My Fiancee is Acting cold???????????

Question

I ask this questions before but i will Rephrase it better.
She Sleep over her friends house last week because she was very drunk, after going out with her friends, this is a guy that likes her for the past 2 years, but she reasured me that she has no feelings for him, she told me that she sleep in his bed and he sleep in the couch, NOT for anything but theres no way i will sleep in the couch of my own house while a girl that i liked is on my bed a little drunk, she got back home at 1pm the next day, and she went out to lunch with him 2 days later and shes been acting cold to me on the phone, she told me everything, and i asked her if something happened but she said no, Shes been hanging out with him daily till yesterday, Im 29 shes 27 were very mature and we have good careers we have great communication, and great sex, could it be that she knows shes leaving everything for me to move to me, and maybe she did it and she regrets, or did she CHEAT on me, what do u think happen???

Answer 1

I believe in honesty within a relationship, but her honesty goes a little bit too far. She knows that you know this other guy likes her.....she spent the night at his place. She has been having lunch with him for the last few days. Regardless of whether she has had sex with him, she is certainly not respecting your feelings. I think she is being a little bit cold in telling you all of this. Hey, Im a pretty secure woman, but I would certainly be thinking something is very odd if the man I loved spent so much time with someone I know likes him.

I would be wondering why he wouldnt be wanting to spend his time with me and not her.. Something is not right...it doesnt ring true to me....I wouldnt be so complacent if I were you. When a person is in love they want to spend every waking moment with the person they love. Your fiance is spending her time with a guy she knows likes her...why isnt she spending the time with you?

Its not a good start.....the trust is starting to wear a bit thin before marriage. This is the woman you are supposed to be spending the rest of your life with, but to me, she is preferring to spend her time with someone other than you. I would really be thinking twice if this woman is really committed to you at all.

Answer 2

Take it from a woman...she cheated on you.

She is covering it up. She is still, oddly enough, in love with you, even though she cheated...but moving away and changing things to such a drastic level is terrifying, so she's doing what a lot of women do, and she's sewing her last oats and enjoying an old boyfriend, to see if it "could have been".

The problem is in doing this, she's completely disregarded your feelings.

She does NOT deserve you.

I know you love her, but you deserve better. My advice is to let her go back to the old boyfriend and to find someone else who appreciates who you are and who will marry you without looking back to the old relationships. Afterall, they are in the past, and you are in the now.

You can do so much better...good luck.

Answer 3

I don't think its important wether or not she actually slepted with him. What is important is that she put herself in a situation where it could have EASILY happened. Thats the real threat your relationship will have. If she didn't sleep with him, she is more than likely to think being in that situation again (even if its with another guy) that nothing will happen. Then she'll be asking herself "How did i let this happen"?

Answer 4

when I leave out the "I" that's because of fact i'm mad or something is misguided. i might say provide her some days. in line with possibility 2 or 3 days with out calling or texting and spot what she does. if she would not attempt to touch you throughout that element then ask her what's incorrect. tell her you spotted that she has been appearing different and spot what she says.

Answer 5

I think you already know the answer to your own question. If you can't justify her having a good reason to stay over at another guy's house, no one on Yahoo will be able to. If you continue to try to justify it, your next yahoo question will be "My Wife is Acting cold???????"

Answer 6

Why do u take tension of such deep analysis. Forget her.
Never regret a girl or a bus, if one has gone another will come.
Cheers.

Answer 7

I think he is a friend "with benefits".

I bet there is a lot more history between the two than what you know of.

Answer 8

MY DEAR THIS IS NOT NECESSARY THAT THEY SHOULD HAVE SOME THING BETWEEN THEM, IF SHE HAS DONE ANYTHING WRONG SHE WOULD NOT HAVE TOLD U ANYTHING, AS SHE TRUST U , SO SHE SAID EVERYTHING TO U...I DONT THINK SHE IS CHEATING U... SO JUST STOP DOUBTING , HAVE GOOD RELATION WITH HER, DEAR U HAVE TO TRUST HER, AFTER ALL THAT IS WHAT MATTERS......IF THERE IS NO TRUST IN THE RELATIONSHIP, THEN BEING TOGETHER IS OF NO USE, U KNOW ONE OF MY HUBBY 'S COLLEGE FRIEND LIKED HIM A LOT, EVEN SHE PROPOSED HIM TOO, BUT MY HUBBY WAS NOT INTERESTED, STILL THEY R GOOD FRIENDS, WHENEVER SHE CALLS HIM, HE TELLS ME VERYTHING, SOME TIMES I FEEL JEALOUS BUT I TRUST HIM, I KNOW HE LIKES ME A LOT & SHE IS JUST HIS FRIEND..GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

Just leave, you are not going to be able to get over this.

Answer 10

maybe you need to spend more quality time with her, things you would do with her if your relationship was just platonic, maybe you need to do more of it. If that doesn't work dump her.