I spent a weekend with a close friend and her children were just rude and ill mannered. When their mother did not admonish them, I tried to let them know that I was their mother's friend and not their friend, so they needed to treat me like an older person. It didn't help and it got to a point where I had to tell the kids that their behaviour was hurtful at which point they cliamed they were joking. When I was finally leaving, my friend apologized for their behaviour but also added 'You know how kids are'. I want to continue my 15 year old friendship but I simply can't tolerate the kids.
2007-03-26 02:51:30 · 8 answers · asked by almondice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thats a tough situation and theres not much you can do but keep your mouth shut and dont stay over. If you say anything about the kids it'll hurt your relationship. It sounds as if she is aware of the problem but isnt going to do anything about it but walk behind them trying to clean up the mess they make.
If you have kids as well you can talk to her about how you deal with it when your kids are out of line.
Sometimes we do outgrow friends. Sounds like this might be happening with you. Its a sad part of life, to leave a dear friend behind but when we no long have anything in common, its time to say good bye.
Wish you the best.
2007-03-26 02:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Peg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that her children are out of control, and that their behavior is beyond what's acceptable. Shrugging off bratty, hostile behavior as "That's how kids are" will result in the kids growing up to be mean spirited, self centered jackasses.
In short, if she doesn't straighten out her kids now, sooner or later, someone will beat them to a bloody pulp for stepping on the wrong toes.
2007-03-26 02:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't. You do not have to tolerate disrespect from anybody, no matter who's womb they came from. Your friendship is not dependent on each other's children. For some reason you enjoy here companionship and no reason to cut this off. Be honest and let her know you are not comfortable around her children. Do not play a blame game here. You have a right to choose who you want in your bubble. If she does not respect your right in this then perhaps you need to re-examine your relationship with her. Be creative and meet with her without their attendance. Yes it is that simple, don't make it hard.
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2007-03-26 03:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
talk to you friend on a one on one basses. let her know how you felt let her know what you felt was wrongly don by her children and make sure that you make her understand that you expect to be treated like and adult when it comes down to her kids and anyone kids.
2007-03-26 03:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the parent wont control their own kids, ,there is little you can do, ,If I was you, I would say see ya later,,, it isnt worth all the effort,
those kids are going to grow up to be moochers
2007-03-26 02:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then just talk on the phone from now on.
2007-03-26 02:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DITCH THIS WOMAN AND HER ILL-MANNERED BRATS. THIS WOMAN IS NO FRIEND IF SHE LET HER CHILDREN TREAT YOU THAT WAY! DITCH HER!
2007-03-26 03:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell u mate
2007-03-26 02:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by amy_baby123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋