im amuslim girl i have a relation ship with an american guy he loves me but how can i tell my dad?hes fanatic?

Question

he is a christian but he can be a muslim for me but my dad is so fanatic im so desperate how can i tell him that? shoul i leave this relationship?coz it will never work ?

Answer 1

don't leave.
if he is willing to convert for you it means that he cares. and your dad, while he may be conservative, wants you to be happy. approach your dad with questions about what he thinks about people converting to be with someone. see how he reacts and take it from there.
but don't leave. that would not be fair to your boyfriend.

Answer 2

No one will ever be able to give you the right answers on this subject. You know your father better than any of us. I suggest you talk to him, and if he is anything like my parents were. I would also suggest that you wear a double layer of pants and a few layers of clothing, perferably a leather jacket, because you might get your a.s.s whipped. No offence, just being realistic. The bigest concern is that the boy is very respectful to you, and your family. That is ultimately what it comes down to...your father probably wouldn't mind if your boy friend spent sometime around him, to help out with yard work, or up keep of the house. But, the idea of an foreign person stealling your daughter's everything...that freaks a lot of parents. Would you consider having a sexual relationship with a different race just for fun? That's what it almost always appears like to very conservative families. Have your boy toy spend more time around the house, so your parents can scope him out. If your so called lover is not down with that, then he is probably trying to do what your father fears the most.

Respectfully, a middle eastern decendent with posser white avatar.

Answer 3

Ione,
In matters of love, religion should have no part. Your father should want nothing else but for you to be happy.
That's the way it should be. The reality is that sometimes people let religion rule their lives. If you're old enough to leave and you really believe you have the right guy, then it's a once in a lifetime chance and you'll never be really happy if you pass it up plus you'll never forgive your father for ruining it.
If you think it's more important to please your father, then the guy will never be able to make you happy.
It's a hard decision, but everyone has to make it sooner or later. Are you ready to spread your wings and fly, or do you need more time in the nest?

Answer 4

It wouldn't be right for you to ask him to leave his religion, any more then him to ask you to leave yours.
From what I've learned if your father is a fanatic, as you state yourself, then it could mean as serious as your health IE: a beating and still nothing done or your life, you know your own father. In disgrace. Even a family member can do this I believe, isn't that so?
I think both you and he should think your position and either leave the area and, your families and start life in another place without your families, or forget each other.

Answer 5

we're actually on the same boat, there's a muslim man who really likes me and i can feel that he's sincere with his feelings for me. i also kinda liked him but i'm trying to supress my feelings because we have diff religion, because i think it's something very impt for me esp if i'm gonna have to marry him. he told me that he's willing to bbe converted to catholic if he feels that i love him a lot also. but i don't know i wanna take it slow with us, since i don't really want to have a boyfriend yet but in your case since he's already your bf maybe you can try to speak with your father about it, tell him that your bf is willing to convert and that you really love each other if you really do..

Answer 6

he can convert to Islam and meet your father to get his consent...rite.

...btw, how can u call your father a fanatic?