should women(both married and unmarried) who call themselves as "mentally matured" and commit adultery be forgiven?Even if their spouses are loving and sincere,should their justification of their sexual act by saying "you are immatured" be accepted??
2007-03-24 23:58:01 · 7 answers · asked by aaryra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is NEVER a good reason to cheat...It's an excuse! Anyone who thinks that they are "mentally mature" and cheats, is very childish. If they really are "mentally mature", they would have known that cheating was wrong and would have been adult enough and not done it in the first place.
Forgiveness is something that has to come from inside you and not just empty words. If you really feel that you can trust the cheating spouse again and can truly forgive, then I think it's worth another chance.
My personal experience is once a cheater always a cheater. I've been cheated on several times and have gotten empty promises that it would never happen again. But I still DO believe in exhausting all options before throwing away a relationship.
2007-03-25 00:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The excuse of 'I'm immature' is not a valid excuse. It may be completely true, but that same immaturity means that they don't think adultry is a big deal and don't care about how much damage and hurt they are doing to their spouse.
Everyone should be forgiven; I believe that forgiveness benefits the person doing the forgiving even more than it benefits the person who is being forgiven.
Forgiveness is not the same though as just pretending adultry never happened. In some cases adultry should lead to divorce, even if there is forgiveness, as it may show a deep character flaw that will mean the relationship is not worth saving.
2007-03-25 07:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes maturity to be in a committed one on one relationship. I mean talk about making yourself vulnerable. Let's face it, adultery creates distance in relationships...Secondly nothing is wrong if both partners agree to have an "open" relationship. If however you agreed to fidelity then a crucial truth is being violated, and your heart has been affected. So it not about judgment. It is about what has been expressed between the partners and the goal of the relationship...and if one of the partners wants to change the dynamics and they do not tell you, well there is a violation of trust.
2007-03-25 07:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to define adultery? How to define"mentally mature or immature"?
People, both men & women stray out, & if they for no reason other than physical temptations they should not be forgiven. But most women stray because of a host of reasons, years of abuse, violent partners, non-understanding men, hope for love & support, or to have revenge.
Woman are very sensitive & emotional, very few would stray for physical reasons as most woman reach orgasm when there is a lot emotional involvement. For unmarried women, curiosity can be one of the reasons. After all curiosity killed the *****, oops cat.
Many woman stray when theya re looking for emotional support & a shoulder to sob on, which later grows into physical relationship.
There can be many more reasons, I was just siting a few examples, but don't we men need to introspect when our partners stray that what beahviour of ours made them stray. Many a times its us men who force them for it.
2007-03-25 07:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is wrong - no excuse can justify it.
If there is any incompatibility then the marriage should not be continued. Then she can have physical relationship with many bfs.
2007-03-25 08:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery by both sides is wrong but forgiveness makes us better persons.
2007-03-25 07:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..
2007-03-25 09:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by coffee37man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋