How do you motivate yourself?

Question

I have been pretty down for awhile over a divorce and some other things. I cant take medicine for a lot of reasons but I am finding it hard to motivate myself to do anything. It isn't laziness. I just dont feel like doing anything anymore. Just basic things. I have kids so I need to get going. I know that they need me to be attentave and energetic. I just feel overwhelmed by minor things though. What other ways are there to pull yourself out of depression besides medicine. It has helped in the past but I cant take any right now.

Answer 1

Stay in contact with people, don't isolate yourself. Make it a habit to call at least one neighbour, friend or relative per day. In person face-to-face contact is perfect.
Take long walks with your kids through the park, if not then excercise or be active.
Stay optimistic, look into the mirror in the morning and if you notice a frown or creased forehead then straighten it out. Also tell yourself that you've got good stuff to do.
Make a to do list, with something rewarding on it like an uplifting novel you wanted to read.
Whenever you feel a negative thought, u can write it down and then right a positive thought right next to it and follow that. Keeping a journal is even better.
That's all that comes to mind. Don't worry too much and keep moving which u're already doing. Take small steps with doing the easiest suggestion and then build up later in the month. Don't forget to really enjoy ur kids because time sometimes flies by. Best of luck.

Answer 2

There are health books that give really good answers. I just looked up how to handle depression the natural way, first get plenty of sunlight. Second get out doors and get Negative ions. If you don't live in the country, and can't get out there buy an negative ion generator, this will boost serotonin levels that will improve your mood. The best brand is Bionic Products of America. Phone # [phone]. Get more sleep and remove yourself from stressful situations. You will also need to rethink your diet. Don't eat a lot of Carbohydrates, because they quickly raise your blood sugar levels and will cause your body to store food as fat making it less available for energy. Eat more fruits and vegetables and limit your grains and sweets. Do not eat red meat or egg yolks more than once a week. These foods contain a chemical precursor to a brain chemical that is associated with depression. Keep your meals under 500 calories, and do not let more than five hours pass between meals. Except if you are sleeping. Make sure you get regular exercises and I have also found that if you help others it gives you a good feeling and it helps you take your mind off of your own troubles. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Time. I've been divorced (1st marriage) and widowed (2nd marriage.) My husband died in Oct and I have four kids to take care of. What you are going through is perfectly normal. Let those kids be your inspiration to keep going and it will get easier with each passing day. For the first few months I could barely get out of bed, but now I can get out of bed and imagine all the things I want to do. I'm not quite motivated to do them yet (I don't have the energy and am overwhelmed like you) but I at least know that the desire is there. I've found that getting away from the stress, even if just for a little while, has been the best thing for me. It will get better with time...and if it doesn't you may need to reconsider the medication.

Answer 4

interest/comfort zone sometimes become better the more you do them. Sometimes you just know an activity is not your cup of tea, but sometimes it is kinda interesting but you could have had more fun staying in your routine. Those kinda interesting things are the ones you need to try more--eventually you push them into your comfort zone, thus broadening yourself.

People who stay at home all the time like staying at home. People who are out all time hate being at home doing 'nothing'. Find a balance, but for a little while that means pushing yourself to do things you would normally stay away from, on the outside chance you'll enjoy them.

Answer 5

CBT or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has been shown to be as effective as drug therapy in depression and anxiety. It's short perhaps 12-16 sessionsand is directed at moving forward from the day you start w/o a lot of delving into your past. Good luck.

Answer 6

I know the secret to this. Its really simple to. Humor. Find something you can really laugh at. Go to a comedy club or just rent some funny movies. I know this will not get best answer but really...who gives a **** about best answer in the real world? You will find it alot easier to become motivated when you have a smile on your face.

Answer 7

life is seriously 2 short 2 make regrets...!!! its just that u need 2 feel this from within d heart...make one thing go straight in ur head and heart..there r billions of people living in d world..u cant make urself moody 4 them..live 2 d full extent..spend d maximum time wid ur children..give them d best..they need u and u need a reason 2 live..which undoubtedly..they r ...!!! its not abt motivating..if u realise this things within heart..life will be more perfect..try 2 b full of energy every moment...lastly i wud suggest u..people who dont recognize ur faith doesn't seems 2 know u...u r a gr8 person..hav a gud day ..everyday..!!! gud luck....!!!

Answer 8

find someone to love, someone to hate, and something you want to get out of life and stay focused on goals. I hate school and life is depressing and i dont feel like doing anything many times but i focus my hate on my teachers and it inspires me to lift weights at least.

Answer 9

You are borne alone, so i don't see a problem to live alone. Make your day, make your own little pleasures. Be happy to be alive. And make some little aims for everyday, and latter, make that everyday goals bigger. And enjoy every minute!!!

Answer 10

just say to yourself " i'm not dead yet"