Ok as if having marital problems wasn't enough, I still have the issue of explaining to my kids that daddy didn't move out he is just driving truck. Kyle 7, Parker 4, and Colin 2. My oldest thinks we are lying to him about the whole thing, he understands daddy is a truck driver, but still doesn't think he lives at home. My 4 year old, has a severe speech handicap which also affects his communication with adults, ie; he doesn't understand much at all. So he is always the one I have to convince more than the other 2. My 2 year old, isn't to bad when it comes to talking to him, he understands a lot, but still doesn't worry about it to much, seeing as he is only 2 and doesn't really know any different. I need to know how to really get my children to understand. I have tried everything I can think of. Please helpful opinions only.
2007-03-24 20:11:58 · 6 answers · asked by Always confused! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dad does call them, but not as often as he should, he doesn't buy them gifts when he is gone, but he has shown them his truck and all the gadgets and stuff inside it. I have talked to him many times about sitting down with them, but he does always have an excuse, he says he doesn't know how to tell them to where they will understand except just telling them straight out. But he still has not told them. He comes home every 2-3 weeks, which to me of course if not enough especially when he is home for barely 2 days then leaves again. I just want them to know that they are always loved which I tell them on a daily basis. My husband is extremely hard headed when it comes to talking about anything, that why we don't talk just argue. Thanks for all the advice.
2007-03-24 20:24:48 · update #1
Kids are alot smarter than we as mom' s think. The 7yr old is going to be the roughest. You need to maybe spend alone time with him to discuss the situation ( Maybe a momma big boy trip to the grocery store). Make him feel important because he his. Since he's the man of the house now he's need's to know the truth. Giving him the oppurtunity to feel important with his role as big brother who is going to help out the little one's with help him. The smaller kids will look up to him and learn from example. your first born is always the example that's my opinion ofcourse. goodluck everything will fall into place.
2007-03-24 20:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by ash89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to take pictures everywhere he goes, & pictures of himself sleeping in the truck you know pretend sleeping. Show them his clothes. Have him ask them why they think he would leave people that he loves so much & tell them he just has to work a lot cause his boss needs a lot of help & has a lot of stuff he needs done. I guess all the fighting you do is the reason they think he has left huh? Try not to give him any reason to get mad, just try to get along as best you can. Try I'm sorry instead of well you did this or that.You know stuff like that.He probably thinks you don't want him there, the reason you argue so much, men are funny that way,try to show him you do want him there. I don't know. This is a hard one.Does he have a cell phone with a camera? If not get both of you one that might be helpful so the kids can call him & see him.
2007-03-24 22:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by love_um_or_leave_um 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if daddy is really driving a truck get dad to call these kids on a regular basis or u can connect them to him..i know its the tougest on ur oldest...but try getting him with dads families..show wedding pics etc. and in any case take a lot of pics when daddy is around...also daddy needs to compensate for his lost time with the kids with gifts etc...get the dad to be more proactive..their his children as well....besides if a man wants to connect he will find a way so dont use any excuses...
2007-03-24 20:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by drdevangishah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont quite get this...Does he ever come home??? Have your husband sit down and have a talk with them. Maybe he can show them his truck and some things that he got while on the road or something like that.
2007-03-24 20:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but a job is a job.
Does he send money for support the kids?
Consider yourself lucky if he does!
Also consider yourself lucky your husband/father is not in Afganistan or Iraq!
Theres a chance he will not come home from "over there"!
I do feel for you, but their are so many others!
Some kids will never see their father again.
2007-03-24 21:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by oldster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids are not kids, they are little people. they are smarter than you think. tell the truth. what is wrong with that? kids know when you lie.
2007-03-24 23:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by j_mang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋