how do you get rid of all your grudges?

Answer 1

It's not that hard. You just have to realize that it's a lot smarter to get ahead than to get even. It's a lot more satisfying too.

Of course, it doesn't hurt to simply write unpleasant people out of your life. No need to wish them harm, no need to do anything bad to them, just arrange things so that you don't have to deal with them.

Answer 2

Pray for the strength to forgive or if you don't pray then meditate on it. Forgiveness must be achieved for your Own Good!! The other person may not know or care if you have forgiven them, and it may be someone who has already passed away, but you have to keep trying to find the ability to forgive because it will feel like 400 lbs of weight has fallen off your back the day you forgive.

It doesn't mean you can forget. Just forgive. That's hard too.
I don't mean to make it sound easy, because it can take many years. I finally started making up excuses for the person (such as possibly abused as a child, maybe a learning deficiency, maybe too much anger over other things in his life, etc. etc.) until the grudge finally fell off my back and shoulders.

It is for YOU, not the person you have to forgive.
And remember, it doesn't mean we forget. That 'forgive and forget' business is just a stupid old saying. We have to remember it so we can protect ourselves and others in the future. Good luck! @8-]

Answer 3

I think it has to do with the grudge...if it's a big grudge Hun ask yourself is it really worth holding onto and being so mad? see I was molested as a child given up for adoption and hurt very badly by allot of people and I found myself mad, not all the time...things would set it off.I would have a dream about people that hurt me and would wake in the morning so angry...I knew I was being mean and hateful to people around me but could not stop the anger...I finally realized it was all the people that had hurt me...I was holding so many grudges it was running my life....I realized that the people in my life now should not suffer this pain...no one should...so I sat down and thought about it and just decided.....the people that hurt me were not worth all this...I would either let my [past make me or break me and hell no they were not going to win this one...they messed up my life as a child it was me who was letting them mess up my life as an adult...so really sit back and think are they worth you hurting and being mad? are they worth you loosing friends and some times family over? no...so take the grudges and turn it into something wonderful and soon you will see that you don't have a grudge any more.....I hope this helped Hun...I know its hard but there really not worth it......love thine enemies........God Bless and let me know if this helps........ttyl....

Answer 4

What I do is let go of the hunting memories and focus on other things.I know that its a very hard thing to do...but we have to....or else it will eat us alive.By thinking of what has happened and getting angry and carrying it as a grudge, will only spoil the pleasure of the current moment....

When it gets on to my nerves I try and get involved in some kind of physical activities like jogging ,walking, dancing, playing TT... It helps...
Try and do something u like doing...music, movies,books, arts... anything..
Just keep urself occupied.

Answer 5

I give it over to God. I pray and ask God to help me forgive and to heal my relationships with others.
The ones I dislike may never change, but I certainly feel better, because I don't carry the burden of a grudge anymore.

Answer 6

Options:
1) Religion (Look into it... people can find fulfillment through spirituality)
2) Self-Reflection (Take a vacation, take some time off, think about it, and most of all, take your time! Space is important. Find distance when you need it.)
3) Reading Books (This can help you relate. If it doesn't, it might take your mind off of your conflict.)
4) Support from Friends/Family (Hopefully a readily available option for you. They can help!)
5) Confront the person face to face and resolve the issue once and for all. "Bury the hatchet." (Take it with a grain of salt and man up.)
6) Revenge (It has worked for me in the past.)

Answer 7

I would just tell myself to forgive them who had done something bad or said something awful to me, because they just couldn't understand me.

Because they don't understand, that's why we should forgive and forget. Just too bad they are not on the same boat with me.

We will not be able to change what couldn't or shouldn't have been done or happened, but we can make sure, or rather, try our best to avoid and prevent that the same bad thing wouldn't have a chance to occur again.

Don't let those unworthy things get the better of you and make you feel down.
Cheers.

Answer 8

I just let them go and be at peace with my self. I'm usually at peace with my self because I often think of the other person who is most likely twisting in the wind, wondering if I'm going to do some thing to get even.

I don't bother ever trying to get even, I'd rather that they wonder about if I'm going to do some thing. Like I said they twist in the wind while I'm living a great life that's care free of worries.

So I guess you could say that I let them see me happy and doing well in my life, bugs the heck out of them. They usually end up all twisted up in side. So smile as it makes people wonder what you are up to! : )

Answer 9

If you don't see the person who caused the grudges then you just close that chapter and move on.
If you still see that person then minimise contact with the person.
People say they need closure to move on well if you want it take it, close the chapter and move on.

Answer 10

as people alwayz say you can forgive someone without forgetting and ask yourself "how important is it" cuz 9 out of 10 times itz not that serious and the only way to truely get rid of your grudge is with god's will

Answer 11

Watch the movie "The Grudge"...and you can find out!