I have a friend who has been going through a lot lately and i've been worried about her. I tell her that she can talk to me whenever she isn't feeling her best but i'm not sure if she really knows that i do care. So many people now a days don't listen. Ugh. That just makes other people lose hope in trusting people. Some of us really do listen but those who don't mess it up for us. Not to mention for the people that need someone to talk to. How can i really assure that she really knows that i'm here for her? And when she does (if she does) what can i tell her? "Everything will get better" seems too much of a cliche thing to say. I want my words to have some sort of an impact on her so she can be happy for atleast a minute.
2007-03-26 00:04:09 · 3 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Regardless of how your friend is feeling you must have it in mind that a problem shared is a problem shared. Maybe she's like me, whenever i go through hard times i try to keep to myself and see a way out quietly. If she's your good friend as u accept her from your own side...she will tell you anything.
Over the years I have learnt that whatever you are going through...when you share it...it will be solved. Dont try to want to make her happy if she's not seeing you in that capacity and might even complicate issues.
Just tell her that A Problem Shared Is A Problem To Be Solved.
2007-03-26 00:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by discover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her, call just to check on her, remind her to remember the things that make her happy and forget those that make her sad, tell her she is a strong person and if she believes in God, remind her that God can't let her go through anything he cant get her out of and for everything there is a reason. And above all time heals everything. Be there and dont give up on being there for her.But dont pity her/or show her that you pity her.All the best to you and your friend.She'll pull through just fine
2007-03-26 07:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by frankie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick up a nice friendship card. Tell her that you hope she feels better. Tell her that if she needs someone to talk to you will be there for her.
You could invite her to lunch, or bring a cake and sit with her awhile.
Tell her that things happen for a reason. Sometimes we don't see the reason right away, but the time will come for her to see it.
The main thing is to just be available for her to talk with when she feels the need.
2007-03-26 07:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋