what's up with asian women and interracial relationships?

Question

Asian women with non-asian men is quite prevalent in San Francisco. They seem to find their own men not attractive. I see this as asian women's way of building a new society of eurasians, black-asians, latin-asians, because they view the asian skin as not attractive. Do you think this is self-loathing? Do you think this is asian women's insecurities with themselves? Do you guys think asian women are racists? Meaning that they are trying to eliminate all the asian races in America.
do you think that asian women in general are more Americanized than asian men? (Which i do think they are!) I find asian women talk just like white women. They have this perfect american accent.
I also think that asian women are the main cause of all these bi-racial people. Chances are, if you're an asian woman, then the percentage is quite high for you to marry a non-asian.

I think it's a problem of skin color too. For a man to have lighter skin color, it's not considered attractive. So for an asian woman, they are drawn to a slightly darker skinned man. just like a white woman would be attracted to black and latino men.

Answer 1

There are four kinds of people that date interracially:

1. those who are color blind, where they truly don't care about skin color and it's about the person more than anything else.

2. those who have a racial preference but are open to other ethnicities (in my opinion, this is majority of those that do it)

3. those who date exclusively outside of their own race

4. those who date exclusively one race in particular outside of their own race

Usually, #4 is a fetish (i.e. black men are well endowed, white guys are respectful, white women are insatiable, asian women are submissive, whatever). Sometimes people grow out of it, sometimes they don't.

People who fall into #3, which you're referring to, can go either way: I've met Asian women who do point to their traditional cultural as the reason why they avoid asian men. Then I've met black men who only date outside of their race because "black women are too difficult." And there are, of course, some individuals who do have some deep seated self loathing and disgust at their own ethnicity that would rather avoid dealing with it at all cost (those folks are a little sad).

The problem with both #3 and #4 is that it again is a stereotype-based discrimination that people delude themselves into thinking is fair. Not ALL Asian men excpect their women to be subservient; not ALL Black women are domineering; not ALL Black men are larger than average. By making dating judgements that automatically exclude an entire class of people, it exacerbates the racial divide vs. closing it.

I find it fascinating that a culture with such platitudes as "looks aren't everything" can then turn around and state that "well, if they only like xxx, then that's their thing."

The reality is that #1 and #2 is where we should all be headed since that's the only one that makes an attempt to assess a person for their internal qualities versus skin color.

One other specific comment: I travel to Asia for work periodically, and believe me, they don't like darker skinned people. In China, they actually sell makeup that doubles as bleach to LIGHTEN the skin since that's en vogue!

Also to the questioner: I'm guessing you're an Asian male and it sounds like you're angry about seeing Asian women that you'd like to date rejecting you out of hand because of your ethnicity: I'm sorry you're in this position...it must feel like a double-betrayal because not only do you feel like an "other" by non-Asians, but now even Asian women are treating you the same way.

What you may want to do is make some friends with some Asian girls (platonic is fine) and just see if they can explain why so many girls are this way. You may also want to post a question in this or another section of yahoo that asks Asian women whether they date Asian men and if not, why not to get some relatively honest (because of the safety net of the internet) answers.

Finally, try the internet (match.com or yahoo personals) if you want to find an asian woman looking for an asian guy...they ARE out there, guaranteed...

Good luck!

Answer 2

its all about preference, asian women in your area may just like other races. The only reason bob could see you being so mad over nothing is if you were a asian man in san francisco. If you are a asian man or someone who likes asians, bob says dont let a ***** get you donw, they do this kind of thing you just gotta keep ya head up. If not bob is not really sure what else to say.

Answer 3

Heck no. You got all types of people... and alot of them are MIXED since North America is multi-cultural... we're exposed to all types of races so I am not suprised that there are alot of interracial relationships (not only between Asians and non-Asians). I know that in general that having lighter (pale) skin in Asian countires is considered beautiful, as oppose to whites or those living in America, who think that having a bit tan is beautiful. It all comes down to preferences, 'cause everyone else are not the same.

Answer 4

I think one reason for this is that these Asian women have not yet found respect for their countries. I used to be insecure about myself, living in a predominantly white area, but after I visited my parents' native country, I gained so much respect for my culture. And, personally, the guys there were very hot - I would not mind dating them AT all. However, I myself have yet to see a hot Asian guy in the U.S. who can match the ones in Asia (in my opinion)

Answer 5

I think generalizing is a mistake. Surely each woman has her own reasons.

One thing you may have forgotten to mention: Do asian-american men have some aspect of traditional asian values, which often deal with their spouses being subservient to them? Any hint of that, I'm sure, would be reason enough to stay away from that situation. Would you want someone telling you what to do?

My advice to you would be to stay upbeat and sociable and date near your level of attractiveness (this can be hard to determine). Worrying about what other people are doing is not going to make your life better.

Answer 6

I know many guys who think asian women are so hot. Again asian women are not going out looking exclusively for american men but if they are frequenlty approached by non asian males who find them very attractive then they will settle with them.

Answer 7

for the 900000000 time latino is noty a racial origin there are asian people who ae latino

a previous president of peru i think was of japanese origin
theres a portion of the latino ethnicity that are of asian origin because they were born in such countries and came to the states as 1st generation etc

asian races? you cant be this dumb can you? you mean asian ethnicities/cultures like korean, indian, pakistani, chinese, lao, sheesh americans cant be this stupid????

Answer 8

I'm an asian girl and honestly, I would rather be single for the rest of my life if my husband were to be one of those non-asian asian fetish guys. I think you are going about it the wrong way. Asian girls don't just go looking for non-asian guys to love. Non-asian guys look for asian girls for "love". Asian fetishes are disgusting. It's disturbing to think that there is a huge population of guys would would be sick enough to only focus on asians just because they are asian. These people deserve a spot on the sex offender's website.

I grew up in America but I'm still very traditional. But asian girls are just like any other girls. They want to fit in with the modern culture. They see other girls with cool clothes and cool gadgets and it is only human nature to want the same things, because they are girls. No girl wants to look bad while other girls around them look better.

Answer 9

Why does there have to be something wrong with someone if they want to date and marry whomever they like..regardless of how they look?By the way,ALL Asians don't have the same skin tone and features...neither do any of the other groups you named off..get some knowledge before asking silly questions.

Answer 10

Caucasian men like asian women...