I NEED ADVICE IM GOING NUTS HERE, Im a 29 male engage to a 27 year female, were getting married next year, she lives in another state, shes moving here to my house in 3 weeks forever last week she went for the weekend for her birthday and i couldnt make it because i had to go to another country for a business meeting, so she went out till 6am, and her roomate had her purse so she couldnt get back in her apartment, and she went out with some friends for breakfast while my girl had no way of getting in her house she sleep over a guys house, whos a friend of hers that always
had the hots for her, but she reasured me that she doesnt like him like that she got back home at 1pm that sunday, she went out for lunch with him 2 days later, and shes been acting weird on the phone the past week,
is she sleeping with him, or is it just me being paranoid, ( DOnt forget she told me everything that she was doing and who she was with.
2007-03-24 19:34:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't really consider that proof, but just ask her if she is cheating. If u are having these doubts i wuold suggest talking to a marriage counselor before you get married.If you have doubts this early you would most likely continue having doubts throughout your marriage.
2007-03-24 19:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by mandy j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly calm down. even if she is cheating it is not the end of the world. now you need to see what her behaviour is like all the time. do not mention that you are suspicious. just keep a checkon her for a while. if this thing continues (ie, going to his house, sleeping over late, acting weird, meeting him all the time) suggest that you should invite him to the wedding (if not already invited) or make plans for you, your fiancee and the guy. check out their actions throughout dinner. don't jump to conclusions. what you have is not proof but just a few events. since she has told you everything and has assured you she doesn't like him it should be okay. be cool and things will work out fine. i am sure he is just an old friend and hse is not sleeping with him. if she postpones the moving in or the wedding, ask why and hint subtly around the topic of "Him". do not accuse her blindly, this will only be disastrous.
chill!
2007-03-25 02:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So where`s the proof ?? If u trust her and want to believe her, good, if u don`t, then u had better resolve ur problem about the other guy. True, she can have male friends and still be faithful, but sleeping over and then having lunch with him a day ot two later..??? Not exactly appropriate for a gal who is engaged. Discuss ur feelings with her without accusations.
2007-03-25 03:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like proof to me. I don't think you need to go nuts. Do you find her trustworthy in general? If so, this just sounds like weird circumstances. Make her an extra set of keys.
2007-03-25 02:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we can always trust our gut feelings, when we don't really know for sure. but if she is acting weird, and having lunch with him, there may be more to it than what she is telling u.
2007-03-25 08:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the roles were reversed would you have slept with the female? if not, why is your imagination telling you she did? doesen't seem fair without proof.
2007-03-25 02:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by sammyjk1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably cheating on you...
If not, she is incredibly naive, inconsiderate, thoughtless,
foolish and disrespectful...
2007-03-25 02:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE WAKE THE HELL UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YES SHE IS CHEATING!
DAMN U R IN SELF DENIAL!
THEY JUSTIFY IT TO THEMSELVES BY TELLING U "EVERYTHING" BUT NOT EVERYTHING. GET IT?
2007-03-25 02:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have proof then you don't suspect!
2007-03-25 02:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by randy oliver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her...........
2007-03-25 02:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋