I have been married for three years and have a two year old daughter. I want out of my marriage and dont know how to tell my wife I want a divorce. I have been not happy for about a year now, Its hard to act happy when your not. I just dont know how to even bring this up.
2007-03-26 02:15:39 · 26 answers · asked by itsgino28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't think that divorce is the answer. Ask yourself why you are unhappy with her. Is it something that she does or did? Then, go talk to her. Tell her the feelings that you are having. Maybe just changing your lives a bit might improve the situation. Maybe it's a rut that you have gotten into. A child can bring on too much routine for an adult who is used to doing whatever they wwanted when they wanted. But, the important thing is to TALK TO HER. She might be feeling the same or this could come as a complete shock. Another question to consider: Do you still love her? What about her did you fall in love with and are they still present? Did she change after marriage? Tell her these things. It might help your marriage and divorce can hurt a child deeply. She may think that it was her fault that her parents split.
I wish you so much luck!!
2007-03-26 02:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by Boo Boo Head 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just want out all together?
Did something happen? Do you want someone else?
Usually when people are unhappy, they try counciling or atleast tell their spouse how they feel.
If you pretend your happy, of course your going to be unhappy. You should of told your wife you were unhappy a year ago, then maybe you guys could of worked towards fixing what needed to be fixed to make your relationship work.
I would be honest with your wife, and tell her that your not happy, and that for your daughters sake you want to end the marriage now when its not so horrible that your daughter is effected and caught in the middle of you two. Because you cant keep living like this.
However, I do think you should try everything in your power to make the relationship work, maybe your wife would be willing to compermise and help make you happy. You will never know if you dont tell her how you feel.
2007-03-26 02:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Talk about giving up so soon. Are you a quitter or a fixer? Do you love your daughter? Or do you care more about yourself?
This woman gave you a family! She trusted you and loved you enough to have your child. After 3 years you want to bail out just because your unhappy? How about making it happy?
Some people don't realize that a relationship is exactly what they make it. Believe it or not you can take control of your relationship. I mean be in control in a healthy way. It may take some time. But often times the work is worth the effort.
If you'd like you can email me an sound off. I will listen.
2007-03-26 02:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why are you unhappy? You have a daughter with this woman and your daughter needs her parents espescially this young. You couldn't have just woken up one day and gone i'm unhappy i want out. There has to be something that has made you feel that way. Are you willing to try and make it work at all or do you just want to walk out and that's it. For a relationship to work you both need to be working at it and both be willing to work through the problems that you's are facing. You took a vow to be with your wife forever and now as soon as you are unhappy you want to walk away. Don't you think you deserve to give it one last go and really try at making it work, you's have a young daughter to think of and have you thought about how this may impact her life. I think you should go and get some couples therapy and at least try and work it out and if it doesn't then at least you can walk away not feeling guilty that you didn't try. Please just give it one more chance you never know it may just change your whole outlook on life.
2007-03-26 02:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want out? Marriage is about compromise and understanding. Relationships go through their ups and downs alot and maybe youre both just stressed out about your new child and feel overwhelmed
Are you sure you dont love her anymore? Even if you arent "in love" with her.. do you think you ever could be again?
You should really think this through and talk to your wife about it. I would try to work things out because you have a child
If you can't seem to be happy together after trying, then go to the next step
2007-03-26 02:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by Starlight*Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always helps to go back and remember how things were before you felt that way, like look at old photos with you and her when you were happy, and go to the places you went to when you were dating. Allot of marriages get stale after awhile, i would think long and hard about it before making a big decision like that, and you do have your daughter to think about. And also take her to a movie and have real one on one time with her. Above all always be honest with your partner communication is important. Good Luck
2007-03-26 02:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are not happy have you thought about going to couple's therapy?? Do you want to try to work it out or just want to get out of the marriage??? What aren' t you happy what are the reasons??? You can see the glass half empty or half full. Tell her you are not happy and see how she reacts to it. Let her in on it b/c if you haven't communicated anything how would she know??? I think though in marriage you should try to at least figure out whats wrong and work on it but you migth completely disagree and just want out.
2007-03-26 02:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by css22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....... U have to bring this to the table , the sooner the better for all involved. Living a lie on a daily basis is rough.. so step up to the plate be a man and let her know that the marriage is no longer working for u. it's going to hurt but it needs to be done.
2007-03-26 02:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by pokvet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best way to go about this, try telling her that you are not happy and you should be ready totell why you are not happy maybe there is some way to help like couseling somewhere. but honesty is the best way and it should come from you. no its not gonna be easy feeling will be hurt. if you cant get the words out try writing her a letter and let her read it but sit with her just dont write a letter and leave. she is gonna have question.
2007-03-26 02:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to convert it into story telling first and see her reaction. from there, you can draw an action on what to do next. oh, my gosh, i just wish that it will be light when you break your
decision to her. i was in that situation and the hurt i felt was really sooo much that i just want to drop dead. but i fought the pain the best way i know how and now, i am free and able to
live life as peaceful and comfortable as can be. good luck.
2007-03-26 02:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋