What do you do when you want to give up so badly?

Question

I'm terribly overwhelmed at this point in my life. I've been depressed and lonely for and incredibly long time. I've seen counselors and tried anti-depressants and exercise and better dieting, and sleeping, and staying busy, and reading.. I've sought God. Nothing really changes. I'd shoot myself in a heart beat if it wouldn't hurt the people I care about. It's like I was born missing the part of the human spirit that wants to live. Is there any hope?

Answer 1

YES THERE IS HOPE! i know how you feel!! just hold on!! you'll regret it later on! find your passion, move away from everything (if you can) lol. but don't give up just yet,

tommorow may be the best day of your life
-Tom Delonge

Answer 2

Heavy. I think the most important thing is that you are not missing any human spirit - you care enough about the others that love you, and that is where your hope lies. Depression is a horrible thing. I know, I've been there, and sometimes I cycle back in. With me, it is cyclical and I too, have been to group therapy, tried three different anti-depressants and I guess the only thing I didn't do was go to God. Well, I guess it is never too late!

Whenever you are feeling at a low point, keep doing exactly what you did by posting the question. Keep seeking help - it is your key to survival. And we want you to stick around for along time!

Answer 3

Wow. I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling this way. In all honesty, each of us have varying circumstances and I think the fact that you've tried almost all of your options is a great accomplishment. You've already overcome your first obstacle which is admitting there is a problem. Now you just need to recognize where this is coming from. I believe counselors, therapists, psychoanalysts are all great advantages and I think you should continue to see one -- but, do not settle in seeing someone you don't feel comfortable with or do not see any real result within a reasonable amount of time. There is hope for you.

Another suggestion is to get involved in a charity or cause that you care most about. Some times, it's relieving to focus on helping others for a bit while you put this concern on the backburner. Not only are you helping others in need but you are also helping yourself by not putting so much pressure on your depression. There is hope for you.

Lastly, I'd like to suggest that you get your hands on The Secret DVD, book or audio.

Much aloha to you!

Answer 4

Perhaps there is a need for something else? I have felt the same way for quite awhile as well. I believe there is hope, but I feel that there is a need for a new direction. Medication only helps with the symptoms, exercise makes you feel better for awhile but doesn't fill that hollow lonely spot, diet and sleep help that is if you feel like eating and can actually get a good nights sleep. The key word that may give you some insight to find support and courage is the word "lonely". Find others who think and feel like yourself. Explore different ideas about life, living, after life and the purpose of life. Somewhere along the path of your lifetime you lost who you were. Try looking way back to your childhood, as far back as you can remember. Can you see yourself as a child? Do you remember who you were then? What did you like, not like and what did you do that brought you contentment. Was there joy in your heart. Do you remember some specific times in your childhood where you were happy? Did you have friends or did you play alone? What did you play at? If you were happy as a child, contented and had friends, then you need to figure out what changed that for you. Did you have a serious illness or an accident that left you unconscious for awhile or did you love something so much and then lost it? Think about those things and how they changed you, what did you learn from them. If you were quiet, lonely and liked to swing on your swing set, or colour in your cowboy colour book then it is time you found a swing or a colouring book. Start again, but don't do it alone this time. Find others that like to do that stuff too. For starters try being with children, watch them learn, teach them fun things to do, notice the quiet ones and help them join in. Grow with them. If that isn't easy for you then try volunteering at an animal shelter. When you walk that dog, sing to him about how beautiful he is and how much you love him. Give the dog the warmth that he has been missing from humans. As you change that kitty cage, meow to the cat and tell her she is just the most purrfect kitty and that you love her. She too needs the warmth that she has missed out on. Just doing those things will help you to find the part of your spirit that wants to live. You need to live to fill in the emptiness that other living beings/creatures have because you know how awful they feel. You will also find you won't be lonely anymore. May you connect with the universe to fly higher than you have ever flown before. Yes there is hope.

Answer 5

You need to not give up! There are people out there that can help you out if you need someone to help you, think about how worthy you are, and how life is a wonderful gift. Counseling is good, dont stop going. Love is what you need to learn to love yourself enough to care to learnt to have peace within yourlsef. There is hope for you and if you need a friend to talk to, Im set up private, but request me and I will know you are serious to be able to help you with some positive advice.

We've all seen images of the cross. Ever wonder what the cross really means? What do you see there? Suffering? Agony? Pain? Death? Do you see love? it's all over the cross.

Do you question if God loves you? Look at the cross again and your question is answered. Every drop of blood that Jesus shed cries out, "I love you." by Roy Lessin

1 John 4:10 If you have a Holy Bible read it and Psalms 91, apply it to your life. For more Wisdom read Proverbs everday, for each day of the month, each chapter for that date. If it's the 1st, the 1st chapter, etc.

Jesus laid down His life so that you could be forgiven. No one could ever love you that much or that deeply. He waits for you to receive Him and His love today...

Answer 6

I had an indignant brother-out-law (my wife's first husband's brother) tell me once, "Have a good day or don't... it's your choice." I wanted to smack him in part, because he was right. Instead of psychotherapy, it has to do with M&M (behavioralist) theripy. We must decide to practice what we do want rather than what we don't. This was my first baby step. I began the "fake it till you make it" journey. Then came the realization that what we think filters into our subcontious mind. It doesn't separate real from thoughts, fanticies, or illusions. Everytime you relive a negative, it becomes another new experience for your subconcious to draw on for decision making. That was step two. I started learning how to live by the old axiom, "Talk about the problem only once to identify it and from that point on... only talk about the solution(s)." I put up a photo of my daughter at work. Everytime I wanted to ask myself, "Why am I here and why do I even bother?" I'd look at her face and tell myself, "I'd do this everyday for a hundred lifetimes for her." Finding a reason to go on during the dry periods is important. Everyone's reason is different. That was step three. Then I went to church and began to squirm. I wasn't raised to be a church goer. I treated it like tennis or ice skating. They sucked until I began to get good at them--so did fellowship. I showed up every Sunday for close to three years before I realized that something had changed in me. I was home. I was home and I have a huge family of people who care. This was step four... Sharing it with you (or anyone else) for the first time... this is my step five.

Answer 7

Yes, there is always hope in this life. If you are that bitter, give yourself a time to grieve.... but not too long, my dear.

You have to count your blessings, and look at the beggars and physically-handicapped and street bums, trying to beg for dear life. You are pretty much luckier than them.

Unload you emotional baggage. You can write a song, a poem, or just long list of how you feel.

Do it now and you are in for a big surprise.

Life needs not be perfect in order to be wonderful!

Answer 8

I listen to music. This verse from an "Everclear" song (Science Fiction) helps me keep going sometimes:

There is always one in every crowd
You see them when you think you're alone
It all just seems like science fiction
Nobody knows what they're talking about
So don't let go, don't listen to the sounds of all those people you know
Slowly falling apart
And falling down now
You need to remember
Life is always getting better
Life is always getting better
Life is always getting better
For a while

And even though I don't really listen to the band "Jimmy Eat World" their song "The Middle" is great too:

Hey, don't write yourself off yet
It's only in your head you feel left out or
looked down on.
Just try your best, try everything you can.
And don't you worry what they tell themselves when you're away.

It just takes some time, little girl you're in the middle of the ride.
Everything (everything) will be just fine, everything (everything) will be alright (alright).

Hey, you know they're all the same.
You know you're doing better on your own, so don't buy in.
Live right now.
Yeah, just be yourself.
It doesn't matter if it's good enough for someone else.

It just takes some time, little girl you're in the middle of the ride.
Everything (everything) will be just fine, everything (everything) will be alright (alright).

Hey, don't write yourself off yet.
It's only in your head you feel left out or
looked down on.
Just do your best, do everything you can.
And don't you worry what the bitter hearts are gonna say.

It just takes some time, little girl you're in the middle of the ride.
Everything (everything) will be just fine, everything (everything) will be alright (alright).

Answer 9

Grief I suppose is what I would like to give up very badly.

Ahhhh yes dear one there is always hope. It starts with tusting in the Lord. Not a supreme being, but the Lord Jesus Christ, King of Kings.
I will be praying your burdens will be lifted.

Ask Jesus to come into your heart, forgive you of your sins and help you to grow in his love. When you have done that, go out and help someone who is hurting like you. Peace be to you.

Answer 10

I remember when I was your age and thinking to myself, is this it is this what life is all about.I was so depressed and had nothing to look forward to. I was looking for someone else to make me happy it took me a very long time to realize that I had to bring my own self out of the dark no one was going to do it for me.when we are young we have our whole life in front of us and we think we have to be doing something at all times.We are in a hurry to get from point A to point B but why.We need to learn to relax and take a day at a time until we are ready to look a head and see all the good that is out there just waiting for us. Please you will grow out of this depression you are in .It does get better I promise you this just hung in there.