My husband and I separated, and I needed to find a new life. Now I have moved 600k's from my old life, from my social circle and feel like I am living in a foriegn land.
I have no family around me, and I am struggling to feel happy. Anyone got some suggestions?
2007-03-24 20:17:48 · 12 answers · asked by Roseanne G 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I grew up moving around way more than most. My dad was constantly moving the family around because of his job.
I know what you feel like losing your circle of comfort. You just havent had practice meeting people in awhile.
Start simple. You obviously have a new job in your new town. See if someone there is willing to have go out for a quick bite to eat after work one day. Just an eat and go kind of thing. Gets you active and requires nothing extraordinary out of yourself like joining a club. You already have a common ground with this person so you will not be struggling for conversation. It could end up starting a routing and others may see how much fun you are having and want to jump in on the after work meal. Soon you will have a circle of friends that you work with. Later you can move the friendships closer and begin doing other things together. After eating one day maybe you can find someone who is willing to work off that food you ate together another day.
Making a circle of friends should not require you to go join a club.
Keep it simple and short at first. Later you will have a bunch of little short hangouts through out the week and you won't feel alone anymore.
2007-03-24 21:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Rumin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a group or club sort of thing to join so you can meet people with like interests. This could be going to church, joining a hiking club, a book club, a scrapbooking club, an aerobics or yoga class, etc. Just anything you can find that you have a sincere interest in so that you can meet people that like the same things you do and have some fun doing it.
I don't mean the sort of things where people are looking for a date, I just mean that you need to find some friends first of all. Right now you're probably a little to vulnerable and unsettled to get into a serious relationship. Good luck and keep your spirits up!
2007-03-24 20:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have moved to a new state twice and recently moved to a place 2 hours away from my friends and old home.
What I have found helpful is to find a church because they usually have things to get involved locally. Sometimes you feel like you dropped from the sky and finding good activities help you connect in a new place. If youre not a church goer try volunteer work, often doing for others helps you meet people and feel good about yourself. You're still that nice person you were it will just take time to settle in. Good luck.
2007-03-24 21:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join clubs and societies- there's usually a list of what's going on locally in the library. Why not enroll on a course, that way you'll learn a new skill and make friends.
2007-03-28 05:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by Snake eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find square holes before they all get taken up by round pegs.
2007-03-24 20:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by FeenixTrader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby or sport and join a club. Church is usually a good place to start. How about an Adult class in art or pottery or computers.
2007-03-24 20:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by celianne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
..."sq. peg in a round hole"...? first... find "round-whole" people... there are a=lot of "us" like that "out here"... don't just get into the "poor-me" syndrome... find a place to begin to "fellowship"... I don't know at when level you believe in a "spiritual" relationship with God... but I know this... there are lots, and lots of wonderful "non-denomonial" Spirit filled people who will so quickly become a wonderful part of you life if you will only open your heart to it.... God is good ! all the time... (I didn't say "religion"...I said God !) ....He says in His Word... seek and you will find... knock and the door will be opened u p to you... be blessed...
2007-03-24 20:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well perhaps join a book club or Gym or just simply knock on your neighbors door and introduce yourself.
Good luck
2007-03-24 20:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing has changed in you as a person, except that you are qualified to find new love of your life. Move on!
2007-03-24 20:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by september 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club do you think you are alone out here.I any very lonely I moved 10 states away from my home and I don't no anyone. we just make doe with what we have.
2007-03-24 21:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋