My friend loves to humiliate me!! (We are adults, not teens!!)?

Question

She makes liitle comments about me being "shy" with men! I am not shy!!!! (I am just reserved in general; for example I do not use strong language in general conversation, stuff like that.) But I am totally normal with men!! Her comments hurt bec I USED to be shy, had to work hard to overcome it. She makes me feel like I'm still back at Square One, 16 years old again. Why does my friend make fun of me?? We are full-grown adult women here, not teenagers. And, she is an exceptionally intelligent, accomplished woman, a former psychiatrist for God's sake. What is her problem?? What should I do? I feel ridiculous confronting her on this...

She LOVES to embarrass me!!! Is that normal?? What kind of a friendship is this? (I'm not being too sensitive, believe me; she teases me to death, with her "witty" word choices, etc) for example, "What passion!" also called it "a torrid affair" but she also just about laughs her head off. I do not see the humor in this.

Answer 1

FRIEND? Somebody clearly is confused as to what that is... and it isn't just the abuser... it's the enabler too... abuse does not exist without a enabler. Like - you can't get drunk without the alcohol. This has been going on way too long - educated or not, she's got problems - leave the game. There are no winners, but you don't have to be the looser.

Answer 2

I can't imagine why a good friend would want to make another friend feel uncomfortable, self conscious or humiliated, unless the friend was unaware they were hurting someones feelings. The people who do it maliciously are not the kind of people I like to surround myself with. It's hard enough to get through life without being constantly criticized or belittled by those we care for.

It sounds like you've been friends a long time. Discuss your feelings with her in a firm way. She may not even realize she is doing it, so talking about it may help her out as well. If she isn't receptive to this approach, just break away and quit spending time with her.

Answer 3

Psychiatrists are not common people. Psychiatrists have a different point of view than the rest of society:
“A recent survey in the UK found that 83 per cent of psychiatrists thought that ECT( Electroconvulsive therapy) was more likely to be beneficial than harmful – this figure fell to 69 per cent of mental health nurses and 14 per cent of psychologists.”
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electroconvulsive_therapy

So how come Psychiatrists have such a different point of view than Psychologists and the rest of society?
Whereas Psychologists confronts the human mind or psyche and understand that each person behaviors is an evolution of his own personal experiences. Psychiatrists are unable to confront the human psyche; Psychiatrists don’t care about your emotional issues or traumas; Psychiatrists only deal with man as an object, a biomechanical machine incapable of controlling his mental processes.

How else can you explain Psychiatry barbaric treatments? Like Electroconvulsive therapy, Lobotomies, strait jackets and severe drugging of patients. For them you are not a person; for them you are only a biomechanical machine. People that join the Psychiatric profession do it in order to learn to deal with man in a mechanical way.

The real role of Psychiatry in society is that they are psyche executioners of society. Whenever a person doesn’t conform with the behavioral rules of society they can be sent to a Psychiatrist. And the Psychiatrist enforces the person to conform by the use of multiple control mechanisms; these mechanisms are drugs, electroshock, lobotomies and incarceration (When you are committed into a Psychiatric hospital against your will you are being incarcerated and your freedom is taken away from you. After this the patients are so scared that they will do anything in order to get out of that place.).
The behavioral rules of society are clearly expressed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders published by the American Psychiatric Association.

http://www.drugawareness.org/
http://www.adhdfraud.org/
http://www.escapefrompsychiatry.org/
http://www.antipsychiatry.org/
http://www.mindfreedom.org/
http://www.endofshock.com/
http://www.stopshrinks.org/
http://www.gwenolsen.com/
http://psychrights.org
http://www.prescriptionsuicide.com/
http://www.breggin.com/
http://www.healthyskepticism.org/
http://www.aspire.us/

Answer 4

Yet confront her you must. She needs to hear once and outloud that this behavior makes you uncomfortable. It is not for her to decide if something is humiliating, but only for the person to whom it is being directed. Short of an apology and her continued vigilance to refrain from this behaior, she is not your friend and you must move on from this relationship.
The only other possibility, though very very improbable, would be that you are being too sensitive to her style of communication. Ask another friend if that may be a possibility. However if this woman is sincerely a friend she will become more sensitive to your feelings when talking to you.

Answer 5

Sit her down and tell her how you feel and tell her you do not want her to continue, if she does she will have to find a new friend to torture because you are done...

Answer 6

If you want to keep her "friendship" then you have to bring it up. If you don't then you aren't really friends anyway, so it shouldn't matter.

Answer 7

Confront her or avoid her...
You need not put up with this..

Answer 8

she's a *****. get new friends.