On saturday my male friend said he'll come see me and have a few drinks, it got to about half 11 and he still hadn't turned up but he was texting me saying he was just with his girlfriend and she's being boring and said i'll be there soon...it got to about half 12 i was getting really annoyed by then as i was staying up just for him coz we haven't seen eachother in ages ..we've been friends 8 years since we were at school we're both 19 now.....anyway i texted him saying r u coming or not and he said yeah i'll be 5 minutes ...i waited til 1am still nothing...then he texted me at 2am saying actually im still with my girlfriend im staying here the night....i was so mad he couldnt have told me earlier he wasn't coming so i could of went to bed earlier!! i told him to basically F off when he tried to speak to me in the morning...we havent spoken since...i dunno if i was wrong to say that though?
2007-03-26 00:37:11 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Omg! i just spoke to him now and he said im being pathetic!! grrrrrrr
2007-03-26 02:20:49 · update #1
Of course your not wrong!!!
Your friend should've called you but instead ditched you 4 his girlfriend. But just give it some time. Having a BF is like having an extra body. Sometimes you get scabs and bruises but just give it time and the hurt will go away and the problem will be gone. So, your choice; Forgive him, or forget him.
2007-03-26 00:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by kjdhflkdsfkjd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just how is expecting a little bit of respect off your supposed best friend being pathetic? Would he have liked you to keep him waiting all night for nothing? No. He'd soon be spitting his dummy out and throwing his toys in the corner.
Apologise for what? Being mad at being kept up all night for nothing, weekend or not? It takes 2 minutes to text saying something like; Sorry, I don't know how long this is going to take, can we take a rain check on tonight and I'll call you again when I'm free? Friends don't take the p*** out of each other then play the injured party; if true friends make a mistake, they hold their hands up and take what's coming to them.
2007-03-26 02:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling my sister is the same last week she asked if I wanted o do something on Friday nght get a few bottles of wine and a have a girly night in so I cancelled my night out with a good friend as I knew she was feeling a bit down having split up with her latest boy friend, spent a fortune on booze and food 9.30 came no sign of her tried ringing her three times,eventually when I did get through she informed me that he had been on the phone they had made up then she told me she was on her way to his house in a taxi that she was in a hurry and coudnt talk, I was furious she never apologised but I made a mental note to myself not to put myself out again for selfish people, I wont be such a push over in future, I trhink you did the right thing why should you apolgise for him messing you around?Some people are just born selfish!
2007-03-26 03:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He owes you an apology! What kind of friend keeps you waiting til the early hours then blows you off like that!?? He should have said he was thinking of staying at his girlfriends and not kept you waiting like that. You should maybe remind him that friends mean something and a little respect would not hurt. You waited for him and he blew you off at the last minute, I would be mad too!! Tell him he is being unreasonable expecting you to put your life on hold like that!
2007-03-26 03:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right to be annoyed maybe not to tell him to f off but you definitley had a right to be upset at the end of the day he could of told you alot earlier he wasn't coming however it is a silly thing to be arguing over so i'd ring him say listen i'm sorry i told you to f off and i'm sorry bout fighting with you but can you see why i was upset i'm sure he'll say yeh n say sorry too then its all sorted. Good friends are hard to come by so if you have one hold onto it good luck x
2007-03-26 00:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although that is quite annoying, I'd say text your friend and arrange to go out for a drink . When you meet up you have every right to tell him you were annoyed, but then let that be the end of it. You certainly don't need to apologise , but there are bigger problems in the world, and it would be ridiculous to lose a friend over something so petty. Listen to me- its not worth it!!
2007-03-26 00:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by emma l2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are human and they make mistakes, You don't know what he was dealing with when he was with his girlfriend. She may have been jealous of him coming to see you and she may have been throwing a fit. He maybe tried really hard to get out of there, but could not without damaging his relationship. You need to forgive him for his mistake, you both need to apologize to each other for the things that you did and said to each other. Why do we feel so free to hurt the people that we care about?
2007-03-26 00:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by gigi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good god i would have told him to F off as well he didn't need to keep you hanging on that long if he was any true friend he would have told you before 11 he wasn't coming round,Does his g/friend have issues with you being together maybe she's stopped him coming over, Give him time to apologise to you and tell him in future to tell you sooner you could have made new plans.
2007-03-26 00:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong for saying that, he told you last minuet and stuff, he should of just said there's a possiblity that I might not come don't wait up for me, or If I'm not there by 12 or 1 am then you should just go to bed or something like that, he should apologize to you, you owe him nothing...
2007-03-26 00:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Aaliyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he made you WAIT>>> w/ no call ... What a disrepectful thing to do . You've been friends for a long time & you want the best for him but it shouldn't be hurting you though. Yey you were wrong to tell him that . You should have at least heard him out. Let him know that it wasn't very nice but you love him. Tell him ... Next time ...there better not be a next time!!!!
2007-03-26 01:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋