The first thing your sister needs to do is ignore these stupid comments that people are puitting on here. I have noticed that no matter what the question, some idiot will put a nasty comment to the asker attacking them for whatever reason. That is just something you need to accept when you are going to ask a wide audience for advise. There are so many varying opinions that you are always going to find people who disagrees with what you are saying.
In regards to your niece's bullying, the best thing do, if the bullys are from school, is go and see the school. If it still continues, she has to keep on going to school and complaining and, eventually, to Education Authority to have it dealt with. Tell her to keep a diary of all the incidents to strengthen her case. If the kids are not from school (or even if they are) she should try talking to the parents. HOwever, I know that it is likely that the parents won't do anything. I fthey won't, call the POlice. Especially if the bullying is physical.
Good Luck.
2007-03-26 04:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by willowbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off your sister needs to speak to the people in charge at your nieces school. If there is no action taken or the bullying continues she should go to the local education board and put in a complaint about the school.
I know that you are saying that she is overweight because she is going through puberty, but she should exercise and eat healthly to combat this - the less she eats the more her metabolism will slow down and this will mean she will remain overweight and it will be harder to burn it off. She could join a swimming club or something and this will also help her self confidence and she will meet new people too. If she has self confidence she will be able to stand up to the bullies and not bother with what they think of her.
Good luck
2007-03-26 04:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely the person assaulting your sisters actions is in fact a bully themselves. It's just a lack of self esteem on their part and if at all possible ignore them.
Their advice is not warranted or necessary and better to ignore them, than to give them attention they are seeking. There is always one in the crowd and they are just not worth your time or aggravation.
Being bullied is difficult for not only the person but the entire family. I feel for your sister and everyone involved(my son was bullied when he was younger). It is difficult to overcome this issue when so many people choose to ignore it rather than resolve it. It seems it hasn't happened to them so they just don't understand what the big deal is.
I hope your niece can get past this quickly and it doesn't affect her self-esteem and self-worth. I wish you all the best of luck.
2007-03-26 04:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand by her, give her the love and support she needs. Bullies are cowards hence the need to take it out on soft targets. I was bullied once and still hate those who did it to me. And that was years ago.I feel for her and for you as well you must both be under stress. Take care and i wish you well:))
2007-03-26 04:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for them and be there to stand up for them both if they can't stand up for themselves at this point in time. there is nothing you need us to say. you already know what needs to be done!
2007-03-26 04:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you gotta show her that your famiy supports them. help them out as much as you can and try to tell them both that you are worried about them both terribly
2007-03-27 15:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋