He is violent should I feel bad? He was in her face yelling. He lives in a 5th wheel in our backyard and now we are moving him out tomorrow. Am I making the right decision? His dad called me yesterday asking me to bail him out. I said no. I feel like I am being a bad person.
2007-03-24 21:28:24 · 22 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marie,
Anyone who you know is violent, and would get up in your moms face is not someone you want around you.
He's your 'ex' and you folks allowed him to live in your back yard? Despite this, he's being violent and yelling at your mother? What an ingrate!
Tell his father to come bail him out himself. You made the right call there. You are not a bad person for having made wise decisions.
2007-03-24 21:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a kind person who still cares for your ex, thats why you feel bad. The whole situation is bad.
You and your mom did the right thing, so don't feel bad or guilty... you can feel bad for him, as he blew it with someone who did him a big favor. He should stay there in jail and don't bail him out. Abussive people only stop abusing when they are away from the people they hurt, and jail is where he belongs.
Just be sure his stuff is packed and gone from your place before he gets out, tell he dad to get his stuff, and make sure you are nowhere he can find you when he gets out.
And thank your mom for having the strength and courage to protect the both of you, and society from someone who has a significant problem.
No more chances for this guy even if you have feelings for him, you only put yourself and others you care about at risk.
2007-03-25 04:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Robert S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you truly call up a therapist and tell them, I am in big trouble. Tell him/her, my ex is violent and shows no respect to my mother. He lives in a 5th wheel in our yard. Now I feel badly that my mother has put him in prison. I can be sure they will tell you, grab and jacket you can come in right away. This is a sign that you are a magnet for an abuser. Dont you feel you want to be happier, dont you feel you deserve a healthy, calm and content life? Get help right away. You are a good person, because you have respect for yourself and your mother, and you can see a very sick man that will not feel that way for you. Leave him rot.
2007-03-25 05:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your mom didn't put your ex in jail, his behavior did. The police don't just arrest people willy-nilly; they require evidence of bad behavior to do that. Second, if you say he's violent, then you know he's where he needs to be. Third, If someone got in my mom's face and yelled, I wouldn't be feeling sorry for him, I would be kicking his butt myself. Mom's are so special. Violent men really aren't. Take your mom's side, and your own, and protect your family from violent people by letting them rot in jail.
2007-03-25 04:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you bail him out, this will tell him that it's OK to be a retard..This guy should grow up...Who is more important to you>>this guy or your MOM??? Is it OK for someone to do this to U'R Mom??? Would you do this to someone else's Mom???
I think that you should wait a little while and then find yourself someone that respects you enough not to put you in the middle in such way.>>>> In this case, it is numb nuts putting you in the middle.. DUMP THE LOSER, and do not give him any mixed message.
2007-03-25 04:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said he's violent and lack respect. You are kind enough to let him live in your backyard, yet he can't show appreciation. Move on......... He's a grown man. Stop enabling him. He has to grown man! He'll be fine.
Do you still love him? Why aren't you letting go?
2007-03-25 04:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The point of going to jail is that you deserved it. Except in rare occasions when an innocent person goes to jail. But here, you've seen him do the things that merited jail time, and so you know he deserved it.
2007-03-25 04:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by koncur 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pack his bags and move him out,next time he might do more than yell at your mum.
Don't bail him out, and take out a restraining order to keep him away if you have to
2007-03-25 04:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by tuppenybitz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you mother were the one who putted him in the jail, ask his father to talk to her and let her make the decision.
2007-03-25 04:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have dump him loooooooooog ago. let his dad has his violent son back and let him deal with his son,like father like son. you feel bad because you pick up a wrong guy to be you b-f. he is violent it is nothing to do with you, it is all about him, find someone else.
2007-03-25 04:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by ubon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋