Ok so now wat do i do?HI have been seeing my brothers friend for the past few weeks and hes kind of my friend too coz we all grew up on the same street! I have never felt like this about any one before and everything is soo perfect! I wouldnt be with him otherwise coz losing my brother is not something i would risk we're close! So my brother knows about it n is against it and he wont talk to either of us! I thought he might come round to the idea eventually n so did my brothers girlfriend!But he texted me n my boyfriend lastnight saying he's a piece of '***#' n he loved him like a brother n that we are both dead to him and he never wants to speak to us again! I dont want to give up my boyfriend or brother n i dont want to chose either!I love my brother n dont know how its gona turn out with my boyfriend but I know him well enough to know its for Real! Im 24 and my brother n boyfriend are 20 so we're not kidz but he wont talk about it and everyone is going to lose something here!Help!
2007-03-24 23:15:13 · 7 answers · asked by zara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
youre all adults,your brother should grow up and he should be happy if you are
2007-03-24 23:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother may feel that you and his friend changes everything. His loyalties are split between you, if you were to argue with your boyfriend who would your brother side with? what ever he did he would hurt one of you and he wouldn't want to do that.
Try to put yourself in his shoes. Think how you would feel if he was going out with one of your friends. You might be fine with it but it would change your relationship with both of them. He's most likely trying to protect him self by cutting you and your boyfriend off.
If you can't get your brother to sit down and talk to you as an adult, write him a letter, tell him how you feel about him, how you feel about his friend and how he makes you feel. If your boyfriend can do the same it may help.
None of us can help who we fall in love with, but being friends first tends to make a relationship stronger.
Good luck.
2007-03-24 23:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea if you want to keep the friend. If and/or when you hook up with the brother and it goes south, your friend will be caught in the middle and as blood is thicker than water, you will be on the outs.
2016-03-29 03:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your brother and have a nice discussion with him. Tell him you love him but you want to continue your friendship with his friend.
If you talk to him in a matured way, I think he will understand and support you.
2007-03-24 23:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother can't stand the thought of his friend boinking his sister. You should be able to understand that. He preferred that those relationships be separate.
2007-03-24 23:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most brothers feel protective that way....even if you are the elder of the two.
He will adjust to it. Do let him know that he is important to you, too,hough
I wish you all well
2007-03-24 23:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your bro is just jelous of you both!!try talking to him and if he wont then just let sleeping dogs lie and stay with your bloke,your bro will come round eventually youl just have to prove that its love and not just something to use against him.
2007-03-24 23:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by lainaloo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋