a guy from abroad proposed me thru' matrimonials and he has emotionally drained me out for the past one year promising marriage. but he never turned up and revealed that he is married and has children. recently after persistent efforts i have got his residential phone number. what should i do. should i take revenge. should i tell his wife about this. even now he says i wil marry you. by his talk he never appears to be remorseful of his deeds. what are your opinions. i have lost one year of my life hanging on to him. i have become maladaptive now. i feel very spiteful. i decide to go with the majority. please post all your opinions.
2007-03-24 19:49:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now this guy is from abroad & he cheated you no doubt about it. Now what revenge you can take? Tell his wife. Are you sure the person whom you call on the phone number he has given you as his residential telephone number is actually that & the person/lady with whom you speak is actually his wife. Such people never give the correct residential/official address or telephone numbers as the know they are cheating some one who can take legal action against them for the offence of cheating by impersonation. So best course is to forget such a person, search a suitable match locally so that you can verify his credentials/status easily, & don’t get befooled by the sweet talks which such people do online chatting or emailing, just meet the person in person & take decision.
2007-03-25 23:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear, just feel that this past year is a dream and try to go ahead with other plans. Life is not the end for you. Learn from your mistakes and please do not trust any unknown individual either a male or a female. If you call his house and if he is in a very high earning position, they might turn the table on you saying that you are blackmailing him for his money. The law is corrupted and so is the entire machinery. Thank God he did not physically abuse you or cheat you, so move off silently. He will reap the consequence one day or the other, as we have to tally the balance sheet of our life before we leave this world and this is sure. So may God Bless you for a nice and happy future, but always do such meetings with a responsible and elderly person who will be a moral support to you. Bye..
2007-03-25 17:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jus4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you get away from him. If he's been married and divorced...whether divorced or not. Get away. I wouldn't marry a man that won't get his head out of his butt, and can't keep a promise. Obviously he wants sex but no marriage. But I'm not saying he wants to use his ****, or wants sex for money. I would say he wants money... He might say "Marriage next week", but then it doesn't happen. I would've left by the first promise broken. Oh and by the way, I am a female. If you lost a year of life because of him, then you need to leave. I might have no say in what I am saying but you know, you just need to pack up and leave him. Hope I helped some.
2007-03-25 03:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by horse lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi !
The easiest thing to do would be to cut your losses and move on. You would learn to love and trust as time will heal your wounds.
But what about his wife and their children, you think she should know that he has been cheating on her? If you want him to be punished for his actions and you have any proof of his actions only then should you even consider this.
But be prepared to be cast as the "other woman" who lured her husband or even as a liar.
I hope you get the strength to go through with this crisis.
2007-03-26 06:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know its not the best thing to have happened. bUt look at what you have learnt in the process. An importnat lesson dont trust too easily. Being spiteful will drain you personally and may be telling his wife may not help you to feel better at all.
2007-03-26 04:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by milesofsmilez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your life that you are talking about and you of all the people should be able to guard it and know what is right and wrong. You should never blame some one who is weaker than you rather learn from others mistakes and not go out to revenge everything
2007-03-25 02:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by Adnan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did u waste ur precious yr 4 the person u did not know? And what will his wife & children do? Insted live this things & move ahead. Learn from mistakes.
2007-03-25 09:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by peacock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aji J, i checked your profile. You joined yahoo answer on 17th March 2007 and you asked first question for tracing the phone number of person who bluff you.
As per my point of view, frankly speak with his wife first and informed to his neighbour. Then informed to this person and tell him to stop harassing you. If he didn't stop than make complaint against him in police station and show them his emails. They will book him under Internet harassing. Try to hide your name because BADNAMI is also making NAM in society. If you like my words than don't forget to choose them as best answer.
2007-03-26 05:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by Human 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your nearest Mahila Mandal.
Catch that Guy and all of you give him a good thrashing.
Inform Zee News and Aaj Tak before embarking on this project.
2007-03-25 07:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by kzpc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't waste another minute on this. You have already wasted a year with false hopes. Stick to meeting men in person.
What is his wife and kids supposed to do with your info? It was all talk and no action, you know.
2007-03-25 02:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by Roberta S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋