sex question?

Question

ok people i have an issue on my hands. my fiance and i have recently been talking about bringing another female into our bedroom. she (my finace) has been talking about this for 3 months, and had the same girl in mind the entire time. these 2 girls have grown into best friends, and thru that my finace has learned just how permiscuous her friend really is. my finace tells me one day that she wants to do it, and the next day she sayd that this girl sleeps around so she cant do it. i just need some advice with this situation, my finace knows that all want to do is watch. i want this to happen, but if it does not i wont be crushed. i think she wants it to happen too, she is just nervous because she does work with this girl. im wondering if i should suggest finding someone different, maybe online, or just stop talking about it completley. im stumped. i know i might sound like a pig to you women, but isnt this every guys fantasy? my girl is hot and so is her friend. any help is appreciated.

Answer 1

I'd definitely find someone that neither of you know. I've heard all too many times about having a 3some with someone you know, and it just ends with problems.

Especially since she works with this girl. I see no good coming from it.

If you're both still interested, find a third party that you can get to know on a moderate basis, and one who isn't so entertwined in your life already.

Answer 2

Some of us guys do fantasize about such an encounter, but the sensible among us never take it beyond the realm of fantasy. Human emotions being what they are, it takes an incredibly strong relationship to be able to withstand such a strain. It rather sounds as if your woman is entirely insecure regarding the most intimate aspect of her personality - her sexuality. If that's the case, I'm afraid she has no business being anyone's fiancee until she's settled the issue. She's not being a pig but she is demonstrating a large measure of immaturity.
I suggest telling her the engagement is off until she decides what she really wants, and then backing off and allowing her to explore it fully. As part of my professional duties over the past forty-four years, I've counseled a number of couples for whom this was an issue - and all of them eventually decided that their futures did not include each other. And all the break-ups were unpleasant! The quicker they happened, though, the less painful those breakups were.

Answer 3

Don't think into it so hard. It's just sex...which honestly isn't all that important. If it pleasures all of you then fine. Also a woman who "sleeps around?" A better definition is needed of her and her sexual habits. It doesn't mean she is necessarily "dirty". Some people simply like to have sex more than others.
If your going to pursue this with you fiance, be sure it's what you both want and that it won't jeopardize her friendship with girl number 1 or 2.
If these women are as good a friend with your wife as you say, then their sexual prowess should have no bearing on this.

I hope all this helped. :)

P.S. there's an old saying: "Don't get your honey where you get your money!" Maybe her colleague ain't such a good idea...find one outside of her office.

Answer 4

You're a mess. Think about it, she is your fiance, yours, not this other loose girls fiance. This loose girls sleeps around, and to top it off she works with your fiance. You don't screw people you work with. It gets out and causes problems. Especially in this case because your gonna be sitting there watching. That drags three people into the mess, and to top it all off you intend to plan a wedding. No, buddy, you got it all wrong.

Dump the loosed girls and if your fiance still wants to do a little tryst find someone unknown to anyone who will be attending the wedding or has nothing to do with your employment situations. Sex with friends is a great way to totally screw up friendships, and that includes engagements.

Answer 5

Back off a little...give her a chance to get up the nerve to do it. Also, suggest having her go with her friend to get checked for STDs if she's worried about catching something. It's not rude to ask for such a thing these days. Plus, they will both feel good knowing they don't have anything. Just don't be too pushy.

Answer 6

I can totally appreciate that you and your gf have a 3some fantasy ;) It's THE most common fantasy for men AND women! If it were ME though, I would steer clear of anyone, no matter how "hot" they are, that is "promiscuous." That should be a HUGE red flag for you! But if you're going to go for it anyway please keep 2 things in mind: 1) USE CONDOMS&DENTAL DAMS(check your local health dept/planned parenthood or any drugstore) and 2)CONDOMS DON'T PROTECT 100% (Herpes and Genital Warts can be transmitted despite their use) All in all, my advice is to play with SAFE PARTNERS so you can thoroughly enjoy yourself with no regrets later on ;) HAVE FUN!!

Answer 7

I would try finding someone that neither of you know because bringing a third party who is familiar in the bedroom can cause problem later in the relationship

Answer 8

come on,, she is youe fiance,, ur wife to be,mother ofur children not some one who u fool around with
u should not be considring it, ur else ur relationship will go down
and ok ok its evryman biggest fantasy , but everyone has a crazy fantasy, u dont see every one runinig after it or itwill be a mess

Answer 9

Sex within the relationship of marriage is good between a husband and wife to develop a family relationship bearing children with the love of God.

Hbr 13:4 Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

Mat 5:27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
Mat 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

1Jo 2:16 For all that [is] in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.

Hbr 13:20 Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant,
Hbr 13:21 Make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is wellpleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom [be] glory for ever and ever. Amen.

Answer 10

No its not every guys fantasy. If you want to end your relationship with your fiance then have your threesome. I would also suggest to your girl that if she does go through with it, not to do it with her friend. I speak from experience on this. It will ruin your relationship.