...and you have done nothing to instigate it..like you don't brag or anything, but you sense that she is constantly trying to make her life look better; highlight her attributes; hint for complimints, make it seem like she has more money than she does?
My friend is doing this. I don't instigate anything, i don't brag, i'm quite modest and she is constantly highlighting things, that are so lame and stupid!!! I don't know what to do about it. She's a really good person, but its getting old. Any advice??
2007-03-24 18:30:20 · 9 answers · asked by C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had a friend that was like that. It took me a while to understand what was happening , I guess because i just couldn't believe someone would do the things she was doing. Whatever I did she did , if someone liked me she would start telling stories about him .... how much he liked her.She would get mad if I didn't invite her wherever I went. She cut and pasted my relationships into her life and I soon heard my words coming out of her mouth as though they were her own. There is much more to it but far too much to write. It was a little freaky to say the least.
I realize that this may be a little more than you are describing but i can totally relate to the way you must be feeling. I tried over and over again to be her friend but i couldn't take it anymore. I finally told her that if anything else were to happen that would be it .... I wouldn't allow her in my life anymore.Well , sure enough it did and i was true to my word and severed the friendship. Honestly , I couldn't help her and she was bad news . Sometimes you have to stop yourself and just do what's right for you. It was the best decision I could've made under the circumstnces and I look back without regret knowing I did my best.
We aren't meant to be friends with every person in our lives and some of them just turn out to be toxic. They will move on to find other friendships with people that can handle the way they are.You shouldn't feel guilty , you've tried to do your best and see the good in her . If it's getting really bad you need to tell her straight and if it doesn't change do your best to stay away from her. Better yet tell her that you are not compatable so there are no doors left open. I know it's hard ..... take care and best of luck to you : )
2007-03-24 19:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter went through the same thing with her step-sister (dads side) when she was smaller (7-10) She's now 18, and has dealt with this kind of thing forever. Consider this -it may be YOU she wants to b like. In her eyes your life may be way better than hers, so if she acts,dresses,talks like you...she can be more like you...her life will be more like yours...her life will be better.
Talk to her privately and ask her why she does this. In the same tone you would ask her why she likes the colours she does. You know...not accusing or judging. She will categorically deny it, point out instances, and if she says it's just a coincidence...agree with her how weird that is, and hopefully she'll stop. Thus saving face, & you can stop being creeped out. If it continues, talk to her again...and don't back down. Don't give her an out...good luck...maybe she'll find someone else "to emulate"
2007-03-25 05:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Tiilynn♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds bad but drop her. If she can't stand to be happy for you when you have succeed at something then she's not a friend. A friend is someone who is happy for you and praise you if you do a good job, you shouldn't have to compete with her. If you want to continue your friendship then talk to her about it, if she acts the same then let her go. You should be around people who support you and are there for you and not trying to steal your thunder (in time of success). Good Luck!
2007-03-24 19:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend was the exact same way with me only I was getting sucked into the vortex she created. I couldn't help it but to do the same because it got all of my nerves so bad, I was being so childish. In the end I just started to see her less until we grew apart. I miss being her friend but I can't really say it impacted my life much.
2007-03-24 18:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by wish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either be honest with her about it or see less of her if it bothers you. Personally people like her annoy me and I just stay away from them.
My sister knows someone like her who always has to have what she has...so she will tell her she bought something (expensive), and her friend will suddenly get one.
Your friend is really insecure but Im not one for babysitting everyones insecurities otherwise you end up falling into their bottomless pit of neediness and it drains you.
2007-03-24 18:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who's just like that actually and there really isnt much you can do I know with my friend she gets angry if you dissagree with her or point out one of her flaws...you might just have to accept her the way she is...but if it gets really bad then you should try and sit down and talk with her about it
2007-03-24 18:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Charlotte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I even have the right comparable situation different than shes not as rude as your buddy. She is doing this because of the fact she thinks you're truly cool and she or he needs to truly deliver you down so she will extra advantageous, so perhaps she will sense stable approximately herself. tell her that this is rude, adn purely forget approximately approximately her, you're extra advantageous than that and no person would desire to attempt to place you off. :)
2016-11-23 14:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by keanum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes jealous of you, friends are your enemies with secret identities
2007-03-24 18:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by Youll See 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Competition?
All you can do is keep wishing!
2007-03-24 18:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋