It is kind of my fault really. I have noticed that she looks at girls a lot so I have always tried to get her to not be afraid to admit that she is attracted to girls. After a while she became more comfortable with admitting her attraction. It has even brought up the conversation of a threesome. She is still shy about it but now she is watching lesbian porn and everything in between. Our sex life has steadily declined unfortunately. She says it is due to having twins 4 months ago, which I can accept, but whenever I talk about her being with a girl she usually wants to watch lesbian porn. We used to have sex regularly, but now she usually isn't in the mood. Yet the moment I paint a picture of her being with a girl she gets in the mood very fast, but it goes back to that porn. I like that she wants to be with other girls because now that she can admit it she is more open. That was my goal, but i am worried that she is starting to like the idea of being with a girl better than me.
2007-03-24
22:00:22
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I do want to have a threesome, my worry is that she is going to be pushed completely into liking girls only. Anyone ever see the show Friends? Ross gets divorced because his wife turned into a lesbian.
2007-03-24
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have tht threesome!! ur basically being offered everymans dream!!
pay the other girl to be abit useless, so your the star off the show ;)
but seriously and honestly... i know its hard, but....if u decided u liked men aswell...what would u want ur wife to do?? to allow u to try it out and see where it leads and support u?? or to hold u back so one day u explode and its all over?? because till that day u will be thinking "what if??"
when u got married, im sure theirs one line in their that says something about friendship, unfortuantly this is the kinda situation that the friendship dives into...
if she truley loves you then she will always choose u, maybe u should speak to her and voice your concerns though?
and no offence to Sammer....but if i was her and my husband cut himself and spilled things down me, id def be turned off by men!!
2007-03-25 01:41:46
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answered by Katie 5
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Send her to me and my husband and you can sit back w/beer and popcorn and watch!!! LOL!
She is very curious, and I would just be upfront about your feelings, me and my hub had to have this same discussion. He was afraid I wanted to replace him w/a woman, and that was not the case at all! You guys can work this out! Congrats on the twins, get her out of the house...just you and her more often and maybe some of her sex drive will return.
2007-03-25 17:43:35
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answered by SweetGin 2
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It is possible that she is just gay and never realized it before, having spent her life trying to fit in. My strongest suggestion, considering that you guys have kids together, would be to seek counseling and try to work out your sex problems. Healthy sex is important to a good relationship. It may turn out that you guys aren´t meant to be together, and she would be happier with a woman. In the long run it would be better for her to figure that out, find the right person to be with, and for you to find a woman who is right for you. Try to be understanding and supportive, and remember that no matter what happens the kids come first! Kids who are still very young are less affected by divorce than kids who are much older.
God has 3 responses to prayers: yes, no, and I have something better in mind.
2007-03-25 05:27:01
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answered by Anna H 2
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Your wife didn't turn into anything different than she already was. SHe sounds like she is a lesbian to me. You are never going to be able to control this. Allow her to come to terms with how she wants to handle it.
2007-03-25 09:07:43
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answered by Anonymous
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First, you should know that there is evidence male homosexuality has a genetic component. There is 0 evidence of female homosexuality being anything but behavioral.
You pushed her into queer fantasies, and now she's queer. Before it was just low self esteem making her compare herself to other women, now it's that, the wish to prove herself desirable to the women she compares herself to, and Pavlovian conditioning of sexual arousal in connection to homoerotic stimuli.
Basically you brain washed your wife into Bisexuality or lesbianism.
All you can do know is pinch her really hard when she's watching gay porn, or do other unpleasant things, like spill stuff on her, cut yourself badly, yell, "The baby just got really hurt," and other things. That can bring it back around. Or it might turn her sado-masochist. These things are not full proof.
2007-03-25 05:35:19
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answered by Anonymous
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She is showing a character of a lesbian. No, don't let her desire for another woman breaks your family.
2007-03-25 06:46:19
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answered by del 2
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Are you crazy, why don't you join her. have a three some you have more to gain nothing to loose. That would be a hot scene.
2007-03-25 05:08:34
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answered by Lost In Translation 2
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go for it sit back an enjoy that's if she does not ask you to join in
2007-03-25 11:25:03
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answered by crystal 2
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u should really talk about this with her to sort everything out.
2007-03-25 06:07:52
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answered by Venom SPD 3
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