I am 21 weeks pregnant and jsut found out that my baby has enlarged ventricles suggesting ventriculomegaly (19mm) and an absence of a corpus callosum. the chance of a viable life is 25% should i take the risk?
2007-03-26 00:06:49 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Angeleyes only YOU can make such a desicion like this, NOT the people on here. If you need to talk it over with someone, try your GP or a councellor, but not here.
2007-03-26 00:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Robin 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For the third answerer: NOWHERE in the Bible does it say that God will not give you more than you can handle. He just promised that He wouldn't leave you. It will not be more than you can handle if you lean on Him. I'm sorry Angel, but that misinterpretation drives me insane.
As for what you should do, now. You need to make a decision that you can live with. Normally, when a structural abnormality has been found by ultrasound, it's rarely wrong, nowdays (kidneys, heart, neural tube defects, or brain). Although the statistics that doctors sometimes give are grim, sometimes, there's always a chance that they're wrong.
Then again, a lot of times, they're right.
I've never been in your situation, so, this is difficult to answer. I suppose that you need to make the choice that you can live with. Regardless of what some people are going to say to this question, this is NOT a typical abortion. This is one of the ONLY reasons that I feel that it's okay to terminate a pregnancy.
Unfortunately, this is your choice. As easy as it would be to be able to ask someone what you should do, you are going to have to live with the decision that you make, so PLEASE choose carefully.
2007-03-26 07:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, what a thing to happen! I'm not sure what the diagnosis means so I don't know the medical ins and outs of it but i think you need to get a bit more information. Will the baby need special care after birth, will the baby need care over a longer period of time? Can you carry of for another 20 weeks knowing it may end in heartache? Then there is the option of terminating you baby, which i'm sure you've bonded with already and dealing with the consequences of that. I'm sure i'm being very little help but i don't think anyone can really advise you one way or the other on this one. I would think that knowledge is the key to your decision, once you have all the facts relating to either decision you will be better placed to choose. My heart goes out to you and i hope that you are looked after properly by family and friends whatever the outcome. x x
2007-03-26 07:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do not take advice from people on this forum regarding a subject like this. Talk to your doctor in DETAIL about what this really means for your child. Find out what would happen if the baby is born and lives, will the baby be handicapped, and how badly? How long will the baby live, and will it suffer? Be informed befpre you make any decisions. No matter what you do, it won't be easy, so make sure you have all the facts. I wish you all the best on this, you will make the right decision no matter what it is!!!!!
2007-03-26 07:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by richnjoli 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only YOU can decide what you should do. I am sorry this has happened you must be devastated.
However are you asking the right people. No offence meant at all but most folk in here are against termination so you may not get balanced info.
I think you need to look into what the chances are for the baby to survive and what quality of life that child would have.
It is all very well saying god has given you a child but....if it's going to have a bad life or not survive only you can decide.
2007-03-26 07:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Poor you honey. I don't think anyone can answer this question for you. I've had a termination but that was because I didn't want to be a mum - to be asked to make this decision when you do must be absolutely heart-rending.
I think you need to keep talking to your doctors about all the outcomes. Even if the baby lives what does that mean? What will be their quality of life, what impact will that have on you and your partner? I do think that sometimes risks are worth taking but only if they don't lead to more pain.
My thoughts are with you.
2007-03-26 07:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Leapling 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some people answering these questions need their brains testing "Only you can answer that" - God if she knew the answer, would she really be asking the question???
But in my opinion, I think you should, I don't know anything about this condition, but you have to ask yourself, what kind of quality of life will the child have, i mean I'm sure you know a lot more than me about it with what the doctors will have told you but, will it be able to have a good life and be happy with this condition; and, 25% is a very high risk, and not going through with the pregnancy will cause a lot less pain than seeing a child die in your hands.
Thanks my opinion anyhow, good luck with everything that happens with this, really.
2007-03-26 10:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by bigrichyhello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey i'm really sorry what a terrible thing to deal with
Speaking as someone who has lost a newborn I wouldn't wish this on anyone
You need to look into your heart,
There is a risk that the baby may be ok,
Doctors don't always get it right, but most of the time they do
If I was in your situation I would have the baby,
I would always wonder about the baby if I didn't.
But you have to do what's right for you.
What do you want to do ???
2007-03-26 08:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should discuss this with your babys father only you can make the decision. Asking for advice is ok but go with your own instinct and follow your heart. The question is could you cope, do you have support and could you live with the decision to terminate contact your midwife she can advise you further on the risks involved. But please please think this through properly you may not be able to get over the guilt of a termination and remeber this baby is a person now could you really go through with terminating a little person that has been dependant on you for the last 19 weeks?
2007-03-26 08:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear - only you can answer that question. The same thing happened to my daughter, she had a much higher risk, and decided to terminate. She made the right decision, as the baby had no chance of surviving more than a few hours. Think it over very carefully - good luck.
2007-03-26 07:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by celianne 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hi angel eyes, something similar happened to my friend and her baby lived for an hour after birth, but she at least had the chance to meet her baby and yes she had to bury her,but having and knowing your baby, is better than it never getting the chance to meet its mum and you always regretting the decision you made, as termination no matter wha circumstance will always carry a weight of guilt. i say have the baby,and keep your thoughts positive for it. as you will be a better person for having your baby and letting it have a life no matter how short it will be, or not, also remember babys are little fighters and what might be a 25% chance for some could be a 50% for yours, please think about it carfuly.. good luck no matter what
2007-03-26 07:29:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋