I caught him sleeping with guy and he doesn't know that I saw anything...and he doesn't know that I'm pregnate..
2007-03-24 21:21:41 · 15 answers · asked by Nicole r 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Move on with your life.
I know someone through someone kin to me and she got married to this man and they had one kid, everything was going good then she got pregnant again then he told her that he was gay! When she went to deliver their second child, her ex-husband brought his boyfriend along. She didn't say anything and he pays child support so they all are fine with it.
2007-03-25 05:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have 2 problems here.
Firstly on the issue of pregnancy; you need to think very carefully about whether you want to keep the baby or not. If you are considering an abortion you should know that it is not such a simlple issue. It is not like throwing away a used tissue you know. It could have lasting pschological effects if you are not sure about the decision. Once we lose respect for the value of life it can carry over to all other aspects of your own life. If there simply is no other choice, then you should not hate yourself for doing it but do not take it lightly.
If you want to keep the child then you have to tell the father. You cannot however expect him to look after the child because he doesn't have the decision to have the child aborted or adopted.
It is possible to be in a relationship with someone who is bi or even gay if you can tollerate the fact that it won't be a traditional relationship. Chances are good that it won't work though so concentrate on what you need and want and only tell him about the pregnancy if you are planning to keep the child because he has the right to know.
2007-03-25 04:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Gareth B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're pregnant. If he was sleeping with you and he is the father of the child, he is still just as obligated to take care of the baby (financially, and to act as a father) as he would be if he were straight.
I'm not sure I believe you, though. If you JUST NOW slept with him, you wouldn't know you were pregnant yet. And if you caught him sleeping with someone else, man or woman, why didn't you say anything?
Anyway, if it's true, which I hope it's not, for the baby's sake, you need to find out the truth about his sexuality. Maybe he's bi...but either way, he was still cheating on you and he should still be confronted. DON'T play the "I'm pregnant" card to guilt him into staying with you. Just find out his stance on sexuality and your relationship by telling him what you saw, and go from there. He deserves to know you're having his baby, and your baby deserves a father. Good luck.
2007-03-25 04:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if you just had sex with him it would be soon to tell you were pregnant in the first place. Unless you mean you found out before (of course you had sex before as well) and then slept with him. If you caught him sleeping with a guy he is probably gay or bi-sexual. I would say he is more than likely bi if he is still with you. However, why did you not confront him about it. I know if a man or woman was in our bed then it would be over for me and my hubby. First of all if he was gay then I would want him to be happy. Second of all, man or woman, he was not faithful so would not want to be with him as I could not trust him. Now, either way you need to tell him you are pregnant. He has the responsibility (gay, bi, or straight) to help take care of that child if you are pregnant. The things you have stated make no sense because you say you have had sex (which the way you put it like yesterday or recently) and you found out you were pregnant. While you could be, it would be way to soon to know for sure. Second of all man or woman in my bed I would walk in on them and tell him or her to get out (saying it nicely) and then talk to my hubby and find out when the divorce would be settled. I would always love my hubby, but something would be lacking in the relationship and I want a faithful and honest man. If this is real and not a joke you need to just tell him and you also need to confront him about that issue.
2007-03-25 06:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?
I am 25 and am still going to college. If I were in this situation, which I don't know the whole story, I would tell him about the baby, and be open with him about what you saw. He could just be experimenting, confused, bi.
I am not cool with the idea of bringing a child into this world unless it is planned for and can be taken care of without government assistance. I am pro choice.
Abortion is not wrong compared to raising a child with no financial responsibility, regret and it being unwanted.
Take this advice, as any with a grain of salt. I hope this helps even if just a little.
Good Luck
~A
2007-03-25 05:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by adge222 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you don't know whether or not he is gay, because you have not talked to him. He could be Gay, Bisexual etc.
Also, just because he could be gay or bisexual...does not mean that he won't want to be a father, or that he won't be a good one. It doesn't mean he will want to be a dad and be a good one either. It's really 50/50 no matter what his gender.
for the sake of your relationship together though...you should really talk to him, because it really is not healthy that he is cheating on you period. No matter what sex he is cheating on you with. and it is not healthy that you have not said anything. you'll just end up exploding.
Um...and you NEED to tell him you're pregnant. It's his baby too (right? hey i don't know you) and he desearves to know.
One more thing...pregnaNT, not pregnate\
2007-03-25 04:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first if he's gay u dont need 2 be with him tell him u pregnant and if he choose to be in the babies life fine but honey u dont need him heck u shouldent want him but thats jus me see im 17 and my son is one and im with my son dad but when i told him that abortion aint somethin that i do and i aint killin my baby and he ether grow up or step he got his act right and he love his son to death but at the same time yo man he likes boys so i dont think the same thing will work but you could say ether you be in the baby life or not if you keep it that is
(oh and its pregnant not pregnate)
good luck
2007-03-25 05:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by super mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he slept with you as well, he's bi not gay.. And you need to confront him about it, ask him about it once he says why, then tell him you are pregnant. I will NOT recommend abortion, as I hate the very thought of abortion... If he decides to stay with this guy, is it the childs fault? Not at all..
2007-03-25 04:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by angel_eyes_91086 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide if you want to have a baby or not 1st of all.
Im not going to voice my opinion on abortion because this is your decision not mine, or anyone else's..
But that is what your 1st step is.
2007-03-25 04:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by mr_freaknight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. Tell him that you are pregnant. Ask him whether he is committed to you and is willing to marry you. If he says that he is gay or whatever, BREAK UP with him. And then quickly abort the baby. You do not want to raise a baby urself. Can you imagine the pain when he/she doesnt know who his father is? Dun ever conceive the baby. For ur sake and the baby's sake.
Break up with him. Let him be happy with another man. Abort the baby and find another man who is right for you! Be happy. Dun be depressed by this.
GOOD LUCK! DO THE RIGHT THING!
2007-03-25 04:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋