Is it ABUSE???

Question

I don't know if I'm over reacting or if I have really been being abused (emotionally and verbally) all my life. (was abused physically but it stopped) I live with my mom and we fight a lot. She is always telling me I'm fat or I'm stupid or I'm immature or something like that. Or she's yelling at me telling me how much she can't wait until I'm 18 so I can leave. When I agree with her she hits me. Am I just over reacting? Or is it really abuse? If it is abuse, How can I get away legally so I'm not being called in as a runaway. This has gotten worse since I started working and being more independent. What can I do? I can't live like this anymore it's slowly killing me. I'm 17. Where can I go?

Answer 1

iF YOU STILL GO TO SCHOOL TALK TO YOUR SCHOOL'S COUNSKER AND MOST LIKELY SHE WILL REPOT THE PROBLEM TO MAKE IT SEEM AS A REASON FOR LEAVING . IF YOU DONT GO TO SCHOOL THEN TALK TO ONE OF YOUR FRIENDS MOTHERS MAYB THE CAN STOP AL THIS RAGE FROM COMING OUT OF YOUR MOTHER.

Answer 2

Abuse is rarely just physical. If the way she treats you humiliates, intimidates or harms you, it is abuse.

You should not have to put up with being made to feel bad. There is a lot of help available and you should make contact with Social Services, the police, your school or college and tell them what is happening.

There will be people there who are trained to know what to do. Tell them what is happening and ask them for help to get out. You said at the beginning that the physical abuse has stopped but then later say that she hits you. If she is still hitting you, then you are still being physically abused. You need to get out of there for the sake of yourself. If you have brothers and sisters who are younger than you, you need to let someone know if they are being hurt too.

Taking this step takes a lot of courage and it won't be easy but it IS the right thing to do for yourself and anyone else who is victim to your mother's behaviour.

If you approach the police and tell them you are leaving because your mum is abusing you, you won't be considered a runaway.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I dont know where you live but in most states in the US you can pretty much go where you want and she cant force you to return. You could go to a youth shelter also. If you have a family member or a friend who would take you in you could go there. Yes she could call you in but all that would happen is the police will come out, talk to you and then leave because at your age you do have more rights than a younger child. Check out the laws in your state - any police officer should be able to answer the question.

Answer 4

Well, YES, it's abuse! We're not talking about spanking a four year old for dunking baby sis's head in the toilet, here. If your mother is verbally abusing you with names like that and then hitting you, it's the absolute definition of abuse!

You have options, from the police to shelters, to looking up a local abuse hotline on the web. But you should definitely do something.

Answer 5

yeah its abuse, your not over reacting. i had the same hting happened to me. i had to move away to a different country to live with my dad. if you are barely 17, i suggest you get help now. if you are 17 and like 10 months, wait it out. a year seems like forever when stuff like that is happening so you need to do something about it. talk to a counsilor, theyll help cuz they usually have to side with the minor. try not to go into the foster system or anything at your age cuz youll age out soon so try to find someone to live with, like a sympathetic family member or a really close friend. since you work, maybe you could be a roommate to somebody.

oh yeah and CPS does NOT help

Answer 6

Yes it is, but life is abuse, this is only preparing u for life, cause if u do go out in the world, be prepared for people like me to make comments out of the side of our mouth at people who are insecure like u.

However, if this is to much, because everyone deserve a sactuary, and if urs is being violated? I don't suggest snitching her out, cause u will regret it later. What I do suggest is to move out. Running away means ur coming back. I know you know places that don't close, u got friends u can stay at on the weekend. Food is free at school, and the weekends u hang out with ur friends so they should understand. Good luck and pray. I knew when i was getting whipped, I started dodging blows and it started looking like a Kung Fu movie, u should see tendencies when she strikes move out of the way.

Answer 7

that is way abuse, legally u can leave now with a court order. so the next time u two have a fight if u have a cell phone dial 911 and continue fighting and the cops will come and witness the fight and u can get a court order REALLY easily

Answer 8

This is abuse and it's a very bad thing. You could talk to your friends parents or something. Or you could talk to the police, but that might mean serious consequences for your mom. You guys could go to counseling. Maybe you shoudl talk to your school counselor because they'd be more authorized to give you some good advice.

Answer 9

Talk to your school counselor. Talk to a trusted teacher, but by all means, get out. A whoopin for something naughty is one thing, but it does sound like in your case it is physical abuse and DEFINATELY emotional.
Honey, I am so sorry that you have had it like this. I really hurt for you. You are probably going to want some psychiatric therapy to mend these wounds. I am also saying a prayer for you.
Big hugs.

Answer 10

Even one tenth of it is qualified as an emotional and physical abuse from a controlling person with a very low self-esteem. This is not a healthy place for you to be. You have to stand up for yourself. The abuse will continue, if you allow it to continue.

Answer 11

I would suggest you go to info line (211) they would have many listings of places that you could call and talk to someone about it or places that could help you find a place to stay . there is a lot of programs out there now for kids that most don't have a clue that they even exist! There is help for kid 's with all kinds of different problems, the problem is finding it! So like I said call info line and good luck !