I just hate it when you pour your heart out to a friend over a relationship problem, and it's like they are quick to judge that you are breaking up, or say " I knew it will be like that", because sometimes friends want to feel comfort and wish that you share the same fate like them..I guess it just makes them feel good about themselves to know that you have problems like them.. Friends are weird sometimes. Anybody think so too?
2007-03-26
01:05:06
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She-whom-shall-not-be-named
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Family & Relationships
➔ Marriage & Divorce
My point is when you're seeking comfort, negativity is the least thing you want to hear...
2007-03-26
01:14:23 ·
update #1
Me thinks you gave a very good answer to your own question..
2007-03-26 01:09:17
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answered by Jo Blo 6
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that is so true! and they get so mad if later you work things out!! it's like they are so glad that you are having problems, it's because it's so hard now a days to be able to tell a friend a problem and they really do care to help and give you the right advice, there's a lot of jealousy out there, you never know how they feel and might even be after ur boyfriend, so dont take advice from fools!
2007-03-26 01:11:59
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answered by Rachel<3 6
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This is very true. I have a friend who's marriage is one big problem after another for ten years. And I can't even tell her something small like I am mad that my husband hid the remote for the game because she jumps to the conclusion that he is a jerk and I should leave him and never get married again. I think it is very weird too, and it does seem like she wants me to be as unhappy as her.
2007-03-26 01:20:42
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answered by Trisha 5
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yes, a lot of friends like that. i met a lot already. when they see you happy seems they are waiting when you cry. and some doesn't want to listen and some say they are fed up listening. and instead of giving encouragement and word of wisdom, you even heard that's your lesson.i can say i am not a perfect friend, but i know how to listen. this questions just reminds me my on-line friend, we were best of friends even were miles away, but then one day she never never talked to me because they are having a problem with his bf and i am very much happy with my love life. i send her a lot of offline messages but she never cared to message me back. and then i asked myself and my bf, if i done wrong. is she doesn't like me to be happy? i was there when she had a problem. but then i think she is not satisfied what i have shown to her. i was hurt so much. and now i had a trauma already having on line best friend.. i don't give much time to chat to anybody else anymore. that's why i am here on yahoo answer. its better to be here rather than talk to insensitive people.
2007-03-26 01:32:59
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answered by taurust_girl27 3
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Well, my boyfriend lives on the other side of the planet, everytime i tell a certain friend we've had a fight, she says " Well, you knew long distance was hard, what can i tell you, will it really surprise you if this doesn't work?"
It's weird... but she's still my mate.
i guess we all need someone thats going to be positive, negative and realistic. :)
2007-03-26 01:10:36
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answered by S 1
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you seem to have worked it out for yourself so the only thing you need to do is work out why you care that other people jump to conclusions. You've already worked out what's going on and why they do it. Now work out what you get out of asking them and talking about your life
2007-03-26 01:11:18
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answered by the phoner 2
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sometimes people avoid their own issues, and this gives them someone ELSE to talk about/focus on.
everyone has problems.
i dont usually discuss my relationship issues with friends. it's none of their business.
take care.
2007-03-26 01:54:35
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answered by Anonymous
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No, that doesn't happen. Keep your information about your relationships to yourself; that's always the best.
2007-03-26 06:25:20
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answered by Lydia 7
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yes my bf is 11 years younger than me and people say dumb things about that, but you cant let it bother you
2007-03-26 01:10:29
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answered by kat_luvr2003 6
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