I have been dating the same guy for about 10 months now and I really like him. Thing is, theres another guy I met while I was doing this play, and he's a lot of fun to be around and he has a great personality and we've become good friends, and I kind of like him too. All of my friends think that he is like obsessed with me but I'm not really sure. He keeps on begging me to call him everyday but I don't cause I don't want to make my b/f mad. He's a really cool person and I hope we can be friends for a long time, and I'm afraid that if I tell him my feelings for him, it would ruin our friendship, andobviously my current relationship. I am just so confused. Please help..
2007-03-24 19:39:48 · 8 answers · asked by jessiPhS2010 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Despite your slight feelings for the other guy, you should tell him straight out, "I just want to be friends."
It works ... most of the time.
I know of a few personal cases where they stayed "obsessed," but they always found the one they were really actually in *love* with.
Like the saying:
Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, for the one you like will find the one *they* love.
2007-03-24 20:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jessica,
There will always be 'another' boy if you allow yourself to want one. It sounds like you're young and just living your life, but I would tell you this. Make sure that you don't think your boyfriend is 'the one' before you do anything else. In other words, realize that you will risk losing him if you go any further with Mr. actor. Only you can allow yourself to have those feelings. If you want to stop having those feelings, then don't allow yourself to.
Also realize this. Sometimes the simplest most harmless appearing thing can destroy something you really didn't want messed up.
Other than that, be careful and have fun and let the chips fall where they may.
2007-03-24 20:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by elden w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you don't.
I have been in similar situations and measured the pros and cons of each guy, trying to know which one I loved the most, even went to a psychic hoping she would tell me which one to pick.
I couldn't make up my mind and so I decided it would be best for all of us is I just dated no one.
And I still regret that choice.
Many times I'll get back with one of them, then I'll just feel too guilty and break up.
I guess the best thing you could do is try thinking who you'd rather spend your whole life with (even if you're not planning to spend your whole life with anyone, just think if you were stuck with one of them, which one would it be)
If that doesn't work, you should then do what I did. Don't expect it to be easy, though =/
2007-03-24 19:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by its just me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to bug off. Unless you want to lose your boyfriend when he finds out. If your in a serious relationship, you should not be looking for others. Unless you want a reputation as a sl*t.
2007-03-24 19:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to necessarily tell him of all of your feelings. Just be friendly, keep in contact. You need to have a lot of friends. You can have male friends and still keep your bf.
2007-03-24 19:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Puppy Love. It will wear off.
2007-03-24 19:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself very busy with things you enjoy doing. Hang with people who care.
2007-03-24 19:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by h-sum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go with ur heart
2007-03-24 19:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋