Me and this guy have liked each other ever since we were 12, and now he is 21 and I’m 20. We both knew that we liked one another but never said. We first met 8 years ago but it was the fact that we were in two different states that kept us apart. Three years later we meet again and tell each other that we still feel the same, but mind you we are still apart as he went off to university up north and I'm down south, but he tells me he has a girlfriend (he met her at uni). He has now been with her for 3 years but has recently broken up with her saying he didn’t see them having a future, but keeps giving me the vibe that he still has feelings for me. This guy that I have been in love with for 8 years has now graduated and now lives 5 minutes away from me, but I’m now transferring to another state because of uni too! What should I do? I love him so much but my dad says I should forget him so should I? Or should I just follow my heart?
2007-03-26 03:18:24 · 14 answers · asked by Suga 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Mind you, I don't plan on NOT going to Uni but I just wanna know what I should do concerning him, what should do?
2007-03-26 03:42:10 · update #1
If you guys are meant to be thogether, in time, you will be.
2007-03-26 03:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a positive turning point in your life to have an old love come back since they say when you let someone you love go and they come back it's meant to be. I think you and him should talk about this and see if you're able to deal with a long distance relationship if you're transferring to another school. If you guys are that serious about being together it's got to be 100% on both ends. Meaning you keep up with the phone calls, emails, letters or whatever means of communication and always keep that first and foremost is communicating with each other.
When you are together spend as much time together as possible. Take your time in this since 8 years is a long time not seeing each other.
2007-03-26 10:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should follow your heart in this situation because you've liked the guy for so long. If it doesn't work out you can always transfer then. Talk to the guy about it and tell him you like him. Ask him if you see him having a future with you? If you two really like each other that much then i think you should stay with him. But that's just me.
2007-03-26 10:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Chels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is very easy for me to answer but it will be hard for you to actully decide. You need to tell yourself whats more important in your life, present and future. Ask yourself if your studies are more important than he is?. I know you love this guy and sometimes people do stupid things when they are in love but at the same time love is a beautiful thing and if you think its worth a career then by all means do it. Just think about it with your brain because your heart is thinking about him, the brain needs to balance both "the man" you love and your "career". In my opinion i would go to school, this country is for those who are prepared and if you dont have that your future is very bleek.
2007-03-26 10:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by rusher not a russian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"The heart is deceitful above all things. Who can know it?" -Jeremiah
Your dad likely has a lot more experience in weighing people and character. That doesn't necessarily mean that your heart is wrong, but it is a huge red flag. This guy might be fantastic, but your dad might see a problem that you can't see or can't accurately judge right now. I would take his advice very seriously.
-yk
2007-03-26 10:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Yaakov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both really need to make a decision. Get together and talk. Ask if he can see a future with you. Can you both live together? Being best friends or friends even is a totally different thing compared to living for/with someone.
I think you need to really have a clear discussion. If you don't ask, you won't be answered.
2007-03-26 10:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by vazsingh_soorma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good thing about men is that if they really like you they will make an effort. He might fancy you a little but if he hasn't made a move by now he's not going to. Move on and you will be able to enjoy your life fully.
2007-03-26 10:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Velouria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was really interested, he would have done something by now - regardless of circumstances. Forget about him. You're off to university and that is a very big pond to find your prince charming!
2007-03-26 10:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Bonnie Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day you should ask yourself if you love HIM or the idea of HIM. After your introspection, if you find yourself loving all of YOUR ideals of him, then it's probably not in your best interests to pursue something long distance. If you find that it really is him that you love and not some idea thereof...
Well, then go get'em :)
2007-03-26 10:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by Chad T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try...but what's happened is you haven't seen someone often enough, and you have feelings for them. So while he was away you built this huge image up of him being your shining knight, something that's very difficult for him to live up to. And if he can live up to it....grand....but don't be surprise if he's not....alot of us have been here.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 10:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is not right about that I mean 8 years you should have been married by now.
2007-03-26 10:23:24 · answer #11 · answered by Tummy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋