My wife was a nude model?

Question

My wife was a nude model?
My wife used to be a nude model you know for top shelf mens magazines.

I love my wife alot, but this is churning me up at the thought that she did this. Its like something special has been taken away, and hate the fact that she was involved in this industry.

She is nothing like what you imagine these girls to be like, but I cant stop thinking about it and what happened, its making me so miserable.

I dont know how a women can do this - the positions the photographers make you pose in, and basically just being used!

I know there is a possibility that these photos could come back to haunt us too.

What are you thoughts, and how would you get over something like this if it was your other half?

Answer 1

Your feelings are understandable. You love her and feel the intimacy between you has somehow been violated. You have to come to terms with the fact that the job was her choice and she isn't doing it now. The woman she is now is completely different to the woman she was then but her experiences helped shape her into the woman you love. You need to sort out how you feel though before it starts to affect your relationship

Answer 2

Don't lie to yourself that she is "nothing like what you imagine these girls to be like", because she is. Like "these girls", she took the pictures and made those poses for the same reason that most of the girls did. That was the choice she made at that time, she wasn't think about getting married and have a family in the future, otherwise, she would might not have took those picture.
I always heard the best way for us to get over something is to face the facts and don't try to find excuses to hide the reality. If you want to get over this, you should accept the fact you married a women who is, and did what she did. You should also try to understand the fact of her had taken those picture doesn't take away her good qualities. Isn't fare you base your judments focusing on only one thing. Try to see the other side of the coin. How is she as a wife ? as a friend ? Is she honest? Is she a good mother ? Can you trust her ? What has she done that hurt you? After you get the answers for questions like this, you will have a better idea about your wife and this feeling you have felt about her, might be dissmissing and maybe estinguished for good with the pass of the time. Nothing like a day after another, you will get to know her more and more day after day.
I have one friend that posed nude in a males magazine (playboy). At the time she did it, she wasn't going through any financial dificultie in her life, she did it because it was an opportunity to buy a house. On the age she posed nude, most women didn't have a house, so there was no reason for she did what she did. She became a really good friend of mine. At the time of the release of the magazine, I didn't go to her parties or anything like that, and she understood my position completly and respected. Any kind of relationship is based on respect, if your wife respects you, you should have a better evaluation about her. I had others friends that never took any nude picture for magazine, but behave like a low life and have none respect for nobody or nothing, that's why they are not my friends anymore and the other one, is still my friend. We respect each other and know exactly where each others place.

Answer 3

I know it would be hard to get over something like your wife being a nude model..Buuut you have to look at it this way: This was in the past. I'm sure if she knew she was going to meet, Fall in love with, And marry you then her choices in the past would have been different. But alas, There is know way to tell until it actually happens =0 Hoped that helped a little, Good luck :)

Answer 4

First of all, Did you know about this before you got Married ? If you did it is something you should of thought of more first. And Just try to put it behind you. So what if she is a nude model, Most men just can fantasize about. But you have the real thing. It is in the past and it is over. You just need to keep moving forward. Good luck

Answer 5

I do try to be a positive role model to others, actually I was just thinking about that today. I think it comes from me being a big sister (like a second mom) to my sister who had some emotional/behavioral issues. I'm not saying I'm perfect or even close but I do want to feel like people could look at me in some ways now and eventually in the future that I'm a good example to copy in my actions/speech. Like I said, I'm working on a few things but would like to get there.

Answer 6

If it's in the past, leave there. it If the pics show up somewhere (are they on the interne Can she get the negs from wherever she posed.)

If it's in the past, leave it there. If this is causing trouble between you go to marriage counseling. (i'm sure they have heard a LOT worse.

Maybe some young girl out there will learn something from this. Sometimes things can come back and bite ya in the butt.

But really LET IT GO Ask your self if you've ever done anything you would like to take back.

Answer 7

You need to have a long chat with her.
She must tell you everything that happened and you must then put it behind you. If you love her and want her then forgive her and move on.
I also suggest that you go see a pastor and discuss this issue and maybe try some counselling with a pastor.

Go to a Seventh Day Adventist church pastor in your area, All SDA pastors have degree's and training in marriage counselling and the best thing is that it is FREE.They are very equiped and will help you a great deal. Check out www.adventist.org for details of a local church pastor.

Good Luck

Answer 8

I totally understand what you are saying...pictures like these can always come back to haunt you.

in the news one teacher in florida had to resign when it was found out that she did a amateure porno in college..one of the students found it online and past the info around..

it's sorta like getting a tattoo..sure alot of people might not ever see it..but it will always be around

I'm not sure if your madder than she did these photos or that she didn't tell you about them.

BUT she is your wife...you marry the good with the bad...

perhaps the best thing is to just let the pics and her past history collect dust

Answer 9

What are you afraid of? She married you. If this bothers you so much, why did you marry her? Most of those models are normal people who posed because they needed money like everyone else, or they hoped it would lead to better modeling or acting jobs, not because they have some psycho-sexual issues. The only problem here is in your own mind.

Answer 10

I would be so proud... I would think that this girl married me and no one in the world will ever have her... look and stare at her probably... but have her? u-uh(no) I can have this beautiful girl and someone special to me and she would be the one I would be making love to for the rest of my life, while others jerk off about it... you know what I mean? You got the whole girl man... the whole package... Brain, Skills, Attitude, Love, Devotion, Caring, Commitment, not to mention... the Body... You got it all man... just learn to defend her because she is a precious rose for you... If someone asks... say "So what? she married me!" and then smile broadly... ;-) You are the envy of a lot of men... They don't know about it yet... he he he