This question was posted this morning, I would really like to know more answers whether be pos or neg....?

Question

When a 9 year old can except and love then why??????
My 9 year old grandaughter has a good concept for a 9 year old regarding homosexuality. Many would say that, that is very sad or wrong. She comes from a family that genetically has heterosexuals and homosexuals. She asked me the other day did I know Uncle (whoever) (my son) was gay. I said yes I do, then asked do you know what gay means. Her reply? (I obviously wont use correct names) Uncle John loves Uncle Gary just like Uncle Jeff loves Aunty Sara. Then after I said Yep you got it, out of the mouth of a babe, she said...Uncle John is always happy now, he does not seem sad anymore, There is a saying.."see through a childs eyes" meaning take away religion, polotics ect and you are left with such a pure loving outlook. It was enough for me to be so PROUD there is another child that will soon be an adult that will have such an understanding that alot of grown adu

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Answer 1

You should be proud, you have every reason to be. That is one very well adjusted child who has her family to thank for having exposed her to alternative lifestyles at an early age. When our children are not sheltered, that in itself is a beautiful thing.

Today's society is a far cry from yersteday's. Not that being gay is new or anything, it is just spoken about and seen, including PDA's on a regular basis. Thankfully I believe that a lot of the archaic mentality is dying off and part of me finds it hard to blame entire generations for inheriting their families wayof thinking. It is only recently that we have encouraged free thinking.

In no way do I see homoexuality as a choice, you either are or you aren't. I mean, who would consciously chose to be ridiculed and ostricized throughout their life. But I believe that everyone has the right to be happy and be able to chose who they spend their time/lives with.

They way your grandaughter explained it to you is beautiful and as it should be. We as adults and parents have a responsibilty to teach and embrace diversity because that is exactly the world we are living in. We have to talk and listen to our children and not just expect them to simply inherit or share in our beliefs. They should have an opinion and be encuraged to voice that opinion. In sharing their
opinions, they may actually be convincing enough to sway the opinion of others simply because they are not influenced bu politics, religion and just all around society's judgement of those that walk a different path. Children are incapable of judgment, that is taught which is quite unfortunate. Children take things at face value and expect the minimum in return: kindess, love, understanding, patience and respect. Yes, I believe that we have to show children age appropriate respect if we expect them to respect in return.

I have to add that your grandaughter is quite intuitive to have been able to see "Uncle John's) unhappiness disipate when he found "Uncle Gary". You watch that one, you never can tell what pearl of wisdom she will drop on you next.

Children and really quite simple with their reasoning, it is usually us as adults that complicate things.

Answer 2

Be proud you have instilled in her understanding of something sometimes very confusing. In our world today these are realationships that society does not want to accept, by bringing children up to understand it is one less hater we have in our world. One less person walking our streets not being friends with someone because of who they love. I personally have quite a few gay and lesbian friends and family who on a daily basis get targeted with rude comments because of their sexuality. And in all honesty it is such a shame because if some of these haters would give them half a chance they would see they are not as different as them. We all pretty much want the same things in life and most everyone just wants that one special person to love! I think it's great you have raised your daughter with such an open mind. I hope to do the same with both my children. I hope someday many more in our world will have a more open mind as well.

Answer 3

I often use the insight of my nieces and nephews when discussing things with people. I think that it's really how they are raised/how they are introduced to the concept of homosexuality, and how others around them react to it. My sisters (3 older) and mother, along with the rest of my extended family, don't act like there is anything different from me (being gay) and my sisters (all heterosexual).

My nieces and nephews are growing up knowing that Aunt Me is with Aunt Jane (not using proper names for privacy), and that we're just like every other loving couple in the family.

Children, unlike many adults, don't see it for the sexual aspect of the relationship alone. Too many adults focus on that when they voice their disdain for homosexuality. A child, however, will only see the love and the joy that comes from that loving relationship. Children have not been tainted, so to speak.

I'm always happy to hear stories like yours. Thank you for sharing!

Answer 4

Yes just if we could see everything through the eyes of a 9yr old! We would eat candy all day, never go to school or work, get in childish argument with are peers, not have a lick of common sense, and oh yes think its cool for people to be gay.

Answer 5

That is beautiful and a child is pure love and you will be surprised at what they know, it's us adults that tell them that such and such is right or wrong, I am just happy that your family has and embraces gays and doesn't question the reason that they are gay.

Answer 6

You can be very proud of your granddaughter!
I have three nieces who've always known my wife since we were together from before they were born. They say her at parties, holidays and so on and they treat her just like an aunt, just as they treat me. No one day, when one off my nieces got an education in school about homosexuality, she came to me and said (she was about 16) that it was there and then in that classroom that she only had come to realize that we are gay...she never thought of it before because it has always been so natural for her... I took it as a great compliment!
You did a great job in raising your children!

Answer 7

Your son is lucky to have such an enlightened mother, and what a wonderful story to post! Thank you for sharing, maybe there is hope for us yet! HUGS!

Answer 8

thank you for that posting. As it hits the nail on the head. The child see's what love really is. And you are right religioin and politics are out to destroy us even if we are not gay.
I am not gay so I can not understand the concept. But I respect it and I think that is all that counts we need to learn to respect each other.

Answer 9

She sounds like a very bright, open-minded, inquisitive young lady. Kudos to those of you who raised her not to be a hateful bigot. I'm a 38-year-old woman and I was raised in a family that never preached racism, homophobia or other forms of bigotry. It feels good to be raised to be accepting of others who are different and not have to walk around with this burden of hatred on your shoulders. Bigotry is poisonous. No good comes out of it.

Answer 10

That is fantastic, well done it is amazing to me that children can simlify what our world leaders can barely stand to talk about - homosexuality is'nt a problem or something that needs to be fixed just love in a different form - your grandaughter is wise beyond her years.