Ok i've been best friends with this guy for 10 years now and he's been a good buddy to me and helped me alot. (by the way, i'm straight )... But one thing i could never understand is how he would always date girls like CRAZY i mean every month he was with a different girl and he would cheat on them and lie really bad. Anyways, Last week i talked with one of his ex girlfriends, and she asked me if he was gay!. and i was totally SHOCKED!, i told her "why would you ask me that?".
She said that she found gay websites listed on his computer and other things relating to bisexuals as well. I could not believe it, now that i look back on our friendship i do notice that were questions about his sexuality. In the past when some of my friends would tell gay jokes around him, i remember him being very angry. But the jokes were harmless, and some of my gay friends didn't even take offence to how he takes it. He's a very sneaky guy, and sometimes lies way to much. Please, i need good advice.
2007-03-24 21:00:41 · 6 answers · asked by ? 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Assuming this girl is telling the truth, it is possible that your friend is either homosexual or bisexual. The other thing you mention is his hostile reaction towards gay jokes - usually an indicator of hiding something.
The fact that he doesn't hold on to heterosexual relationships very well doesn't automatically mean he is gay. It is possible that he has intimacy problems, which may even show up if he had a homosexual relationship.
You cannot make your friend "come out" if he is gay/bi. He has to do that himself, since he needs to come out to himself before he comes out to anyone else.
All you can do is be a good friend to him. Don't go out of your way to "test the waters" by talking about gays. Instead, wait until something hits the headlines about gays, and just say one thing which infers you're not bothered about people's sexuality. Don't make a story out of it, or make it obvious. Just make a passing comment, and don't direct it at your friend.
A good one is when a newspaper labels someone as gay when they're clearly bisexual. Point out how society is limited in its understanding if it thinks people are either one or the other. Again, don't make too much of it.
Another one is where religion makes an unwelcome comment about homosexual relations. Point out, again - without making a drama of it, how religion is wrong on this matter.
2007-03-24 22:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he can answer that. Does it really matter, anyway? You're his friend, be there for him regardless of who he may be. If your curiousity is killing you, sit him down for a serious talk about it.
If he is bisexual or gay, he has to tell you, or anyone else, at his own time.
2007-03-24 21:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by CAD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be Bi. One thing I've learnt is not to be too surprised by people. There are all sorts. It is our diversity that makes us unique individuals.
The question is- "So what?" What kind of friend are you if you break the friendship because of such trivial details. He does not hit on you persistently, right?
2007-03-24 21:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by James S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, it's possible that because this girl might've gotten burned, she lied to your to spread vicious rumors about your friend and such, but i mean, if you REALLY want to know if what she says is true... you could just check the computer yourself?
2007-03-24 21:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by hey h 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH yes, Defenetly your friend is gay. Do you have a problem with that?
2007-03-24 21:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lost In Translation 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him your self and if he is just be ok(if he is make sure u don't be alone wit him)
2007-03-24 21:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋