he shows me no love what so ever and believes we need no counseling what should i do i feel like having someone at the side is that the answer .....at least till i can make it on my own
2007-03-24 19:29:22 · 7 answers · asked by shycat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't use your unhappy marriage as license to cheat. Go to counseling yourself to help you figure out your feelings and your options. You owe it to your children to try to work this out in an honorable way and if it cannot be worked out, then leave him in an honorable way. Let him look like the fool.
2007-03-24 19:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him? Were you forced to, was it because of the kids or was it for the money?
I am asking you this because women always use reasons similar to yours as to why they stay, when none of these were why you married him in the first place.
As far as having someone on the side...... I hate to toss bad advice but I can't imagine anything better than having the chance to flatter someone other than the person you are obligated to flatter. I guess the sneaking works for me.
I wouldn't recommend seeing someone on the side just to get your feet planted, that could be dangerous.
2007-03-25 02:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband feels that way and your unhappy then if you have a job then start saving your money, start looking for a new place and leave. Your kids may hurt for awhile but if you don't leave now it will be worst later on. I'm a kid that was raise in a loves less home between my parents and I was so happy with they went their ways.
2007-03-25 02:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sexyone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to depend on someone who shows no compassion. Even harder when you have three little kids who depend on you to be their strength and pride.
I would advice seeking a lawyer, or someone really knowledgeable in this situation. You might be able to divorce him, and still get child support. I am a guy, and I know I don't like when wifes bail out on us with our babies and we get to pay for them even when we don't get to see them no more, but I understand your situation (from what you told us). In this case, seek support from the law. I don't know if you meant that you're kids are in months or years old, but the older they are the more they realize what's going on.
2007-03-25 02:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by lycan_footballer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having someone on the "side" will only add to your problems you need to finish what you started with this one first. if you don't love him you need to leave and get a divorce first. don't make your children suffer for your mistakes because if you cheat and get caught they will indeed suffer.
lots of luck to you....i hope things get better for you and your children.
2007-03-25 02:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by dawggonerite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel its the same way with me and I am still looking for an answer.
2007-03-25 02:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by QTforlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get counseling by yourself they will help you!
2007-03-25 02:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋