the parents of your husband always mentioned your overweight while the exes of their son are all sexy and beautifuls.they always make you feel down.they keep telling stories of the past relationship of your husband even in your own kids..
2007-03-24 21:02:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
keep loving & taking care of their son & grandchildren... its not your fault that their son choosed to be your wife & mother to his kids. Focus on raising your own family. .. immediate family i should say. The in-laws will remain the in- laws so beat it. They will come to terms to accept who you are & what their son have loved & liked in you to be his wife. (and not those sexy ladies they were saying). Refuse to be upset, instead take the reverse side otherwise it will justify their actions that their son should have not married you. Prove them wrong. It may take time but the end result of it will be worth your patience when they start coming on nice & feel sense of guilt in themselves for judging you based on physical aspect alone. You are worth more than that & you knew that so don’t live in despair. Everything will fall in the right place so long as you keep doing what you know is right & just.. Do not think of doing anything against your in-laws lest you want your husband to join them. (Blood is thicker than water so be careful)
2007-03-24 21:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. My mother in law hates me. I tried so hard with her for three years and it did not help. Now, I do not let her get to me. And I speak my mind (it makes me feel better, and she couldn't get any worse either way). But, as far as your children go, I think its time to put your foot down. Our daughter is too young to be manipulated, but I have already told my husband she will not do that will our children. I think you should tell them how you feel. And let them know it will not be tolerated for them to talk to you like that or belittle you in front of your children. If they keep it up, they should only be allowed supervised visitation. Whatever you do, do not bad mouth your in laws to your children. I have read reports on the effects of this, and its simply not worth it. I feel for you, and good luck.
2007-03-25 04:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my mother in law brought up ex relationships to me, I would say "did I say I was interested in this?" Tell hubby they can't come over if you are home, or you will leave if they come by - and don't go to their house either. At social events where they are there too, walk away, start talking over them, don't listen!!!! They are totally aware of what they are doing - don't allow it.
2007-03-25 04:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them. No matter what you do they will always dislike you. Don't give them any ammunition against you, take care of your hubby and kids, and just be the best person you know how to be. Don't talk bad about them to your kids, either. Eventually, everyone will see that you're the one being wronged, and they're just being snots.
2007-03-25 04:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by ftlop69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to accept the fact that no matter how you look, your husband chose you to be his wife and not them. You got him not them, they are history and you are present & future.
You are not alone, not many daughter in-laws out there are blessed with perfect in-laws.
Just move on with your life...eventually your in-laws will get tired of doing so, they will eventually stop...BE STRONG!
2007-03-25 05:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by MissyssiM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they can F off!
My mother in law doesnt like me and for a long time I kept my mouth shut.
Finally the B moved in with us and thats when all hell broke loose.
2007-03-25 04:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by Joe B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What can you do? Are you trying to tell me that this is something totally new and first found out in the 21st century. C'mon get with the program. Good enough, yes?
2007-03-25 04:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by FILO 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't react at all. Always try to win their confidence at the expense of your prestige or ego. u will find the change in your favour. this is a tried formula.
2007-03-25 04:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to their house dressed like a tramp..don't shower for 2 days and make sure you dont wear deodorant. Tell them that if they don't cut their **** they will love the new you.
2007-03-25 04:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them if they cant keep their rude and nasty comments to themselves then dont bother coming back and if your husband dont like what you have to say to his parents well then he can leave too - you are not there to put up with verbal abuse or be intimidated
2007-03-25 22:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by boonoora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋