What does is mean when a man does nothing but put you down and makes you feel worthless?

Answer 1

he is insecure and has low self esteem, so he has to bring you down to make himself feel better

Answer 2

Actually I loved almost all of the answers that have already been given. I'm not a proponent for staying in abusive relationships until one finds out the cause of the abuse. Get away, first, possibly file protective papers, second. Stay away. Do not allow for him to beg and plead and swear that he will change...he can't change, and he won't change, or he would have already changed.

No psycho-bable in the world will help you in this current situation. Maybe, if he is in a situation where he is getting professional counseling, and he is really motivated, he may discover some of the reasons that he is such an asswhole. He will never be able to switch totally. I'm betting that his abusive, controlling behaviors get woerse when he is drinking or smoking the majic weeds, but the only time he is at peace is when he is in a deep, deep sleep.

Not to be one to assume that "he" is 100% of the problem, I must say that you are, almost certainly, 100% of the solution.
I realize that there may be more complications than you have let on about, including children, money to support yourself, non-involved family members, missing involvement with your church, lack of educated friends that can give you good, sound advise.

In summary, dump this jerk. He is a major accident waiting to happen. He may very well be a threat to you, your children, and your family, a well as the all-to-common threat of suicide.
Borrow, save, sell belongings, get a plan, follow the plan, and change all of your banking establishments, email addresses, PIN numbers, Passwards, change your hair style, move out of the area. Start life over again, fresh.

I don't know where in the world you live, but there are agencies designed to assist women in such circumstances. You owe it to yourself and the world to lead a normal, happy, productive life, that is not manipulated by ****-heads of either sex. He isn't a "man" he is simply a "male", if that.

I am very sorry that you need help, and I wish I could actually do something to help, but that isn't possible through Yahoo Answers!

Ricky

Answer 3

Putting someone down and in turn you feel worthless is a form of control. I would venture a guess that this man does it to others also. You may not see it, but it happens just the same. If you are the closest to him you will have it done to you blatantly. Arms length relationships will be done with barbs. You are not worthless. Believe me. You probably are killing yourself trying make this man happy. You can't. Without knowing more of the nature of the put downs, I suggest you take a long look at why you are in a relationship with this type of person in the first place. My guess is that you get your worth through others. Giving to others is a great gift, give to those that appreciate it.

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Answer 4

Psychology 101, honey...It means he feels unsure and worthless, and needs something to boost his ego, ergo, he puts you down in order to lift himself up above you. Ditch his sorry behind, and find a man that's a MAN. Without lots of therapy, the loser will never be anything but a huge zit on your butt!

Answer 5

The guy suffers from an acute inferiority complex which he tries to mask by showing u down. Such folks r basically cowards deep inside & all this bravado vanishes if u really give it back to them in front of a room full of people. Please don't take all that crap, holler at him & say its quits for once & all.( There's a fair chance that he'll come grovelling back, but think twice before making up, because some of these guys nurse an insult for ages)
Best of Luck!

Answer 6

Your partner should make you feel good about yourself. If he makes you feel worthless, then my expectation would be that you reciprocate in kind - its an endless cycle.

Couples counseling could help you to break that cycle.

I offer this suggestion, be mindful of your thoughts and actions. You are not worthless. Think of things that you could say that would edify him - make him feel better about himself. Perhaps, he will reciprocate in kind. If he doesn't, say 'I am really hurt. I feel worthless. Do you think you could tell me five things you like about me?' Be sure you give him plenty of opportunities. The first time you try this, he will likely be defensive and angry.

Remember, you are not worthless. Make your own list of things you like about yourself. Make a list of things you like about him too.

Good luck.

Answer 7

It means that you're better off without him.

Either try talking to him to tell him how you feel and see if the two of you can get some help or leave him. No one deserves to be treated badly on a daily basis, no matter who they are.

And a relationship where one or both parties are doing that to the other is not healthy and needs help.

Good luck.

Answer 8

It means that you have to put on your running shoes and get as far away from him as possible. No one deserves to be treated like that. It means that he feels elevated in status when you are made to feel worthless. It means that he is insecure and a jerk. Why are you hanging around someone who treats you badly anyway? RUNNNNNNNN!!!!

Answer 9

Do what I did! Get a divorce, get out of the relationship. Life is too short for you to let a stinking man dictate how you feel about yourself. He's putting you down because he feels miserable about himself.

Answer 10

It means that he is controlling.
It is a form of abuse.
That means that you should walk away from him.
He will just continue to hurt you if you stay together.
Contact The Salvation Army, your local help agencies, or the Red Cross if you need housing and if you have kids.
Don't be abused.

Answer 11

Nobody can make you feel worthless, except yourself. He has his own problems and it has nothing to do with you! Just decide if that's something you want to deal with everyday. Hopefully not.