In india we have this thing called as 'arranged marriage". You meet a girl for 10 minutes and then decide to marry her. BUt today girls are really characterless. But they all want to marry a nice homely guy having a job in teh USA!!!This is really dangerous from the guy's point of view.How can I find out if the girl has had affairs before because if i ask directly they never tell teh truth
2007-03-24 23:45:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are going to marry someone who you already assume will not tell you the truth? You are going to *marry* someone who you presume you can't trust?
Rethink that. Seriously, why would you marry someone who you didn't trust? I don't care if it's an arranged marriage or not - take the time to learn who this person is and decide whether you can trust them.
I live in the USA, though I'm not at all homely (hell, I'm cursed with good looks) but over here if I was going to marry someone I would know her and trust well enough that if I wanted to know who her previous lovers were I would just ask and trust her answer. That's not super important to me, so I probably wouldn't ask, but the point is I would NEVER marry someone who I didn't trust.
2007-03-25 00:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put a private eye, a detective to investigate the girl's history. Tht is very common nowdays and the fee is pretty affoardable.
My buddy is an Indian too, he went to India and liked a girl but he had doubts with her past, she seemed too nice for a hot girl and he got suspicious. He hired a private detective to find her history/background. Within 1 week, all her accurate history was written down in the paper, it costed him only $250, and tht my friend is dirt cheap.
He came to know all abt her and her family, they turned out to be cheaters. When he approached her with the fact she was shocked, she said tht it was her past and she has totally changed.
He didnt marry her but instead he married her neighbour, talk about coincidence.
Coming back to your question, well buddy your best solution is to find a private detective.
If u want one, check out online, you'll find many.
goodluck
2007-03-24 23:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jendralus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any objective suspicions, then don't marry her. But if it's just your own baseless fear then get over it. Is her family good & nice? Trust your culture and her family if you can. At least you're not marrying an American girl - you wouldn't believe how many partners some/many Am girls go through in college - and then they make prostitution illegal? And men in USA are supposed to be OK with that? I think you're lucky.
2007-03-25 00:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Babyface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry on your soreness, yet you at the instant are not the who who might 'ruin the kinfolk up' as you're saying. the marriage is between your mum and your dad. besides the fact that they artwork this out somewhat is their company. that's not honest to you adult adult males in any respect, yet they're the adults, that's their marriage, and there are issues as their newborn you in basic terms do no longer comprehend. Your dad might think of this is going to 'blow over' and the relationship will end on that's very own. There are one million different motives your friends are dealing with this interior the way that they are. the ideal element which you're able to do at this element is to proceed to be close and supportive of your youthful sister. make confident she constantly is familiar with you like her and you have her decrease back. you're able to be a source of potential and closeness for an further, for the reason which you adult adult males at the instant are not getting one hundred% as a kinfolk out of your mum and dad. i wish issues get extra ideal for you. yet another understand suggestion - provide up snooping plenty into your mom's telephone and your mom's company. You already think of you comprehend what is going on, so which you will possibly desire to start being her daughter back and supply up appearing such as you will "discern" HER, it won't be able to take place, and you're purely making your self extra depressing. as properly - you somewhat don't have the stunning.
2016-10-20 10:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry except for love . Forget that arranged stuff get out and find some one on own. and Remember if you can't trust them then you shouldn't marry them .
2007-03-25 00:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your intuition it won't lie to u, if u can feel there may be something wrong, don't ask that one. try to find out as much as u can about the person's past too.but just because someone has had a relationship prior to meeting u, it doesn't make her bad.
2007-03-25 00:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened in her life before you met you have to let go of. It's really not your business unless she's a total slut. But caveat emptor, if they want an ugly rich american they're not looking for love; they're looking for daddy. Do you want someone so shallow?
2007-03-24 23:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by guy o 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the program cheaters and they should help in that matter if you have any doubts...
2007-03-24 23:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by kamqx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋