My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 2 years, I met him when I came to the UK for a holiday from Oz. We fell into love when we were together for 2 months. However, my feelings seem to have deminished in the last few months, I dont feel the same way about him. I also feel he's overprotective of me! He wont let me go out anywhere on my own, and we always are together. He's a very sensitive guy and has said he would literally die if i ever broke up with him. I feel under pressure, should I risk a break up? I dont know whether im with him just because of what he said!!!
2007-03-26 02:52:20 · 13 answers · asked by missyemma02 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just to mention, I am Dual Nationality so Im not breaking any laws by staying over too long on a Visa or anything!
2007-03-26 02:58:58 · update #1
I think you have answered your own question! If you have to question whether you love this guy then I don't think it is true love. I used to do the same with my ex boyfriend; it is easy to stay with someone just because it is safe and familiar. By saying he would literally die if you broke up with him is emotional black mail; and besides it is not healthy to be that dependent on your partner. I have been with my new guy for the last 6 months and I now know what love is; you don't need to question it; it just is. You can't live your life always wondering what if. Make a clean break there i so much more out there; you don't want to look back in a few years, inevitably feeling the same way about this guy as you do now and wishing you hadn't wasted the best years of your life with him. Start living your life for you. I hope you find love and happiness x
2007-03-26 03:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by kchick8080 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few warning bells here. Your boyfriend sound dangerously insecure and controlling. Not only is he possessive and jealous, trying to control your behaviour, he is also emotionally manipulating you. I suspect the more you try to pull away, the more controlling he will become as he fears losing you. Thank god you aren't married to him! If I were you I would sit down with him and tell him that his controlling behaviour is worrying and unacceptable to you. Ask him to see a counsellor with you to try and unearth the reasons why he behaves like this. He may respond with more emotionally manipulative behaviour. You must try to stay clear headed and stay above the situation. If he won't come with you for counselling, I would start to quietly and unobtrusively look for an exit. I you do decide to leave him, things may get very unpleasant. Threats of doing harm to himself, stalking, or trying to win you back in any way he can. If you do decide to leave, if at all possible try to disappear so that he can't contact you - and get on with your life. This man sounds emotionally damaged - don't be the casualty of his problems.
2007-03-26 03:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may still love him, but you certainly don't feel how you used to about him. Give the relationship a little more time for you to figure out if you want to stay or go. The answer will get clearer, I promise.
Forget what he says, it's not your problem that he is sensitive, it's his and he'll have to deal with it. If you want to break up with him, don't hesitate to do so, it'll be good for both of you.
2007-03-26 03:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Vena cava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? have you seen another lover? He is very protective because he is madly inlove with you. If a man loves you more than you love him is better than YOU as the woman loves more than him. In case of marriage, If a man loves the wife more than she loves him is better. He will surely care and adore her for the rest of his life.. specially the woman in response show love and respect. More than two years is good enough for marriage. However, try to tell him that you need air. Have a vacation to your mother or cousins hometown and have a break. Think positively
2007-03-26 03:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by vivs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him girl. I think it was more of infactuation more than love. Go back to Oz girlie, find someone else. You should NOT feel pressured to do anything if he wants to die, let him die! No guy should put that on your neck aiight! I wish you the best.
2007-03-26 03:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Suga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you that if you were truly in love with him, the love will never completely go away. Once you love somebody the feeling is always there, that is the way that we are made! As for your feelings being different, there are different kinds of love. If you have realized that you don't have the romantic love for him, it might be best to end the relationship.
2007-03-26 02:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him take control over ur life ... if u already feel that ur feelings for him have changed u should tell him and leave , dont let him blackmail u by telling about dieng and this things , its a very bad thing when people try this way to keep someone with them .
go on with ur life and enjoy
all the best x
2007-03-26 04:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To live under pressure does not give, its happiness never will be usable. The skill is you to leave to become vacant of it and to find somebody that can make to it happy.
Hawk of Justice.
Kisses
2007-03-26 03:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by Falcão da Justiça 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest sum time out have sum you time and that doesnt mean meeting other guys,just have sum space 2 breath and try not 2 contact each other and if after a week you havnt missed him n run back in 2 his arms then i would call it a day.sometimes you forget who YOU are and you as a couple become one person,never forget who you are!!!
2007-03-26 05:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be responsible for him if you break up. If he is that way with you now, just think how he will be a few more years from now.
2007-03-26 02:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋