I am tired of having relationships with men who expect me to support them emotionally and financially. I am 29 and am really annoyed by it now. Do you think I attract this because I am a nurse and am very caring? I want to be looked after for a while, any suggestions??
2007-03-26 00:13:47 · 16 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well I'm a nurse too and yes in someway i attract exactly the same. i believe that because we are both in a job where we care for others men lets this go to there head.
start to explain to men that expect you to be there mother that you job is to care for others but you personal life isn't to mother or totally look after them.... also a percentage of men are mummys boys..... and therefore still need looking after when they want a relationship.... i am with a guy that respects my job but doesn't abuse my caring nature... good luck..
2007-03-26 00:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by just_jemma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, Disco St. is right......most of the men in your age bracket are like that.
I suggest you firstly, seek men who are a bit older (if you haven't already). There's nothing wrong with you dating someone who's 7 or 8 years older, you'll find men by then are a bit more settled in their career and financially. Secondly, simply "think" about who you want to attract and project that to people you meet. In other words, don't go around comforting the 25 year old boys who come your way (or any other age for that matter). I have a tendency to be the same as you, but I started realizing that I was coming off that I really was attracted to the guys I was simply trying to be nice to and guide. It's just my nature. There's NOTHING wrong with saying to yourself and other people, "I'm looking for a man who's financially stable, and knows who he is and what he wants." You worked hard to become a nurse didn't you? Do expect the same in return from a partner.
2007-03-26 01:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you fist meet them do you do all kinds of things like serving them meals, picking up after them,or tell them to relax, basically take care of all their needs more or less?
Been there myself....best advice if you are stop doing it and if your really a caring person which sounds like you are then make it a policy to not lend money to any man until your in a long term relationshil or married...good luck girl...a great guy is just around the corner.
2007-03-26 00:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Dodgegirl62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should try married men. There are loads of men out there who will accept you and take care of you the way you care for them.
I think you have to start fr the fact that if u are dating someone make sure he is the type that reciprocate gestures.
A man with job is ok not someone with on and off job.
The fact that u r a nurse doesnt mean you are rich but some lazy bastards out there thinks when u r a nurse you earn a lot even though nurses do but its not an avenue to rip them off. Limit yourself to spending when u meet someone and dont discuss bout your earnings.
2007-03-26 00:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by discover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on your first date, ask him that first question above right away. Get it out of the way, find out early so you don't waste your time. Ask him if he has a jakuzie. My dad gave the hospital the one finger salute when we were driving away from it on his last day. He said near the end of his career, he hated listening to peoples' problems after being a psychiatrist for over 25 years.
Identify pragmatically what bugs you and what type of man has those qualities and stay away from them.
try this trick Ask your next date all about their parents. You will know a lot about them in a short period of time that way.
2007-03-26 00:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by mark [mjimih] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is because of the reason most of the people whom you meet some way or other connected to the Hospital environment and hence this situation. Come out in the open and state nothing of your nursing and start a new relationship. You are just fine and will do wonderful.
2007-03-26 00:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by tnkumar1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to change this , like anybody in any situation , human nature will allow and welcome assistance and upon this the continuation for a time.. but if it is accepted as habit ie , just something you do , then either stop it limit it , or reason about it , mainly talk about it , if your partner cares back , he will comply and accomadate your worries (just dont expect it on day 2 - we are men , we are like kids on wizzy dizzies , if we come off we will be disoreintated with the change) so sit us down on a milk crate , and talk to us.
2007-03-26 00:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by DSV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feminists of the 70s (disco era) taught the boys of that era to be total losers. They did this on purpose. Men born in the 70s are mostly ill-equipped due to the total emasculation and partial destruction of males in general.
I suggest you keep looking, but you may be seeking them out unknowingly.
2007-03-26 00:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have a caregiver personality, and seem to attract what u are. so change how u respond to these men, find someone to look after u, and when u see one who is needy get rid of them and keep trying until u meet who u want.
2007-03-26 00:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
outside of work you need to show your personality that wants to be taken care of, don't be so accomodating to men like these. Look for men who offer or want to take care of you, ignore the ones who want to be "babied"
2007-03-26 00:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by sdrlover2002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋